Is porn a threat to marriage? The GOP thinks so...

Tessa Taboo Tessa Taboo
This is my newest article on SexIs... I'm seriously so irritated that they are worrying about things like this, when there are bigger issues at hand!
08/28/2012
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I was gonna respond, but I mentioned this to my husband and I like his response to the quote you had better: "So don't get with someone who has normal sex." HA. Love him.

I've watched pleeeentyyyy of porn. I don't like normal sex, I like kinky sex. I'm surely the biggest threat to whatever idea of marriage these people seem to have.
08/28/2012
Yaoi Pervette (deleted) Yaoi Pervette (deleted)
Prudish conservative types having been blaming porn for a variety of social ills for decades. Unfortunately, sociological and psychological studies on these problems never find any connection between them and porn. Studies generally support the notion that in most cases porn just harmless fun for consenting adults.

I think those who are "addicted" to porn have the types of personalities that predispose them to addiction in general. If it hadn't been porn, it would have some other thing.

I am willing to bet that members of the GOP have their own porn stashes as well. My husband worked in the mailroom of a courthouse, and even the most conservative judges were getting porn in the mail that they obviously didn't want their spouses to know about. Some of it was really kinky shit, too.
08/28/2012
Errant Venture Errant Venture
Their use of fear to control legislation - which, I feel, goes beyond the standard in politics - often astounds me.
08/29/2012
Rin (aka Nire) Rin (aka Nire)
I like that whole bit about how it re-maps your brain so that porn is the ONLY thing that'll turn you on. Really, now? Do they really think that people are incapable of being turned on by more than one thing???
08/29/2012
pixylove101 pixylove101
I think it's stupid the government is worried about this. I do occasionally watch porn. However, I have met guys who really did king of hardwire themselves for porn. Call it a fetish or what not but real girls weren't doing it for them. Porn was.
09/17/2012
Trysexual Trysexual
sigh...
09/17/2012
PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
I don't watch porn and it's not something that included in our marriage or sex life. That being said, I think it's similar to the statement that 'the love of money is the root of all evil'. Money isn't, but loving money is In the same sense; 'the addiction of porn is cause for concern' not watching it. I understand that it's often something that one partner will hide from another because of shame or the lack of being open to viewing it. In that sense, I can understand how that would be harmful to a relationship. But it's not the content, it's the hiding it that's the problem.
09/17/2012
bayosgirl bayosgirl
I didn't read the article yet, but I disagree that porn poses any threat to marriage, AS LONG AS both partners agree to it. If one partner is uncomfortable about the other watching porn they should definitely talk about it and come to some kind of resolution.
09/17/2012
P'Gell P'Gell
My reply to this good article by Taboo. Why does ONE person in the new "Moral Majority" get to determine what "normal sex" is?

I don't even know what they mean by that. I can imagine; a woman (as "normal sex" is probably only sex with a man and a woman) lying on her back, and a man lying on top. Two minutes of thrusting, internal ejaculation and.... you're done!

I LOVE that Romney has accepted money from Friend Finder!

Does this Trueman have proof for her "brain mapping" stuff? My guess is either not, or a completely different study (which has nothing to do with the subject) was hijacked to serve the purposes of the Far Right GOP. gag


Hmmm. I find it funny that Southern Evangelicals Bible Thumpers have the highest divorce rate in the USA yet want to define "Family Values" to the rest of us.

My Man and I watch porn, and we've been together for decades, neither of us have been divorced, and we have regular satisfying sex, and, he watched porn (when he could get it) when he was younger, too.... do we have "normal sex?" I don't know what that is. I get to come, so my guess whatever WE do wouldn't be considered "normal" by the Far Right Evangelicals.
09/17/2012
TheirPet TheirPet
This is absolutely ridiculous. Porn is harmless.
09/17/2012
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
My reply to this good article by Taboo. Why does ONE person in the new "Moral Majority" get to determine what "normal sex" is?

I don't even know what they mean by that. I can imagine; a woman (as "normal sex" ... More
"Hmmm. I find it funny that Southern Evangelicals Bible Thumpers have the highest divorce rate in the USA yet want to define "Family Values" to the rest of us."

Like porn they know it when they see it! "It's do as I say; not as I do" mentality.
I've watched porn from a very young age and had amazingly normal sex for many years...my EXPERIENCES lead me to try and desire kinky sex and I haven't noticed any brain remapping going on. I desire plain old vanilla sex just as much as I ever did. The same things that got me off as a young adult get me off as an older adult.
09/17/2012
P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by Airen Wolf
"Hmmm. I find it funny that Southern Evangelicals Bible Thumpers have the highest divorce rate in the USA yet want to define "Family Values" to the rest of us."

Like porn they know it when they see it! "It's do as ... More
Yep.

I think there is room in a lot of our lives for a healthy mix of "vanilla" sex along with a good dose of kink (if one chooses to engage in such.)

My Man and I also, at times have a plain old Missionary Position quickie. It can be fun, as well as bonding. Of course, like you and your men, we leave room for the Kink when we feel like this.

I don't think either of our brains have been "remapped" either. I had a pretty kinky brain before I ever watched any porn.

I do wish I knew what this person "Trueman" in the article thinks "normal sex" is, though. He uses the term a lot.
09/17/2012
Errant Venture Errant Venture
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
My reply to this good article by Taboo. Why does ONE person in the new "Moral Majority" get to determine what "normal sex" is?

