If your SO went skinny-dipping with another person of the opposite sex, would you be ok with it?

Terri69 Terri69
We would have the fight our life...
09/07/2012
brevado brevado
My SO... probably be irritated, but not that big of a deal. Your situation sounds much worse though.
09/07/2012
amazon amazon
Sounds pretty slimy
09/07/2012
sexfairy sexfairy
I'm not sure... I'd be more upset about the fact that he didn't tell me than the fact that he went skinny-dipping.
09/07/2012
Calla Calla
I would be upset. My biggest problem would be your last point, that you told him you wanted to do it with him and he waited until you weren't there and did it with someone else.
09/07/2012
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
I voted cake - because I assume it to mean 'other'.

I wouldn't be happy if this happened to me - but on the other hand I trust my wife so completely, ti wouldn't take me long to get over it.
09/08/2012
Zombirella Zombirella
Personally, I'd be pissed, like beyond pissed.
09/08/2012
SadoMas SadoMas
ehhhh
09/08/2012
Sima-pusya Sima-pusya
I would be SO PISSED!
09/08/2012
pixylove101 pixylove101
I would be very upset. If he knew you would be upset over something like this then he should have respected you enough not to do it.
09/08/2012
squire squire
If it was with a group of friends, then I wouldn't care. If it was alone together then yea, she could prepare to be alone again.

For some reason I see that as being more intimate than kissing. I can understand a bad decision and kissing but full nudity when your in a monogamous relationship is a bit much for me.
09/08/2012
RedKyuubi RedKyuubi
I would not care. But I am very secure. I know my girlfriend would never cheat. Also to me skinnydipping is something you do when you want to swim but dont want to get your clothes wet and has nothing to do with me naked. But that is just my perspective. If that is not how your relationship works then I think anger is reasonable
09/08/2012
PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
Not telling someone something to me is hiding it unless it's one of those things that could easily slip your mind. This is not one of those things. When my husband has hidden things from me, it was very difficult to trust him after and not wonder all the time what else he was hiding. There was a reason he didn't tell you, and it was because he had done something wrong. We don't keep things from each other unless there is shame. Shame comes up when you've done something you knew you shouldn't have. He should have been a man and stepped up and told you what happened. What would I do if my husband pulled that crap, I honestly don't know. He knows the boundaries of our relationship and that would be beyond breaking them. I'm so sorry that this happened to you! I hope that you get it all sorted out.
09/09/2012
theothers1 theothers1
I would be upset, but I think it would go beyond simple jealousy. To me, this is a case of him disregarding your feelings because he chose not to keep you in the know. While it was in a group, I think he put himself in a situation where other things could have occurred and he did so while you weren't home. Yeah, it was a group, but there are a lot of unknown variables. If you communicated your discomfort, but he treats it like it's not a big deal, then maybe more talking needs to be had. Or maybe he really doesn't see it as a problem.
09/09/2012
Lioncub Lioncub
I wouldn't be pissed. There was a group of them and I trust my husband that nothing would happen unless I knew ahead of time. If I was with someone I couldn't trust then things might be different. Things like this happen when people drink, you deal with it or move on.
09/09/2012
Lavendar Lavendar
I would be pissed off! He was dishonest about the whole thing and hid it and he thought it was appropriate to be naked around another female. I'd be rethinking everything if this were my man
09/09/2012
SavingMyself SavingMyself
He kept it from you, which means he knew it was wrong, so yes I'd be pissed. If he had fessed up, I would be angry, but eventually let it go. The lie would be enough for me to break things off.
09/09/2012
(k)InkyIvy (k)InkyIvy
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Originally posted by travelnurse
If there weren't clear set rules, every one will push the limit. If you were home and he was working and you were drinking you may have done the same thing. Do you see yourself saying no no I cant have you guys drinking and I cant drink because ... More
The issue is that we have laid-out ground rules. This isn't the first time he's gotten drunk with his friends (without me) and had something messed-up happen.
Three years ago (I was 250 miles away, at college) he was hanging out with friends, just drinking and playing Rockband. One of his friends had brought this chick over because he was hoping to date her, but she decided she like my partner (fiance at the time) better. She ended up sneaking up behind him and kinda jumping on (and kissing) him when he turned around to see what was going on.
He didn't tell me about that right away either, but that was because he was so upset about it. He didn't tell me about the skinnydipping thing right away because he didn't think it was a big deal.

