Saying "Daddy"

Bittenflame Bittenflame
It is a famous saying to call your man daddy while doing the deed. I find this extremely fucked up. I would like to see what others think about it, and to gain more insight
07/01/2012
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Quote:
Originally posted by Bittenflame
It is a famous saying to call your man daddy while doing the deed. I find this extremely fucked up. I would like to see what others think about it, and to gain more insight
That's fine if other people like it, but for me personally that is one thing I can never do. Even if a partner really liked it, that is one thing I just cannot do and would not feel comfortable with at all.
07/01/2012
sktb0007 sktb0007
I don't really consider it "fucked up", it's just not something I'd feel comfortable saying. My partner was joking around one time and was like, Who's your daddy" and I'm like, "um... *insert my dad's full name here*" He was kidding around and it wasn't during play so that was good because I think it'd be a turn off for me. Luckily, my partner doesn't want me to call him daddy. It would also be kinda funny if he did since he's younger than me LOL!
07/01/2012
kendra30752 kendra30752
Quote:
Originally posted by Bittenflame
It is a famous saying to call your man daddy while doing the deed. I find this extremely fucked up. I would like to see what others think about it, and to gain more insight
Yea, it's one of those fads that totally creep the hell outta me and turn me off. I don't want to feel like I'm doing it with my dad. Anytime that word "dad" comes up, it brings my own dad to mind and well, sexin' my dad is absolutely disgusting so I don't like even the thought of calling my lovie daddy. Yuck.

I can understand sayin' "owner" like some do, but I don't and the daddy thing is a huge turn off to me. If my partner ever said something like "Call me big daddy" I'd jump right out of bed. It'd have to wait til' that thought wore off. LOL
07/01/2012
Sir Sir
Using that term is in no way a "fad."
07/01/2012
Zombirella Zombirella
I would never....it would just make me think of my dad *shudder*.
07/01/2012
solitudinarian solitudinarian
It's not my thing, but to each their own. Some people probably think the stuff I like is weird too.
07/01/2012
KrissyNovacaine KrissyNovacaine
Having had an abusive step father, I am not comfortable with it, but that is just me. I don't care what consenting adults do.
07/01/2012
Taylor Taylor
Sounds like I am the only one on here who likes it, I’ll try and explain how I feel about it. I know everyone is different, and some people might only like saying it in the bedroom, but for my partner and I it's a big part of our relationship.

Daddy/girl play is something that me and my partner have started experimenting with the last year or so. It’s definitely not for everyone for sure, but neither are most kinky things (think of petplay, owning or being a slave, etc.) That’s why they’re kinky.

When we’re playing I don’t think of him as my actual father (and I definitely have no sexual attraction to my father). He doesn’t think of me as his actual daughter, or even under age. So to me, the role of Daddy is different from the role of father.

I’ve always been attracted to older men and the my “Daddy” is about 20 years older than me and I’ve always been told I act childlike. So with our personalities and age difference it just seems natural to us to have an element of that in our relationship. I know I like the power exchange part of it and the nurturing aspect that is different and gentler than other D/s roles. He makes me feel safer, and more secure than I have in other relationships.

Is it “fucked up”? Maybe, but we don’t push it on other people, and we aren’t hurting anyone with it and I don’t think what we do in our bedroom should really affect anyone else honestly.
07/01/2012
Mwar Mwar
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Originally posted by Taylor
Sounds like I am the only one on here who likes it, I’ll try and explain how I feel about it. I know everyone is different, and some people might only like saying it in the bedroom, but for my partner and I it's a big part of our ... More
Thanks for the insight. I learned something today
07/01/2012
Boyqueen Boyqueen
In my mind there's a distinct difference between "dad" and "daddy". Simply put, dad being my father and daddy being whomever else. Same thing with "mom" and "mommy".
07/01/2012
pirata pirata
Quote:
Originally posted by Bittenflame
It is a famous saying to call your man daddy while doing the deed. I find this extremely fucked up. I would like to see what others think about it, and to gain more insight
i'm with you, i find it really creepy on so many levels
07/01/2012
Noelle Noelle
Quote:
Originally posted by Bittenflame
It is a famous saying to call your man daddy while doing the deed. I find this extremely fucked up. I would like to see what others think about it, and to gain more insight
I don't say it during sex, just at random at home. I mean it in the context that my husband is THE DADDY, and I am the MOMMY. (we have kids). But yeah, it could be a little creepy if we were to refer to each other by that if we were doing the deed.
07/02/2012
Bodhi Bodhi
I'm personally not into it, I certainly don't judge people who are though.

