talking her out of it

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my gf has asked for this vibe over and over. its really expensive and i dont feel like dishing out the money for it. can anyone point me to a cheaper vibe that has similar features that i might be able to convince her to lust for instead?
12/20/2010
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ToyGeek ToyGeek
Has she had a rabbit before?
12/20/2010
just a sub just a sub
yes she has had a rabbit. i think it was a basic rabbit from doc johnson
12/20/2010
J's Alley J's Alley
I can tell you now...I would never pay that kind of money for a jelly anything. You can find better vibes for cheaper. Here is a small comparison: link
12/20/2010
firekitten firekitten
I had a Jelly rabbit...don't do it. Just don't. Go for silicone and she'll love you for it.
12/20/2010
Shellz31 Shellz31
I would never spend that much on a jelly toy. But then I wouldn't buy jelly full stop!
12/20/2010
Kayla Kayla
I wouldn't spend that much money on a jelly rabbit. The jelly degrades, and depending upon what type of jelly it is, it could irritate your girlfriend's bit. (If that isn't a deterrent, I don't know what would be.)

I'd much more highly recommend getting a silicone-material rabbit:
link

Not all of them have the rotational head like it looks like she wants, but the FunFactory Paul and Paulina does (including a g-spot curve!)
12/20/2010
J's Alley J's Alley
I agree with the Paul and Paulina thing...it is WAY more cost effective ($112 for a freaking JELLY vibe is insane...DON'T DO IT), this one's silicone, has a g-spot curve, has ribbing...AND? It's freaking Fun Factory...which makes a more reliable toy than Cal Exotics (sorry...they do though).
12/20/2010
Adriana Ravenlust Adriana Ravenlust
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Originally posted by J's Alley
I agree with the Paul and Paulina thing...it is WAY more cost effective ($112 for a freaking JELLY vibe is insane...DON'T DO IT), this one's silicone, has a g-spot curve, has ribbing...AND? It's freaking Fun Factory...which makes a more ... More
Sadly, CEN does one thing pretty well and that's rabbits. Fun Factory has yet to produce a rabbit that is as effective as it is quality/attractive.

With that said, yea, this one is pricy.
12/20/2010
Tuesday Tuesday
Plus one other detail. Jelly smells HORRIBLE! You can't tell by looking at the picture. The one jelly toy I had I kept wrapped in plastic at the other end of the room and I could still smell it. I had to toss it.
12/20/2010
Emma (Girl With Fire) Emma (Girl With Fire)
Here are a couple choices in silicone, they are both purple in case that is an issue for her, they are relatively strong and the second still has the rotating head

link
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And some non silicone choices

link
link
link

You might also want to let her know that there are companies that do not even sell jelly products because some of the materials are questionable. On top of that she should be using condoms over jelly and it is not as easy to clean. All in all jelly is just not the best choice as far as sex toy materials go.
12/20/2010
Tori Rebel Tori Rebel
I agree that it's just WAY too much money for jelly. It won't last. If she's set on that super soft girthy realistic shaft, I can recommend this one (when it comes back into stock) link It's rubber so it's not much better than jelly, but will last longer, stink less, and has a much lower pricetag. If she's willing to give up some of the girth, especially in exchange for power and material quality, this one is awesome link. It's strong and soft and bendy and just an all around good quality toy.
12/20/2010
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
I disagree - if there is anything I've learned in 21+ years of marriage - it's that when a woman knows what she wants, go for it. It takes all the pressure off you.

What are you going to say when you buy something similar - it's cheaper - but she decides she doesn't like it (probably because you didn't buy what she asked for).

This isn't about jelly vs. silicone or anything rational. This is about what she wants - show her your not a cheap-skate & spend the money!
12/20/2010
ScottA ScottA
For that price you can get her a Magic Wand and a silicone cap. Stronger, easier to clean and much more powerful (no dead battery problem either).

Instead of "talking her out of it" talk to her and find out what she likes, then find a better option (and there are many - $112 for a jelly rabbit is absurd).
12/20/2010
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
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Originally posted by ScottA
For that price you can get her a Magic Wand and a silicone cap. Stronger, easier to clean and much more powerful (no dead battery problem either).

Instead of "talking her out of it" talk to her and find out what she likes, then find ... More
Scott - I usually agree, but not in this case.

What's absurd to you is absurd for you - not me and not just a sub's wife. Sure he may also want to buy her a little something extra like those you mentioned - but what's wrong with getting someone what they ask for?

I think it's absurd what my wife pays for her multitudes of handbags - she thinks it's absurd what I spend for a new golf club that probably isn't much different from one I already own - and they may be absurd by your standards. But that's the irrationality of emotion - I say go with the flow!
12/20/2010
IndependentlyHappy IndependentlyHappy
I've never owned a jelly toy, because I've done enough research to know that the material isn't safe or sanitary. Various reviewers can tell you that it smells bad, breaks down, and harbors germs like crazy, among other things. Many jelly toys also contain phthalates, controversial plastic-softeners that have been banned in some areas (especially Europe) in children's toys.

I own the elastomer version of the Rabbit Habit. It works great for me, is phthalate-free, and is made of a better overall material. I would highly recommend it, especially since it costs a lot less than the one your GF is looking at. I swear by silicone, and most top-of-the-line silicone toys don't cost $112. They'll also last forever and can be boiled and run through the dishwasher, but there aren't too many proven silicone rabbits out there. If there are, I'd love to hear about them.

If your GF absolutely has to have this toy, make sure that you at least give her some information on phthalates and how to care for jelly toys:

60 Minutes article on phthalates
Eden info on caring for jelly toys
01/27/2011
indiglo indiglo
Personally, I don't even look at jelly toys and I sure wouldn't spend that much on one. However, that being said, I totally agree with Gunsmoke. If this is what she wants, then I see no reason to try to talk her out of it.