We agreed after the kissing incident years ago that we would no longer get DRUNK without each other. A few beers or something, just enough to get a buzz? That's fine. But getting so drunk you get stupid? Not when the other one's not there with us.
09/11/2012
Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by (k)InkyIvy
A few weeks ago, I was working a long shift (48 hours) away from home. Usually on weekends, my partner and I hang out with friends, so I wasn't surprised when he said a few friends were coming over.
I jokingly told him not to do anything ... More
I would be pissed indeed, BUT, once again, you have clear proof of why we don't drink (nothing but a choice..not religious or anything)...."they got drunk" in your story. Drunk equals NO judgment and NO application of normal brain power. Thus, I would be more pissed about him getting drunk.

Once he DID get drunk, you cannot really hold him to account for what he did. Sorry...just the way I see it.

I am past fifty now,and STILL don't understand the attraction of "drinking and losing control". Makes NO sense to me and sure as hell does not sound fun, in any way, shape or form.

Oh well...that's not my problem. Hope you work it out.
09/11/2012
Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by TheirPet
Yeah, my biggest issue is why he didn't tell you. My partner always confides in me. And usually before my partner does something they think is risque they always tell me first.
Except, again, with alcohol blunted judgment. The rules don't hold if your brain cannot process the rules. When driving, you stay awake. Drunk people fall asleep and crash cars. Happens every day. The OBVIOUS rule is "STAY AWAKE when driving", yet alcohol blunts THAT basic judgment call, so how can you expect a concept like "no skinny dipping", ESPECIALLY since the thought was in his mind from a conversation a few days back, to be met with sound judgment and decision making????
09/11/2012
Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by Kitka
Under the circumstances you listed I would be very pissed off about the whole situation.

Sorry to hear that this happened, hopefully you get it worked out with him.
You said it best!!!
09/11/2012
Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by freud13
I would be upset not so much that it happened, but that your partner did not talk to you about it after it happened. Open communication is essential in a relationship to me.
The guy might not even remember a lot about it, and if he does, he was probably ashamed it happened or KNEW she would be angry. Either way, he was protecting his behind.
09/11/2012
Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by ToyGeek
I'd be about the same level of annoyed as if he'd seen a movie I wanted to see without me, assuming I had said I wanted to skinny dip. Since I don't actually want to skinny dip, because I'm a big shy prude, I'd be glad he did it ... More
Good point too. Drunks DIE in pools. Seen it happen a number of times, in fact. (At least I saw the after effects).
09/11/2012
Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by Terri69
We would have the fight our life...
This is so funny. The responses here are SO mixed. From "no big deal" to your "fight of our life". Goes to show there are a LOT of different ideas people have on EF about how relationships should work and WOW are those different and unique.
09/11/2012
Sundae Sparkles Sundae Sparkles
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Originally posted by Beck
I would be so pissed too! I wouldn't be pissed about the act of actually do that because I would likely do it to, but I wouldn't if I knew my partner wouldn't be happy about it. Then, he doesn't tell you about any of it? WTF? I would ... More
yep so true the biggest issue is "why didn't he tell you"

I don't know how your relationship is but if the shoe was on the other foot and I had done the skinny dipping and didn't bother to tell my BF when he found out It would be over for sure
09/11/2012
unfulfilled unfulfilled
I voted cake because I would be irritated that he knew I wanted to skinnydip and excluded me, but the whole skinny dipping with other males and one female isn't that bad. After explaining the other situation where he knows not to get drunk, I'd be upset about that.
09/11/2012
FallFire FallFire
Not okay for all of the things mentioned in your breakdown. To me, it would be over before I even had a chance to post it here. Hope you make a decision that makes you feel peaceful.
09/11/2012
charleswifey charleswifey
he would die!
09/11/2012
SMichelle SMichelle
I'd be upset that he didn't tell me, but I wouldn't be upset about the situation itself.
09/11/2012
Vaginas Vaginas
this would honestly piss me the fuck off. especially because he didn't bother to tell you. I mean maybe he was drunk enough not to remember but come on. I would be upset defiantly. unless I'm in the group too or something, it wouldn't be okay. idk
09/11/2012
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