I had difficulty bringing my wife to orgasm, and oral sex was always part of the repertoire. She would have them occasionally, but they weren't spectacular as one would expect. She admits that even through masturbation, she had difficulty bringing herself to climax.
Oddly enough, we saw a commercial for KY Intense Arousal Gel, and decided to try it. While the gel did nothing as far as arousal, the "act" of putting something on her genitals opened a new world. We've always been very open with our communication, but as far as sex goes, we kept it to a minimum. We'd refer to her vagina as "down there" and cunnilingus as "kissing her down there". Somehow, with introducing an "object", made it less serious and more playful. It opened up the dialog laughing at each other as we finally called it her "pussy" and my "dick", and "going down". We immediately realized we'd stepped into a new realm. We immediately went on the net and ordered a vibrator. Without much research, we ordered the Lelo Ina and some lube.
We used the Ina as soon as it came it. My wife had an orgasm quite quickly, and it was the most intense orgasm she'd ever had. We made love for about 2 hours. It was heavenly for both of us. We're now having sex usually 2 hours at a time, 3-4 times per week. She has multiple orgasms now--3 in a row is the record!
Like idiots, we'd never used lube before we got the vibrator. (we're using a silicone-safe lube). The lube has opened new realms as well. We've done anal maybe 3 times in our relationship. Using only my saliva as lube. I know, I realize now, that was dumb. Using the lube, now, she's actually enjoyed the anal. (Vibe in her pussy, my dick in her ass). However, she doesn't want to do that very often for fear of losing anal tone. I'm ok with that.
I really get off on putting the vibe in her and watching her entire body writhe as she cums. This is a huge turn-on for me.
So, I know this is a long post, but my questions are as follows:
1. What next? We are so interested in trying out other toys, but we don't know what could be better than the Ina.
2. Is her concern about losing anal tone a valid one? She says that with lube, she has no pain and that the sensation coupled with the vibe is intense. I obviously love anal, but it's more difficult to control my orgasm, so it's not my first action.
I sure hope this is the right community for such questions! I appreciate your patience.