Perfect age for starting a family

Contributor: Bunnycups Bunnycups
I feel I'm too young to start a family, so I voted based on how I feel for myself. Maybe I'll be ready when I'm in my early thirties.
06/12/2011
Contributor: Kdlips Kdlips
22-25 not to young or old
06/12/2011
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
It really all depends on when you and your partner are ready. My husband and I have talked about it and while we both want to start while we're relatively young so that we can keep up with our kids and hopefully have them out by the time we're retired, we also know that we want to be completely financially secure before we start. That means on our own, paying our own bills, with enough money coming in to support a family. Once we have our own place we'll reassess where we're at with money and all that.
06/13/2011
Contributor: Liz2 Liz2
I would have said, 26 to 30. But now being 28 it will be later. It all depends on the individuals and circumstances.
06/15/2011
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
There is no correct answer to your question. It's based completely upon the individuals involved. Some people should never, ever have children. And for some people, it's the best thing for them.

The questions you need to ask yourself before you have your first child are:

1. Are we financially stable?
2. Do we understand how this completely dependent human being is going to change every faction of our lives?
3. Do we understand the sacrifices we must make in order to raise decent, upstanding human beings?
06/15/2011
Contributor: daveysgirl daveysgirl
had my first at 18 next at 20 I am 40 and both have moved out, this is best way to go for me.
08/09/2011
Contributor: LittleBird LittleBird
I can only make this response personal. I don't know the individuals involved, and I don't know how they want to live their lives.
08/09/2011
Contributor: AndroAngel AndroAngel
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Originally posted by Ansley
There is no correct answer to your question. It's based completely upon the individuals involved. Some people should never, ever have children. And for some people, it's the best thing for them.

The questions you need to ask yourself ... more
I agree entirely, for those who want children, it's a matter of if you're financially stable and prepared to give up things you want for yourself for the betterment of your child.

Some people, like me, will never have kids. Some will have them early and be ready, some will wait and be ready, and some will wait and find out they're never ready.
09/13/2011
Contributor: T&A1987 T&A1987
Career and financial means are a better benchmark than age. If you can afford to spend significantly more money per year, lose even more by working less and perhaps have one parent go on leave or quit their job, depending on said parents wishes, go ahead. If you or your partner's career is still precarious, either of you are still trying to get your degree, or it's a job with working poor wages, I'd recommend waiting.
09/13/2011
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
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Originally posted by Redboxbaby
I agree with Chilipepper and Airen.

My husband and I got married when we were 19/21, we started a family 2 years later. We discussed it; we didn't want to wait too long and we wanted our kids to be out of the house (or well on their way ... more
I didn't get married until I was 35 and had kids at 37 & 39 - so I'm on the other end of this spectrum.

In fact I did get married at a young age - but having kids would have been a disaster. So the fact that I'm nearing 60 and their still at home is not the ideal - but it's the result of me finding the right person for me to have children with. So it is what it is...
09/14/2011
Contributor: arewehavingfun? arewehavingfun?
Ask and listen to the important people in your life. It also depends on both you levels of maturity.
09/14/2011
Contributor: Illumin8 Illumin8
I personally don't think that it's about the age as much as other factors. As many have said, there are people who are in their late 30s who are nowhere near ready, and those in their early 20s who completely are!
09/14/2011
Contributor: Dawn (Lilac Distraction) Dawn (Lilac Distraction)
I'll be 25 next month. I'm not married and have never been. I always had this plan that I would have a kid (or at least be working on it) at 25. I'm pretty far from that.
09/14/2011
Contributor: gsfanatic gsfanatic
26 to early 30s would probably be the best
10/09/2012
Contributor: glasskitten glasskitten
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Originally posted by kelaaa33wish
I think it all depends on the 2 people involved and not so much age.
Agreed. It depends on where you are at in your lives. It's not the same for everyone.
10/10/2012
Contributor: Beautiful-Disaster Beautiful-Disaster
It depends on when you're ready.. I'm almost 25, & I can't imagine having kids right now, but there are people my age that are already married & have 1-3 kids. Just depends.
10/10/2012
Contributor: Andrey2052 Andrey2052
26-30
10/10/2012
Contributor: mjtheprincess mjtheprincess
I agree with a lot of the others that it depends on the people. In my opinion I want to have an established career, a house, and a little bit of time to just be married and enjoy my man before we bring babies into the mix. He's 26 and I'm 20 and we've decided to wait to get married until I finish my masters (at 23) and wait to have babies until I'm 26 or so. I only want two kids, and I'd ideally like to have them before I am 30 so they are out of the house or close to out of the house when I hit retirement! haha,
10/10/2012
Contributor: Sirena Sirena
I wish I would have had my first kid at 25 versus having my second at 25. I think that as long as you have established jobs, no more schooling, and feel ready, then you are ready. However, fate has a great sense of humor, so you may become a parent despite all you do to not.
10/10/2012
Contributor: Intrepid Niddering Intrepid Niddering
I don't believe there is any one "perfect age." It's more whether or not you are ready for it. One person could be ready at twenty-three, another isn't ready until they're thirty-three. It varies.
10/10/2012
Contributor: LaSchwartz LaSchwartz
I'm 22 and i just got married we love each other but we need to spend time together without kids and to get our lives and careers ready before we can think of having kids but I would want to be young when i have kids. So I said 26 - 30
10/10/2012