Beginner vibrator?

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Beginner vibrator?

cheetahpita cheetahpita
I know this question is asked often, and I've looked through old threads about it, but I was wondering if you guys could help me determine the best beginner vibrator for a first time user. I've never had one before, never had sex, just masturbated with my fingers, so I'm not sure if I just need a clit vibrator or something more. I also don't know how powerful it needs to be, seeing as I've never had one before. I'd like it to be quiet, because I'm living in a dorm with thin walls, but I can probably cover the sound with music or something. Rechargeable sounds great as I don't have lots of batteries lying around (though I suppose I could buy them), and I don't need it to be waterproof - using it in a communal bathroom just seems like a bad idea :p

I've been looking at the LeLo Nea/Lilly/Siri, and the JeJoue MiMi, but maybe I should go for something less expensive until I know what I like? I've also been thinking about the LeLo Liv or Gigi so it could work as a normal vib and a clit vib? Too many choices!
08/19/2011
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Ghost Ghost
A lot of people will tell you that cheap toys = beginner toys, but I don't believe this is the case. Often cheap toys are louder, made of questionable materials, and don't last. As far as what you "need", we can't really tell you that. What I'd recommend is that if you are curious beyond clitoral stimulation, get something that is insertable as well (probably with a slight curve). These vibrators are also effective (usually) at external stimulation of the clitoris and skeen's glands, while also allowing you to explore internal vibrations.

The Lelo line is very quiet, with the quietest I've found being the Elise. While probably out of your price range, Elise is quiet, much larger than her brightly colored cousins, and stronger (but you can control the strength of the vibrations).
08/19/2011
Wild Orchid Wild Orchid
I think the Mimi/Siri/Nea/Lily idea is good. They have a wide range of speeds so they won't be too much or too little (Mimi and Siri are the most powerful of those). They are easily held, easy to hide etc.

I personally get off the best on cheaper or mid-range vibrators (corded bullets and smaller, handy traditional hard plastic vibes). They tend to be noisier and buzzier and some have limited lifespan, but I can afford to have several of them. From what I've seen recommended on the site I would check out the Ultimate massager, the X-treme G-spot bullet, the Calypso 2, the Luxe Rejuvenate, the Turbo Glider and the Velvet touch.

As for penetrative toys I'd look at sales on smaller silicone dildos and Tantus close-out sales (on Tantus' site). Maybe some slim glass (I'm in love with my Amethyst - it's tiny but never disappoints). They cost a bit more but they guarantee no adverse health reactions. In my opinion, the cheapest hard plastic can feel divine on your clit ('cause it transfers the vibes beautifully) but for vaginal or anal penetration you need some quality materials.

Whatever you do - stay away from jelly. If it stinks, it releases harmful chemicals. If you want cheaper soft toys, at least go with TPR - you sill can't sanitize it but at least you won't end up with a rash or something.

It's hard to find a good double action vibe on the first try, particularly if you don't know what kind of toys you like. I'd recommend my Butterfly Kiss (or the Personal Pleasuriser), but some people hate it as much as I love it so I'll pass.
08/20/2011
cheetahpita cheetahpita
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Originally posted by Ghost
A lot of people will tell you that cheap toys = beginner toys, but I don't believe this is the case. Often cheap toys are louder, made of questionable materials, and don't last. As far as what you "need", we can't really tell ...
great, thank you! Is there a big difference between Lelo Elise and Liv? It seems like Elise is a little longer, but other than that they seem pretty similar, and Liv is a little more affordable.
08/21/2011
cheetahpita cheetahpita
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Originally posted by Wild Orchid
I think the Mimi/Siri/Nea/Lily idea is good. They have a wide range of speeds so they won't be too much or too little (Mimi and Siri are the most powerful of those). They are easily held, easy to hide etc.

I personally get off the best on ...
thanks for the advice on plastic! And maybe I'll go for the clit vibe first, and get a second one for penetration...
08/21/2011
Ghost Ghost
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Originally posted by cheetahpita
great, thank you! Is there a big difference between Lelo Elise and Liv? It seems like Elise is a little longer, but other than that they seem pretty similar, and Liv is a little more affordable.
Elise is longer and girthier, and has about 50% stronger vibrations.
08/21/2011
Southern Lady Southern Lady
I love my Jenna's Kitty caress. It's quiet, slim, easy to travel with, operate solo, and has three speeds. I'm just now getting used to the 3rd speed and I have had vibrators before, and I'm sexually active w/ my husband. I do suggest starting w/ clit. Finding your g spot can be frustrating.

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08/21/2011
cheetahpita cheetahpita
Quote:
Originally posted by Southern Lady
I love my Jenna's Kitty caress. It's quiet, slim, easy to travel with, operate solo, and has three speeds. I'm just now getting used to the 3rd speed and I have had vibrators before, and I'm sexually active w/ my husband. I do ...
thanks for the response! I'm definitely leaning towards the Lelo Siri right now.
08/22/2011
Chul Chul
I'm in a similar situation as yourself, but I actually sprung for the free promotion that EdenFantasys had on their bullet vibrator despite wanting to start off nicer myself. From reading the reviews beforehand, it said it was strong and relatively average in volume despite being cheap and I couldn't ask for a better start, so I took advantage of it.

Although, as much as I want to recommend the higher end products by Lelo, We Vibe, Je Joue and so forth, I think it would be better to start off with that free promotion or perhaps a cheaper clitoral vibe, and if you are very curious, maybe a g-spot vibrator.

The reason I say this is because, you never know quite how your body will respond. I, for example, was always told vibrators were the best things ever, but the first time I used a vibrator, admittedly, I thought it was quite powerful and was more than excited, but by the end of using it, I had a very hollow orgasm and wasn't very satisfied. It took some messing around and understanding my previous masturbation sessions make it work for myself, and regardless of what toy you start off, you may or may not reach that instant success depending on numerous qualities of both yourself and the kind of vibrator.

So, maybe it's just me, but you don't want to start off with a high end vibrator and have the chance of not enjoying it or discovering vibrators just don't work for you, should worse come to worst, and having blown a huge sum of money on it. What you SHOULD do is start off with some midrange, cheaper vibrators of varying intensities and materials, and if there are any you are partial or impartial to after you are finished experimenting, you analyze them and decide from there what works best for you if at all.

After browsing around, here are my recommendations (aside from the promotion):

Silicone clitorial vibrator, 3 vrooms/2 bees: link

Silicone clitoral vibrator wired bullet/egg, 4 vrooms/ 2 bees: link

Silicone clitoral vibrator, partially insertable, 3 vrooms/2 bees: link

Plastic clitoral vibrator, partially insertable, 4 vrooms/2 bees: link

Silicone g-spot vibrator, 3 vrooms/2 bees: link

Plastic traditional vibrator, 3 vrooms/3 bees: link

Mind you, I don't expect you to buy all these things or even one, but I tried to choose things that had safe materials, decent bees and vrooms, were modest in shape and girth, and some, like the last, had extensive features like a variety of patterns for more affordable prices. Of course, I say anything is a good starter if it's under 50 dollars (for each toy), should you browse some more and find something that catches your fancy.

Word of advice, though, I did put in an egg/bullet vibrator simply because compact hand held ones like Mimi or Siri come at a pretty hefty price tag so, if you don't want to go with one of those, there ARE wireless eggs and bullets you could check out before splurging on one of the higher up toys. I didn't recommend any pocket rockets at the moment though, since those are better for travel rather than extensive use since they are flimsier and don't have as long of a shelf life.

I hope this helps! Sorry for the long winded response.
08/27/2011
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