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Contributor: GDDYUP GDDYUP
I told my wife tonight that she "Might be driving soon.." and she said "Huh?". I showed her the listing of harnesses on Eden and she was interested. Bonus! I'm not new to anal play and my wife has been an interested member. Now she's interested in driving. I've looked at the different harnesses, read the suggestions and tutorials on Eden, but would like to ask the forum faithful about their opinions/experiences. I am pretty much set on the double-strap type harness and the ones I have been looking at mainly are the Flame, the Bend-Over Beginner, and the Vibrating Velvet. The harness must have an option for a vibrating instrument. I want my wife to have as much fun as I am having while we play so a vibrator is a must. These 3 seem to be the few that have that option. I can take 1.5 - 1.75 no problem and I'm not interested in finding out just how wide my funring can become. That size range for me is fun and exciting and these harnesses seem to fit right into that area.
So my questions would be..
Have any of you used any of these harnesses?
How are they?
Which ones engage the clitoral area better?
Which one is the sturdiest?
Which one would You recommend based on your experience?

Anny help would be greatly apreciated!
07/17/2008
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Contributor: Alt Alt
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Originally posted by GDDYUP
I told my wife tonight that she "Might be driving soon.." and she said "Huh?". I showed her the listing of harnesses on Eden and she was interested. Bonus! I'm not new to anal play and my wife has been an interested member. ... more
Have you considered trying the Tantus FeelDoe

100% silicone, Vibrates, and pleases both parties. (they come in various sizes)

People seem to love it here, and also have given it great reviews over at amazon: link

If 114 is too much here them you can always get it over there for 75, so I guess its just mostly personal preference of shipping, and how close you live to the shipper to get it the fastest.

There are some pics from CDGirls.com of 2 girls it, one has it in and the other one is taking it anally. link

The video is pretty damn hot and I would upload it for you, but I have a slow ass upload speed haha. If you want more pictures from that Hillary Scott scene I will get them from their members area and put em on photobucket if you like.

I cant give a personal review of this product, but if I was married or had a current gf who knew I was into anal play, I would try to see if she wanted to do it to me

Oh well... one day.

Hopefully this helps.
-Alt
07/18/2008
Contributor: Bulma Bulma
My husband and I are into pegging, and while I don't have any experience with the harnesses you listed, we are both happy with ours. I use the Jaguar and use a vibrating dildo that actually feels quite nice on my clit while in use. The Jaguar has a hole all the way through it, so the dildo sits right around my clit and the vibrations from our Perk dildo travel pretty good (although definitely not earth shattering) through the toy. Any dildo with a spot for a vibrating bullet should work good for this.

Also, we have the Feeldoe slim (light blue) and it works pretty well for us too. Just note however that some positions are more difficult to hold it in the vagina, and it does require strong vaginal muscles to use (especially when thrusting against strong anal muscles). Over all it is fun to use, but not as versatile as a regular dildo and harness (can still be used in a harness if the back is open on it, although I have not personally gotten the chance to use it like this yet) If you are interested Jimbo Jones has an excellent review here.
07/18/2008
Contributor: Jimbo Jones Jimbo Jones
I don't have hand-on experience with any of those harnesses, but it seems to me you have selected three that fit your requirements. The only one in stock right now is the Vibrating Velvet Harness. I think that is a good choice because it comes with a bullet and different size rings and you can select the dildo of your choice to go with it.
Some others that fit the vibrating requirement you mention are the Lover's Super Strap and silicone thruster or probe as well as Sophia's red rider. These do not include the bullet, but they all have a pocket for it. They also all include a dildo, but it the dildos are not the highest quality.
I would probably suggest the Vibrating Velvet because it is very versatile and allow you to select the dildo you want.
Some dildos to consider: Sport or Luxury by Tantus, Slim Jim, Delight, Perk or Big Boy by Happy Valley, or Mistress by Vixen Creations.
07/18/2008
Contributor: Viv Viv
the bend over beginner was our first harness about four years ago and it's still our go-to for most of our heavier cocks. it definitely lasts, and is sturdy, and the two dongs it comes with are small and average sized but high quality. the bullet they give did next to nothing for me though. i wrote a review on the harness for more about it.
as far as clit contact, i've found more luck with g-string harnesses.
07/18/2008
Contributor: Cock Wrangler Cock Wrangler
I would suggest letting your wife choose the harness, since she'll be wearing it... Though it's obviously a good idea for you to choose the dildo.
Out of those three options, the Flame and Bend Over are essentially the same harness with different size cocks and different prices, made by the same company... I used one of those long ago for my first harness, and it was fine.
Having a vibe pocket is a good idea, but also consider thong style harnesses- many wearers say that the middle strap give direct clit stimulation in a way jock style ones don't.
Also, there are some dildos that come with a vibe in the base, which would give her stimulation still in a different way- just something else to consider!
07/18/2008
Contributor: Cock Wrangler Cock Wrangler
Jimbo made some excellent dildo suggestions, btw... and you can filter by dildos that come with a vibe on the site for those ideas.
07/18/2008
Contributor: Essin' Em Essin' Em
A lot of people like the Latigo harness as a relatively cheap first time one, to make sure you like it and are into it before you start spending more on an Outlaw/Aslan/etc. But CW -- let her choose it, as she'll be the one wearing it!
07/21/2008
Contributor: Bulma Bulma
I'd be interested in learning which one you picked and if it worked well for you. I think it would be great for others who are starting out with picking a harness. And of course, best of luck to both of you, and have fun!
07/23/2008