Husband and anal toys?

Mrs. Tickle and Giggle Mrs. Tickle and Giggle
Sooooo...

I am trying to find a way to get my husband to TRY some sort of prostate stimulator. I am not really sure how he would respond to that, and I don't want to make him uncomfortable. How do you bring that up?
07/27/2012
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research the benefits and just bring it up?
07/27/2012
Rossie Rossie
Can't help you on this one, my hubby won't even let my finger anywhere near his hole!
07/27/2012
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Start with a well lubed - well trimmed finger. It's free - I'd suggest trying while giving him a BJ. Do a lot of teasing first, the press lightly with the pad of your finger several times before trying to go deeper.

At each stage go slowly, pause frequently and reapply lube often.

Good luck - I had to more or less beg my wife to do this for me. She's use to it now and her technique is improving. Your interest should make it easy and pleasurable for him.
07/28/2012
Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by Mrs. Tickle and Giggle
Sooooo...

I am trying to find a way to get my husband to TRY some sort of prostate stimulator. I am not really sure how he would respond to that, and I don't want to make him uncomfortable. How do you bring that up?
First, use the ULTIMATE anal toy, the ONLY one that has ever brought MY hubby to a real P spot orgasm, and one that won't cost you a PENNY. That is your finger.

Ask your guy if you mind "if you give him an ultimate, mind blowing orgasm stronger then he has ever had before". That is a good opener...and TRUE.

Then explain you want to suck on him while directly stimulating his prostate. RESEARCH IT...but it is simple. CLIP NAIL SHORT (or off), USE SUPER AMOUNT OF LUBE...then add more. GO SLOW...very slow, as HE says he is comfortable. (First time is best with him laying on his left side, probably), or on all fours, butt up, head on pillow. You can lay under him to give him oral, while pushing in finger...which should AIM TOWARD HIS BELLY BUTTON.

I know some woman use gloves, but I never had had ANY issue with "soiling". Just keep a pop up "WET ONES" dispenser at bedside.

AIM TOWARD BELLY BUTTON and you will feel walnut shape and textured object. RUB GENTLY. That is the prostate. Gives my hubby a 15 point orgasm on the 1 to 10 scale!!!

Anyway, if you feel comfortable doing it, opening the play with a bit of anal kissing and licking sure will loosen him up too. We both LOVE rimming, but 1. make sure no one has to go potty (empty bowels) and 2. SHOWER together first. Great idea. Get SUPER clean. Start anal play, even with a soapy finger on his tush.

Once he is used to YOUR FINGER, then you can work other toys into the anal play arena. That is how I learned, my hubby learned and it worked great for BOTH of us.

BEST WISHES.
07/28/2012
Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by Gunsmoke
Start with a well lubed - well trimmed finger. It's free - I'd suggest trying while giving him a BJ. Do a lot of teasing first, the press lightly with the pad of your finger several times before trying to go deeper.

At each stage go ... More
WOW.. GUNSMOKE. I posted MY comment, before reading yours. YOU and I are on the SAME PAGE. EXCELLENT!!!!
07/28/2012
Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by Rossie
Can't help you on this one, my hubby won't even let my finger anywhere near his hole!
My hubby still holds my hand when we are out walking or in the mall, etc. He caressed my one SHORT nail, knowing it is there for HIS tush pleasure only. What a constant reminder of "I LOVE YOU" that is. It is SUPER hot, and only WE know what is going on. BONDING at no cost to me. It's great.
07/28/2012
Mrs. Tickle and Giggle Mrs. Tickle and Giggle
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Originally posted by Rossie
Can't help you on this one, my hubby won't even let my finger anywhere near his hole!
Mine either, I am hoping to get him into it.
07/29/2012
Trysexual Trysexual
Others have great suggestions. I will add this. Get a toy that is useful for both of you in this manner. Something vibrating. Give him a slow teasing BJ, massage (maybe blindfold him or tie his hands if you are both a little kinky). You could also get on your knees and suck him in the shower and use soap to lubricate and "wash" his as and slowly work your finger inside.

Back to my main idea:
When you suck him use the vibrating toy on his cock/balls/perineum. Gradually work it down to his anus and let the toy tickle it...get it wet discreetly with saliva or lube after a while...use gentle pressure on his anus without penetrating....watch for his body language...does he spread his legs? lift his ass? Use your judgement...this is very pleasurable without penetration...if you sense he might be ok penetrate him slowly...if not, wait it out and try it the next time. Ask him occasionally how it feels. If you have open communication, suggest in one of your wickedest voices that "maybe we should try this toy on your Prostate like you do on my G spot?"

Your average man has a fear of being perceived as as being anything less than a masculine tough straight guy...so it is important that he not feel judged or that enjoying anal play is not equated with him being labelled as anything but straight. He may also be concerned with you perceiving him as less than "normal" if engaging in this. I think this is one of the biggest obstacles men face doing this for men in a relationship....of course some men/women just flat out don't like the idea of anything in their ass too. I felt that way at one time too.

Of course you could just tell him you read how mindblowing an orgasm a guy can have with a P spot massage too and how much it would turn you on to do it to him...that might work.
07/31/2012
Mrs. Tickle and Giggle Mrs. Tickle and Giggle
So i tried the finger thing and nothing. I dont think my stubby fingers are long enough, so what do you what do you reccommend?
08/01/2012
Trysexual Trysexual
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Originally posted by Mrs. Tickle and Giggle
So i tried the finger thing and nothing. I dont think my stubby fingers are long enough, so what do you what do you reccommend?
something like this

get a grip
08/02/2012
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