Need advice for exploring new things with sex.

shygirl27 shygirl27
I'm in a long term commited relationship. We have been together for over 5 years and live together. Niether one of us has ever done anything "taboo" or too adventurous as far as sex is concerned. I'm not sure how far I want things to go but I want to explore our boundaries. Just looking for some tips on good ways to try and open up the possibilities. My boyfriend seems a little shy and reluctant so I'm trying to be patient and respectful to him as well.
12/31/2012
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naturegirl naturegirl
What sort of things are you thinking about? Adding toys to your repertoire? Playing games and trying fantasy role playing? Or maybe going for something far more radical like adding a third party? Give us a clue and I'm sure there are plenty of people here willing to guide you! (I would be happy to advise you but we are going on vacation tomorrow and won't be back for 3 weeks)
12/31/2012
Trysexual Trysexual
Try playing one of those card games like truth or dare...takes the pressure off of feeling like its your idea.
12/31/2012
talon4196 talon4196
How about reading a book and pointing out interesting parts to him?
12/31/2012
js250 js250
Playing strip poker and then adding in 'favors' when you are anked was and is still fun for us....
12/31/2012
IvyFayette IvyFayette
Sit down with him and discuss things that interest you such as trying toys, bondage, extra partner, role play, positions, anal, and fetishes. If either of you are unsure of something or would like to know a little more about it, then google it or watch porn with it in it and see if that interests you or not. He might be shy, but that gives you the opportunity to be in charge and lead the conversation.
01/01/2013
MrWill MrWill
Definitely what MistressMisa said. Just talk about it! Tell him to come up with ideas he would like to try, and you come up with some of your own.

Then maybe do a fantasy jar. You both put an equal number of fantasys in two different jars, and however often you decide to.. take one out of each jar and go for it!
01/01/2013
pandasauce pandasauce
If you're interested in trying dirty talk, a good un-scary way to start is to tell each other how the things you're doing feel. Tell him he feels big inside you. Or hard. Or just "good".
Sometimes saying "You feel so good inside me" can inspire a whole realm of sexy talk that can really enhance your sex life.

Another thing I like to do when my partner and I fall into the same pattern for sex positions is to email to text him pictures of a sex position I want to try with a no-pressure caption like "This looks fun!"
01/01/2013
TheDP TheDP
The wife's secret was smutty books. She had a hard time engaging with the idea of what she wanted in bed and then spent a few days home sick reading lady porn. Changed things immediately for the better.

Other then that I second the talking. No guys is too shy to hear what his lady wants, and then once he's engaged in doing stuff to and with you it'll be easier for him to talk about the "strange" things he might like.
01/04/2013
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