Here's my advice: you have an account here, so save up your Eden Points, and get yourself a promotional code. Right now, there is a code for Valentine's Day that will give you 35% off. Between all of that, you should be able to get it down to a more reasonable out-of-pocket cost. Then, if your gf ends up not liking the toy she only has herself to blame. And we all need a safety net on those kinds of things!
01/27/2011
cinnie0 cinnie0
oh wow. i did not know jelly wears out. thanks for the info.
01/30/2011
wetone123 wetone123
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Originally posted by just a sub
my gf has asked for this vibe over and over. its really expensive and i dont feel like dishing out the money for it. can anyone point me to a cheaper vibe that has similar features that i might be able to convince her to lust for instead?
Just have her read my new review "Nudging the night away" You see it was the thrusting she wanted. Hope the review will change her mind about it.--wetone123
04/20/2011
I<3SexCreativeEy? I<3SexCreativeEy?
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Originally posted by Emma (Girl With Fire)
Here are a couple choices in silicone, they are both purple in case that is an issue for her, they are relatively strong and the second still has the rotating head

link
link

And some non silicone ... More
Eep...that makes me really nervous! Thanks for posting this comment.
09/16/2011
AlucardRain AlucardRain
My Boyfriend just bought me this toy, a little hint, search amazon.com in health and personal care. Same exact toy, but a bit more cost effective.
10/03/2011
Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama
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Originally posted by Gunsmoke
I disagree - if there is anything I've learned in 21+ years of marriage - it's that when a woman knows what she wants, go for it. It takes all the pressure off you.

What are you going to say when you buy something similar - it's ... More
I have mixed feelings on this topic but I agree so much with Gunsmoke. If she has picked out something she really wants...I'd seriously consider getting it for the sake of her feelings.

I might explain first what others have said about jelly and the potential dangers.

But even if you use it once or twice and decide for something else - its partly the fact that she had a say in it. (I would check for the cheapest price or wait for it to go on sale).

Right now one of our favorites is a hard jelly toy (Flexi Lover by Cal Exotics) but I can't smell anything from it and honestly - as a beginner - it gets me off every time - consistently.

I understand the health concerns - I really do. But sometimes a woman needs to feel like her desires matter.
10/03/2011
wetone123 wetone123
I thought about this toy day and night. It was the thrusting action I wanted. I bought it. It was very expensive too. Got it, used it, hated it. It was one of the biggest toy mistakes I have ever made! Poor materials, poor craftsmanship, poor thrusting action, pretty much poor on every level. Poor me! Out over $100!
10/03/2011
P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by Gunsmoke
I disagree - if there is anything I've learned in 21+ years of marriage - it's that when a woman knows what she wants, go for it. It takes all the pressure off you.

What are you going to say when you buy something similar - it's ... More
The man has a good point! Women hate nothing more than asking for something specific and getting something that someone else thought was "just as good, only better." That wasn't what I asked for!

I agree, I would never buy a jelly toy, not to mention a jelly rabbit. But, the Lady has spoken.

Get her what she wants along with a toy you think she may like. Then both of you can play to your heart's content.

If you haven't bought it yet, it's on sale now.
10/03/2011
Neurogasm Neurogasm
Don't let her get a jelly toy. Ever. It's not worth it. I'm sure you can find one made of silicone for less.
10/03/2011
just a sub just a sub
I ended up not talking her out of it. I found one cheap on amazon and got it for her. Turns out she doesn't like it, and it broke pretty quickly. Thankfully I didn't pay much for it off amazon so it wasn't as heartbreaking on my wallet. All I told her was -I told you so!
10/21/2011
RonLee RonLee
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Originally posted by just a sub
I ended up not talking her out of it. I found one cheap on amazon and got it for her. Turns out she doesn't like it, and it broke pretty quickly. Thankfully I didn't pay much for it off amazon so it wasn't as heartbreaking on my wallet. ... More
Don't be a cheapskate, life is way too short to fret over a few bucks. Get her the very best one you can constructed of the best materials. Let her pick from link then just buy it and be happy about it. Never bring up "I spent so much money on..." or "I bought you..." That's just low class, just as low class as ME giving YOU advice but remember Just A Sub, YOU started this post.
10/21/2011
domsub1993 domsub1993
You might consider earning points to help pay for your toys in the future.
10/21/2011
Mr. E Mr. E
Quote:
Originally posted by just a sub
I ended up not talking her out of it. I found one cheap on amazon and got it for her. Turns out she doesn't like it, and it broke pretty quickly. Thankfully I didn't pay much for it off amazon so it wasn't as heartbreaking on my wallet. ... More
OMG. Kinda what you were expecting though. Bad vibe!

I am sorry that it didn't work out for her. At least, you didn't spend too much on it.

I would have passed on the "I told you so". I've found it best to avoid those sort of comments.

I hope you have better luck with her next selection .
10/21/2011
just a sub just a sub
Quote:
Originally posted by RonLee
Don't be a cheapskate, life is way too short to fret over a few bucks. Get her the very best one you can constructed of the best materials. Let her pick from link then just buy it and be happy about it. Never bring up "I spent so much ... More
i didnt.. i just bought the one she wanted but i found the same vibe for cheaper somewhere else. it was the exact same vibe. and i never said i spent so much or i bought you.. i just was playing with her and told her i told you so because i said i didnt think it would last. i was not mean to her at all, and its not like she got butt hurt over me saying it.. theres no reason to be hateful to me. =/
10/21/2011
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