Orgasms during intercourse?!

Brandie Holliday Brandie Holliday
I was wondering if anyone else had a problem with Orgasm's during intercourse? I am 30 years old and still have yet to achieve one with a man. I can have a clitoral one with the use of toys but still never with finger play, foreplay, or sex itself!! Please help. I have used just about every lube that is out there and also every menthol helper and pretty much everything that says it will help you with your problem!!!
07/22/2011
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Wild Orchid Wild Orchid
Various studies say that around 3/4 of the women need some form of direct clit stim in order to come. There are a few exceptions with clits-o-steel and sensitive g-spots that have it the other way around but they are rare.

Information on new ways and zones to have orgasm through is valuable and can greatly increase our enjoyment - as long as we don't use it as a goal-list.
07/22/2011
Yaoi Pervette (deleted) Yaoi Pervette (deleted)
Only a few times in my life have I had an orgasm from intercourse alone. I typically stimulate my clitoris manually or with a toy during intercourse. I think that holds true for a lot of women.
07/23/2011
KarmaKill KarmaKill
It has been impossible for me to until my husband came along, for me to orgasm I have to use something like the Hitachi while having sex. I have to have clitoral stimulation or it pretty much wont happen but I believe a lot of women are like this.
07/26/2011
thebest thebest
you're not alone. orgasms from only intercourse are usually hard to achieve for people with vaginas
08/01/2011
dawnkye dawnkye
I had a friend tell me I wasn't "doing sex right" because I haven't orgasmed during intercourse. I think I'm doing just fine and having a hell of a lot of fun, thank you. Doesn't mean I won't keep trying to have an orgasm from intercourse alone (for the fun of it!), but I don't feel like I'm missing out on anything. =)
08/01/2011
emiliaa emiliaa
It's very rare for me, I never have with my current partner. I don't think it means anything is wrong with you. It really upsets me sometimes and I understand, if you need someone to talk to I'm here.
08/02/2011
Callisto Callisto
I was worried about that until I had it with my last partner who was below average length, width, etc. The partner before was around 9" and close to 1 3/4" in girth and he did NOTHING for me.

I think it might be the motion in the ocean as they say but also some women just can't get there without assistance. If an orgasm is on your list of to-do while having sex you might be putting too much pressure on yourself and if it isn't just keep with new positions and don't feel bad if it doesn't happen.

Everyone is made different and we are all awesome and beautiful
08/02/2011
fleshlightluvr1 fleshlightluvr1
Quote:
Originally posted by Brandie Holliday
I was wondering if anyone else had a problem with Orgasm's during intercourse? I am 30 years old and still have yet to achieve one with a man. I can have a clitoral one with the use of toys but still never with finger play, foreplay, or sex ... More
My wife climaxes usually two or three times during a session!
08/05/2011
Sunshineamine Sunshineamine
I don't orgasm from intercourse alone or penetration alone. I need clitoral stimulation. Some women just have to have clitoral stimulation to get off.
08/10/2011
briluminary briluminary
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Originally posted by Sunshineamine
I don't orgasm from intercourse alone or penetration alone. I need clitoral stimulation. Some women just have to have clitoral stimulation to get off.
Exactly, same here.
08/14/2011
Princess-Kayla ♥ Princess-Kayla ♥
It's harder for me to orgasm from clitoral stimulation than it is for me to do it while I'm having sex.
08/15/2011
KaraSutra KaraSutra
Considering that over 70% of women require clitoral stimulation to achieve an orgasm it's not surprising that you're having problems achieving one when with your partner. On that note, contrary to what society tells us, it's perfectly normal, natural and acceptable to use a clitoral stimulator to help you get there when you're with your partner. I know many of us are taught through the media that it only takes penetration to make a woman orgasm but unfortunately that's very often not the case. Once we can get past the societal stereo types and brainwashing - learning to use what aids us in the moment - peoples sex lives will get a lot better!
08/15/2011
acessorie acessorie
The only way I can is if my husband rolls me up in a ball basically and angles upwards.
09/01/2011
domsub1993 domsub1993
I've heard women say they orgasm from a spanking or nipple stimulation alone. Yeah, I'm definitely NOT one of those women-- wish I was!
09/06/2011
Eucaly Eucaly
I've never had orgasms from intercourse, but I've had them without any clitoral stimulation:

