How to deal... with past "ink"

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How to deal... with past "ink"

MamaDivine MamaDivine
Ok, I know this is going to sound super ridiculous of me, but I have to get this off my chest.

My husband was married for a few years to a woman that was preggo from another relationship before he came along. He took on responsibilities of this child's dad and was a totally upstanding guy to her and her son. He even had their initials tattooed with this cross and heart/ribbon type thing on his upper arm/shoulder.

Now, I get that there was no way that he would have assumed that I would come into the picture years later or that him and her would divorce as soon as they did, or at all, but it bugs me to pieces when I see that thing on his arm while its wrapped around me while we're snuggling or with warmer weather, he's wearing cut off shirts.

He has told me soooo many times before that he wants it covered up/gone/etc. He and I have had two daughters together (one that passed away-which he wants a tat to dedicate in her name on his chest) and another living daughter that we had last year. And of course, my two from my previous marriage.

I know he hates it being there just as much as I do...but what do I do? We don't have enough money to get it covered up (they are talking about $200-300 to do something over it because of the size of his tat) or maybe a little cheaper to just have it filled in, since its just a black ink tat.

Should this bug me as much as it does? I get why he doesn't have our names engraved on his body-we're broke lol. But seeing that as often as I do, and now moreso since summer weather is here, Im kind of losing my mind. How do I cope?
04/02/2012
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Zombirella Zombirella
No, it is not wrong for you to feel that way, I would too. But he is with you now and that is what counts. You said he would get it covered up if you had the money and there really isn't much you guys can do until you can pay for it unless maybe you know someone that does them that would give you a cheap price. I don't know if paying with a credit card is an option but one way that you wouldn't have to pay in full if you do have a card you could use. Well I mean making payments on the card monthly.

I know they have lightening balm at Wal-Mart for tattoos called Wrecking Balm it is where they have the scar treatment stuff at the pharmacy. Not sure of how many treatments you would need or if one package would work.
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People have submitted reviews for it. It's 50 bucks a pop though. But it could possibly be an idea?

You say the name is on a ribbon? Would it cost that much to just have the name colored in with the same color as the ribbon (if it is colored?) or have the ribbon colored the same color as the name if the ribbon isn't colored?

My fiance and I both have each other name's on our bodies (his on my foot and mine on his chest). We did it like 6 months after we started dating (it will be 3 years the 9th of this month) and everyone has their own opinion about it. I was with someone for 4 years and never thought about doing something like this. It's just different with him.
04/02/2012
Sex Positivity Sex Positivity
In the meantime while you're waiting for the funds to get it covered/removed, I suggest a lot of sunshine with no sunscreen on his tattoo, especially since it is a black tattoo. Sun is awful for tattoos and makes them fade. Who knows - with enough sun, it could even go away completely.
04/02/2012
aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
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Originally posted by Sex Positivity
In the meantime while you're waiting for the funds to get it covered/removed, I suggest a lot of sunshine with no sunscreen on his tattoo, especially since it is a black tattoo. Sun is awful for tattoos and makes them fade. Who knows - with ...
... that's not going to happen. it would take years of exposure, many years. also, no sunscreen on that area could cause skin cancer.

i second zombirella's idea about tattoo-fading creams. he'd have to be very diligent about it though and apply as many times a day as is directed. it works best on colored tattoos only, however. black ones you're kind of stuck with.


trust me, i did alot of research on it for myself after a botched ink job.

i tried the cream and read alot of shit about how it could be very bad for the skin... potentially caustic, etc. then took the cream back. and just lived with the tattoo as it was.
04/02/2012
catsin catsin
This is probably an idea you won't go for, but just puttin' it out there... scarification will wipe out tattoos in a cinch. I'm not sure the price of such a thing and I can't safely recommend he do it himself, but it might be a cheaper option while you wait for more funds.

I feel your pain tho, that's got to be troublesome. Good luck to you.
04/02/2012
MamaDivine MamaDivine
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Originally posted by Zombirella
No, it is not wrong for you to feel that way, I would too. But he is with you now and that is what counts. You said he would get it covered up if you had the money and there really isn't much you guys can do until you can pay for it unless maybe ...
Thanks for the advice! I Will definitely be looking into that wrecking ball stuff.
04/21/2012
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