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Does cheaing = cuckolding?
What's the difference? Is there one?
That is a great question JR for many people cheating is a component of the cuckolding experience...indeed it was the word for cheating in most countries for the longest time.
The word refers to having a child and claiming it to be the spouses offspring...like a cuckoo laying an egg in another bird's nest but then so is the Biblical definition of adultery. The act of having a son and claiming the man you are married too is the father when he is not and without his permission is the definition of adultery...and also cuckoldry.
Historically an older man would marry a young woman and with or without his permission she would have numerous sexual affairs earning him the title of "Cuckold". If he was sporting he might wear antlers of deer or moose to proclaim how "horny" he was....if he was not then she could suffer horrible consequences! This was such a large "joke" in times past that am man merely had to walk into a room with antlers on his head to start the knowing chuckles or leers. The obvious ridicule of the pagan practice of dressing in deer antlers to commune with Herne (and other antlered Gods) aside, this was a pretty common joke during the middle ages.
In our modern times I think it really comes down to the couple and their lines in the sand, so to speak. Cockolding is a term meant to be synonymous with cheating but like any word can have several definitions as time progresses. I guess if you like the term and are comfortable with the practice then cuckold might be a sexy way of describing a man who is sexually monogamous with a woman who is not....AND could possibly be used to describe ANYONE who is sexually monogamous with a non-monogamous partner. Take away the negative connotations and you simply have a label.