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I'm agreeing with Gunsmoke here. My boyfriend (ex-boyfriend? not sure at the moment) is 14 years older than me and in his 40's. He had this problem at one point and it turns out all it was was a dip in his testosterone levels, which is more
I'm agreeing with Gunsmoke here. My boyfriend (ex-boyfriend? not sure at the moment) is 14 years older than me and in his 40's. He had this problem at one point and it turns out all it was was a dip in his testosterone levels, which is more common than you'd think around that age. The blood work and the treatment are pretty simple if that happens to be the case. If his levels are all good, it may very well be an issue of performance issues, which are for most, fairly easy to deal with. There are lots of options, so even with people that can't take the pills, there are other routes to try. Good luck!
Gunsmoke and Tori are so right! My Man is in his early 50s, and while we still have sex very often, I am certainly initiating it more than I ever was. Of course, I'm a bit younger than he is, and "hitting my sexual prime" at this age.
The T Level check is VERY important. Make sure they do the saliva test as the blood test is highly inaccurate. There are treatments for Low Testosterone. Also, depression, diabetes, high blood pressure and other health problems often cause a lack of interest in sex. He needs to see a doctor for a complete work-up. And the two of you NEED to talk and maybe get therapy together. I've been with My Man for @ 20 years. I highly doubt "nothing else is going on" to cause problems in the relationship. A poor sex life undermines everything else, and there is always a reason for lack of sexual feelings.
One thing, though. Viagra, Cialis etc won't make a man "feel like having sex" if he doesn't feel like it. It will help with "the spirit is willing but the flesh is weak." Meaning, it will help with erection, if he's having a rough time with it, but it is not an sex drive "fixing" drug. He has to want it for the drug to work, most of the time. For ED drugs to work, the man's drive has to be there.
Please get some medical help for him, and therapy for both of you. You won't regret it.