What to do after poly play

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What to do after poly play

mailroomorder mailroomorder
I just had my first ever poly experience. My significant other and I met a lovely person and engaged in poly sex. What is the proper manners after this? Should we text/call/email this person and thank them for it? Or should we never talk again? Is it okay ro bring up possibly engaging in fun again?
06/22/2013
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Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
Quote:
Originally posted by mailroomorder
I just had my first ever poly experience. My significant other and I met a lovely person and engaged in poly sex. What is the proper manners after this? Should we text/call/email this person and thank them for it? Or should we never talk again? Is it ...
Interesting question! I would like to know this, too!
06/22/2013
KrissyNovacaine KrissyNovacaine
Always contact them. Always check in. If you enjoyed yourselves then express that and tell them if you would like it to happen again.
06/22/2013
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by mailroomorder
I just had my first ever poly experience. My significant other and I met a lovely person and engaged in poly sex. What is the proper manners after this? Should we text/call/email this person and thank them for it? Or should we never talk again? Is it ...
What would you do if your friend came over for dinner and you had a lovely time? Would you call and say, "Hey, we had a great time, thanks for coming?" or would you never speak again? A nice thanks for the great time is usually appreciated and adding that you'd love to meet up again for coffee or dinner is a nice way of saying that you'd like to have a relationship with the person. It also indicates there is no damage done and you guys are happy to have spent time with the person. As Krissy said you should really check in and be sure that everything is ok and the person knows you did have a great time.

Now if the person indicated they were just there for one time then remember them fondly and if you meet in person again smile and say hi.
Our rule is, we let the person who is outside our triad ask if they want another go 'round. This keeps us from looking like creepers.
06/25/2013
Ansley Ansley
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
What would you do if your friend came over for dinner and you had a lovely time? Would you call and say, "Hey, we had a great time, thanks for coming?" or would you never speak again? A nice thanks for the great time is usually appreciated ...
Good rule!
06/25/2013
Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
Good to know that being your basic, polite self is fine. I haven't been in a poly situation, but would like to try. It's always good to know the way things work, so you don't make a grievous faux pas. At least it is for me; gosh, I hate not knowing what is & isn't expected/accepted. And I hate unintentionally offending people I care about - intentionally, is another matter, lol!
06/25/2013
TJax TJax
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
What would you do if your friend came over for dinner and you had a lovely time? Would you call and say, "Hey, we had a great time, thanks for coming?" or would you never speak again? A nice thanks for the great time is usually appreciated ...
That sounds perfectly reasonable, and considerate. I think this is about the route I would go too.
06/29/2013
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