The Ultimate Massager
pocket rocket is a great toy. It isn't an insertable, it's an amazing clit (or anywhere else) vibe and IMO, the best in the pocket rocket category. Pocket rockets don't even look like sex toys, to most people and are acceptable to even shy women.
Not all pocket rockets are the same, though. The Nasstoys Ultimate Massager is absolutely the top of the line. And it on sale now.
It fits right in the hand and is as quiet as could be.
My first toy wouldn't help. I had been having sex for more than a decade and a half when I got my first sex toy, so I started with large toys that may be imposing to a young woman who has yet to have sex.