I don't even know what they mean by that. I can imagine; a woman (as "normal sex" ... More
Can I see those divorce rate numbers, please?
09/18/2012
P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by Errant Venture
Can I see those divorce rate numbers, please?
Sure, the Barna Study is one of the most recent. Of course, the numbers change when people redefine what "Evangelical" ; ; ; ; means. Some Evangelicals don't accept other Evangelicals as "true" and put them into different groups, which can "change" the stats in their favor. Typical.

But, here's the lowdown.

QUOTE from the Barna Study

Denomination (in order of decreasing divorce rate)

% who have been divorced
Non-denominational (Evangelical) ** 34%
Baptists 29%
Mainline Protestants 25%
Mormons 24%
Catholics 21%
Lutherans 21%

** Barna uses the term "non-denomination al" to refer to Evangelical Christian congregations that are not affiliated with a specific denomination. The vast majority are fundamentalist in their theological beliefs.

Barna's results verified findings of earlier polls: that conservative Protestant Christians, on average, have the highest divorce rate, while mainline Christians have a much lower rate. They found some new information as well: that atheists and agnostics have the lowest divorce rate of all. George Barna commented that the results raise "questions regarding the effectiveness of how churches minister to families."

END QUOTE

It is also been proven that Southern states have higher divorce rates in the country, much higher than Midwestern or New England states.

A data search done by Cindy Hsu, Esquire showed:

In order from highest to lowest divorce rates:

1) Oklahoma
2) Arkansas
3) Alaska
4) Alabama
5) Kentucky
6) Nevada
7) Mississippi
8) Georgia
9) Tennessee
10) Arizona

Southern states have a divorce rate of 10.2 per 1,000 men and 11.1 per 1,000 women, according to the Census Bureau. The national average is 9.2 for men and 9.7 for women. (And if the state rate is about 11%, but Evangelicals are divorcing at around 34%, they are making up the lion's share of divorces overall.)

From a story from CNN and the Census Bureau: A Census Bureau report released Thursday found that men and women in the Southern United States have the highest rates of divorce in the country, while men and women in the Northeast have the lowest.
09/18/2012
gsfanatic gsfanatic
It's pretty fascinating to watch people condemn things that are optional. Don't like porn, don't watch it.
09/18/2012
Errant Venture Errant Venture
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
Sure, the Barna Study is one of the most recent. Of course, the numbers change when people redefine what "Evangelical" ; ; ; ; means. Some Evangelicals don't accept other Evangelicals as "true" and put them into different ... More
Fascinating. Thank you.
09/19/2012
Kenneth Fort Kenneth Fort
Quote:
Originally posted by Tessa Taboo
This is my newest article on SexIs... I'm seriously so irritated that they are worrying about things like this, when there are bigger issues at hand!
Too bad that unlike most other things, porn is never leaving again. So it hardly matters what it does.
09/19/2012
emiliaa emiliaa
What the hell does porn, or marriage, have to do with politics? People these days...
10/03/2012
ImmortalFantasy ImmortalFantasy
Porn ruins marriage if it turns into an obsession, but moderately it shouldn't.
10/04/2012
libra777 libra777
If porn is disrupting a partnership, It's not the porns fault.
There is a deeper issue.
10/06/2012
spineyogurt spineyogurt
No lol it helps!
10/06/2012
squire squire
It depends on the couple. Sex, or better yet porn, isn't necessarily harmful. What is harmful is when partners come together and have dramatically different world views on certain things, and don't seek to find ways to compromise. Might be silly to one but very important to the other. My my opinion, and I like porn, but if it's a problem for your long term partner then it's partly your problem if you care for them. Simple solution is that if this is an area that you can't be flexible, then don't turn your partner into a long term partner and be honest with your sexuality
10/06/2012
Rory Rory
Porn is only hazardous to our marriage if we are watching and I see my husband in the movie!
11/11/2012
xilliannax xilliannax
Quote:
Originally posted by Tessa Taboo
This is my newest article on SexIs... I'm seriously so irritated that they are worrying about things like this, when there are bigger issues at hand!
Not at all. Its the secrets and lies that threaten marriage.
11/28/2012
Martiniman Martiniman
I think it depends on the marriage. To many other things are legitimate threats to marriage, but the religious right feels the need to stick their nose in every body's business in the effort for control. What happened to the separation of church and state?
11/28/2012
Scythe Scythe
Quote:
Originally posted by Tessa Taboo
This is my newest article on SexIs... I'm seriously so irritated that they are worrying about things like this, when there are bigger issues at hand!
I don't think that Porn in general is a threat to anyone's marriage,what would be a threat or a problem is if someone (whether its a man or woman) is so caught up in it that they would rather watch it and do stuff on their own,than with their partner.
04/16/2013
kadelette kadelette
I just wanted to pop in and say thanks for the informative article!
04/16/2013
MrsandMrbunnysoffun MrsandMrbunnysoffun
I think that is so silly. Why on earth then would they be considered a marital aid? I can say with confidence that Porn has played a crucial part in some heated moments in my sex life.
04/16/2013
FieryRed FieryRed
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
Sure, the Barna Study is one of the most recent. Of course, the numbers change when people redefine what "Evangelical" ; ; ; ; means. Some Evangelicals don't accept other Evangelicals as "true" and put them into different ... More
Thank you for that awesome information! How about Buddhists, and other non-Christian religions?

I'd be willing to bet that the Evangelical/fundamenta list folks divorce more because of their views on a woman's place in a marriage.
04/16/2013
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