As someone I know used to say,

Whatever gets you off
07/04/2012
indiglo indiglo
Wow, too bad to hear so much judgment and negativity on this topic. It isn't "fucked up" or a "fad", as a couple folks on the thread have mentioned. My man and I have talked that way during sex sometimes and it is hot as hell too.

It has nothing to do with my dad or father - that would be gross.

But, let me ask you - those of you who think saying "daddy" is fucked up, do you ever call your partner "baby"? Do you really think you are having sex with a baby when you say that? Doubtful. And no one thinks calling your partner "baby" is fucked up.

Just a little food for thought.
07/05/2012
Scorpionwally Scorpionwally
Creeps me out
07/05/2012
babycakess babycakess
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Originally posted by indiglo
Wow, too bad to hear so much judgment and negativity on this topic. It isn't "fucked up" or a "fad", as a couple folks on the thread have mentioned. My man and I have talked that way during sex sometimes and it is hot as ... More
"But, let me ask you - those of you who think saying "daddy" is fucked up, do you ever call your partner "baby"? Do you really think you are having sex with a baby when you say that? Doubtful. And no one thinks calling your partner "baby" is fucked up."

^^Very good point here.


With that said, I don't do the whole "daddy" thing - never have but especially never now. I have a little girl who was sexually abused by her biological dad so there is absolutely no way I will ever be turned on by that one. But to each their own - definitely not for me, though.
07/06/2012
closed account closed account
i was extremely disturbed and shocked when I realized that it turned me on a bit. I was so upset about it that I looked for insight online. Much of what was said in this thread is similar to what i found, from both sides.

Once i understood the emotions behind it and how it is completely unrelated to either incest or child play, i became open to the concept. It is definitely based on emotion.
for some it might perhaps be tied into "daddy issues" but without direct correlation if that makes any sense.

For most with a history of sexual abuse I do not think it even worth trying out, even if the words pop up in fantasy. Yet do not be hard on yourself if you do.

thank you everyone for being open about this topic that is VERY difficult for many of us.
07/06/2012
SneakersAndPearls SneakersAndPearls
I'm pretty sure sex would stop right there if I said that. Turn off for both of us. However, I don't care that other people do. It's just fantasy. Whatever floats your boat.
07/06/2012
Beaners Beaners
I have a friend who is quite a "Daddy". He calls himself Daddy, and we've just begun calling him that too. While it is in a vaguely sexual manner, I don't think I could ever call someone Daddy during sex, that would just be too weird.
07/06/2012
JennSenn JennSenn
I haven't, but I'm not sure I wouldn't. I guess I'm kind of indifferent to the word in that situation.
07/06/2012
wes wes
sometimes i like being called...idk know why?
07/10/2012
Bittenflame Bittenflame
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Originally posted by babycakess
"But, let me ask you - those of you who think saying "daddy" is fucked up, do you ever call your partner "baby"? Do you really think you are having sex with a baby when you say that? Doubtful. And no one thinks calling your ... More
this is a good point
07/10/2012
authorzero authorzero
I've never had a girl say this to me, and I'm not really sure I'd be into it. "Fucked up" is a bit of a stretch, but it is a little odd.
07/10/2012
oneeyedoctopus oneeyedoctopus
My boyfriend's current pet name for me is "little girl." Largely in reference to my physical size, (especially since he's so much bigger,) but it also expresses affection and a protective impulse.

And I like to call him daddy, especially in sexual situations. It has nothing to do with my actual father, which would be icky. I guess I like it because it establishes a loving relationship with a power imbalance. And power imbalance games are ones I like to play.
07/17/2012
Zandrock Zandrock
I do not think it is that weird. Some people enjoy infantilism. I think though it is mostly a title for an authoritative male figure who is all knowing. That is what a father is to a child
07/20/2012
HB042 HB042
It's a turn on for my husband, and an instant turn off for me. I'll do anything for him, but that.
07/20/2012
BrittaniMaree BrittaniMaree
i have no prob calling me man daddy his nick name is JD so i call him Jour Daddy its hot for him and it makes him fuck me a lil harder while screaming it to him but were all different
07/25/2012
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