I've caught myself faking it a few times just because I don't want to make my man feel bad. Sometimes I'm not in it mentally or sometimes I'm just tired. Do you fake it? Do you regret it later?
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Fake it til you Make it
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I have, thankfully, never had to fake it, and not sure I would. Those times when I just cannot cum, I say "I just cannot right now" and that's cool, since he KNOWS he brings me to the big "O" all the time, and often MULTIPLES, he sure does NOT get his ego bruised.
Originally posted by
AriaRN
I've caught myself faking it a few times just because I don't want to make my man feel bad. Sometimes I'm not in it mentally or sometimes I'm just tired. Do you fake it? Do you regret it later?
07/28/2012
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I wish I had multiples!
Originally posted by
Bignuf
I have, thankfully, never had to fake it, and not sure I would. Those times when I just cannot cum, I say "I just cannot right now" and that's cool, since he KNOWS he brings me to the big "O" all the time, and often MULTIPLES,
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I have, thankfully, never had to fake it, and not sure I would. Those times when I just cannot cum, I say "I just cannot right now" and that's cool, since he KNOWS he brings me to the big "O" all the time, and often MULTIPLES, he sure does NOT get his ego bruised.
07/28/2012
I don't. If I don't have one, I say so. Hubs would much rather me say that I didn't than fake it. He once said that to him, faking it is a crime and he would rather me just be honest. He knows that whether or not I have one may or may not have anything to do with him and tries to give me every opportunity to have one first.
07/28/2012
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I guess I have just always assumed it would hurt my husband's feelings. And now I feel like if I wanted to tell him "hey it's just not gonna happen for me right now" he would think something's wrong since I've never done that before.
Originally posted by
SneakersAndPearls
I don't. If I don't have one, I say so. Hubs would much rather me say that I didn't than fake it. He once said that to him, faking it is a crime and he would rather me just be honest. He knows that whether or not I have one may or may
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I don't. If I don't have one, I say so. Hubs would much rather me say that I didn't than fake it. He once said that to him, faking it is a crime and he would rather me just be honest. He knows that whether or not I have one may or may not have anything to do with him and tries to give me every opportunity to have one first.
07/29/2012
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I would look into the book "I Love Female Orgasm". There is a lot of really great information in there that I think would help you out. There is an entire section dedicated to faking and feelings.
Originally posted by
AriaRN
I guess I have just always assumed it would hurt my husband's feelings. And now I feel like if I wanted to tell him "hey it's just not gonna happen for me right now" he would think something's wrong since I've never done that before.
07/29/2012
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Thanks! I took a look at the book and I'm going to order it with my next purchase.
Originally posted by
SneakersAndPearls
I would look into the book "I Love Female Orgasm". There is a lot of really great information in there that I think would help you out. There is an entire section dedicated to faking and feelings.
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I would look into the book "I Love Female Orgasm". There is a lot of really great information in there that I think would help you out. There is an entire section dedicated to faking and feelings.
07/30/2012
I don't fake it. I did a few times, when I started having trouble with orgasm a few years ago, and I "felt bad" that my husband was working so hard for no return. Then I realized I was promoting actions that were not working for me, and I was being dishonest. I immediately stopped. I had only done it once or twice, but it was enough for me to realize it was damaging to our relationship.
We always try to get me to come. (Unless it's a morning quickie after an evening marathon in which I have orgasmed, then I don't have to get off the next morning.) On the occasion that I don't, we're both disappointed, but we both believe being honest with each other is more important.
My Man is a grown man. He can take it if his efforts didn't work. He works his ass off to make me happy sexually, but is mature enough to understand that "that happens sometimes" if I don't.
As men get older, they don't come every time anymore It took me a while to get used to his saying, after a 2 hour marathon (with plenty for me) and his not coming yet, "Babe, I'm tired. Why don't we continue this in the morning." Then he's fresh and has no problem. It doesn't "hurt my femininity" if he doesn't come, so why would I fake it for him?
We always try to get me to come. (Unless it's a morning quickie after an evening marathon in which I have orgasmed, then I don't have to get off the next morning.) On the occasion that I don't, we're both disappointed, but we both believe being honest with each other is more important.
My Man is a grown man. He can take it if his efforts didn't work. He works his ass off to make me happy sexually, but is mature enough to understand that "that happens sometimes" if I don't.
As men get older, they don't come every time anymore It took me a while to get used to his saying, after a 2 hour marathon (with plenty for me) and his not coming yet, "Babe, I'm tired. Why don't we continue this in the morning." Then he's fresh and has no problem. It doesn't "hurt my femininity" if he doesn't come, so why would I fake it for him?
07/31/2012
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I don't fake it. If I'm not in the mood to then I will be honest with him.
Originally posted by
AriaRN
I've caught myself faking it a few times just because I don't want to make my man feel bad. Sometimes I'm not in it mentally or sometimes I'm just tired. Do you fake it? Do you regret it later?
08/02/2012
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Thanks for that reply. I never looked at it from that perspective. I need to just sit down with him and talk about it.
Originally posted by
P'Gell
I don't fake it. I did a few times, when I started having trouble with orgasm a few years ago, and I "felt bad" that my husband was working so hard for no return. Then I realized I was promoting actions that were not working for me, and
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I don't fake it. I did a few times, when I started having trouble with orgasm a few years ago, and I "felt bad" that my husband was working so hard for no return. Then I realized I was promoting actions that were not working for me, and I was being dishonest. I immediately stopped. I had only done it once or twice, but it was enough for me to realize it was damaging to our relationship.
We always try to get me to come. (Unless it's a morning quickie after an evening marathon in which I have orgasmed, then I don't have to get off the next morning.) On the occasion that I don't, we're both disappointed, but we both believe being honest with each other is more important.
My Man is a grown man. He can take it if his efforts didn't work. He works his ass off to make me happy sexually, but is mature enough to understand that "that happens sometimes" if I don't.
As men get older, they don't come every time anymore It took me a while to get used to his saying, after a 2 hour marathon (with plenty for me) and his not coming yet, "Babe, I'm tired. Why don't we continue this in the morning." Then he's fresh and has no problem. It doesn't "hurt my femininity" if he doesn't come, so why would I fake it for him?
We always try to get me to come. (Unless it's a morning quickie after an evening marathon in which I have orgasmed, then I don't have to get off the next morning.) On the occasion that I don't, we're both disappointed, but we both believe being honest with each other is more important.
My Man is a grown man. He can take it if his efforts didn't work. He works his ass off to make me happy sexually, but is mature enough to understand that "that happens sometimes" if I don't.
As men get older, they don't come every time anymore It took me a while to get used to his saying, after a 2 hour marathon (with plenty for me) and his not coming yet, "Babe, I'm tired. Why don't we continue this in the morning." Then he's fresh and has no problem. It doesn't "hurt my femininity" if he doesn't come, so why would I fake it for him?
08/04/2012
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That's how I feel sometimes!! I mean, I do orgasm with my husband but not all the time. My toys definitely help me finish but I don't use them all the time because I think they hurt his ego.
Originally posted by
unfulfilled
I've never had an orgasm with my partner(s). That's why I have my wonderful collection of toys I use them after I'm with my husband so I can finish.
08/04/2012
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