-From fingering
-From fantasy alone (not touching myself in any way; this usually only happens once or twice a year).
09/29/2011
Blinkfat Blinkfat
Quote:
Originally posted by KarmaKill
It has been impossible for me to until my husband came along, for me to orgasm I have to use something like the Hitachi while having sex. I have to have clitoral stimulation or it pretty much wont happen but I believe a lot of women are like this.
Indeed, my adorable girlfriend is like this. She loves intercourse to a beautifully insane degree, but if one of us does not have a finger or two on her clitoris, there's no "end" in sight. At first it made me feel like i wasn't good enough, but i understand now and I'm totally cool with it and try to help as much as possible. It's so freakin' amazing now! You have no idea
10/02/2011
pleasurehunter pleasurehunter
Most of the women i've met with that problem could only orgasm when their clit was stimulated.
10/11/2011
starklover starklover
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Originally posted by pleasurehunter
Most of the women i've met with that problem could only orgasm when their clit was stimulated.
Yes I agree
10/17/2011
Diabolical Kitty Diabolical Kitty
I'm 28 almost 29 and I just started having orgasms during intercourse. It took a lot of time, patience and learning what made me tick so to speak.
10/23/2011
PeachieClean PeachieClean
I never had an orgasm at all until I met my current boyfriend. Now there are only a few positions that I haven't had at least one in. Those include sideways, normal missionary and while I'm on top. The fastest ways for me to finish is with my knees against my chest or doggy. Like everyone else said though, it might just be that you *need* clit stimulation for orgasm. I've heard that grinding against the guy's pelvis can stimulate your clit, but it sounds a little uncomfortable, so I've never tried myself.
11/01/2011
mh11 mh11
Quote:
Originally posted by Brandie Holliday
I was wondering if anyone else had a problem with Orgasm's during intercourse? I am 30 years old and still have yet to achieve one with a man. I can have a clitoral one with the use of toys but still never with finger play, foreplay, or sex ... More
Sometimes I have this problem but the best to get to this point is to get to know your body better.
11/02/2011
mh11 mh11
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Originally posted by PeachieClean
I never had an orgasm at all until I met my current boyfriend. Now there are only a few positions that I haven't had at least one in. Those include sideways, normal missionary and while I'm on top. The fastest ways for me to finish is with ... More
It takes some practice lol
11/02/2011
Fidelity Fidelity
Quote:
Originally posted by Brandie Holliday
I was wondering if anyone else had a problem with Orgasm's during intercourse? I am 30 years old and still have yet to achieve one with a man. I can have a clitoral one with the use of toys but still never with finger play, foreplay, or sex ... More
I am completely unable to orgasm while having sex alone i need some form of clit stim along with foreplay for it to happen at all
11/03/2011
LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
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Originally posted by domsub1993
I've heard women say they orgasm from a spanking or nipple stimulation alone. Yeah, I'm definitely NOT one of those women-- wish I was!
lol
11/06/2011
sweetcaroline sweetcaroline
I used to have that problem with my ex boyfriend, the whole time we were together he only got me to orgasm ONCE and that was at the beginning of our relationship. But my boyfriend now, I guess we're just anatomically perfect for each other, because he's made me orgasm nearly every time we've had sex (9 out of ten times.)
11/06/2011
Bobber Bobber
My ex- wife never had an orgasm from intercourse, though she had a lot of hang-ups...
My second wife almost always orgasms from penetration, and gets to enjoy 2 to 5 climaxes on each session. I have to believe a lot of that is because I have become more interested in giving her pleasure than taking it for my self. I always make sure she is satisfied unless she asks me to just go ahead and finish. Taking time, and not just banging away madly like teenagers makes the difference in my opinion. If your partner pays attention to your responses there are more than enough variations to achieve an orgasm if you want to.
05/13/2013
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