Question: Why is it considered taboo to find a disabled person attractive?

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Question: Why is it considered taboo to find a disabled person attractive?

Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by Dame Saphir
I think there's nothing wrong with it, as long as you have reason other than "he's deaf, it's cute." That's offensive. But if you can give reason showing why you have an attraction because of things that exist in the ...
You tried to speak their language to make them feel more comfortable and to aid understanding...just as if you spoke highschool french and some native speakers came in. THAT is endearing to anyone and it doesn't matter if you completely flub up what you are saying you TRIED and that is all that matters. I have a massive attraction to "foreign" speakers especially slavs which could be considered a disability in an english speaking country. So I can see what you are saying. Liking someone because of a perceived disability is a bit ick but being attracted to an enguaging person who is made more special by the difficulties they have overcome is hot. Either way I still say the original poster was simply wondering about the different sensations a deaf person would feel during sex...I believe that he was simply attempting to be empathetic rather than sick. Having had sex with a deaf person I can say it is subtly different in exactly the ways he was wondering. The vocalization is different and facial features become a better guideline.
06/29/2010
El-Jaro El-Jaro
Quote:
Originally posted by Dame Saphir
I think there's nothing wrong with it, as long as you have reason other than "he's deaf, it's cute." That's offensive. But if you can give reason showing why you have an attraction because of things that exist in the ...
Empathy and Compassion are huge turn-ons!

Way to go!
06/29/2010
Forbidden Light Forbidden Light
Quote:
Originally posted by Dame Saphir
I think there's nothing wrong with it, as long as you have reason other than "he's deaf, it's cute." That's offensive. But if you can give reason showing why you have an attraction because of things that exist in the ...
That was beautiful...Thank you for sharing!
06/29/2010
Femme Mystique Femme Mystique
There's a name for people who have a fetish for people with disabilities, it's called a devotee. It's considered taboo to be a devotee because of the implications of the relationship. Why are you attracted to people with disabilities? Many devotees are because they find the vulnerability of a disabled person attractive. At that point, it is quite obviously unhealthy.
07/27/2010
PonyPlay PonyPlay
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Originally posted by Sir
I do not consider it taboo. What I consider it is rude. It IS the same was finding a "child" or "mentally impaired" person attractive, because you're looking at them sexually for physical attributes. Maybe to you, you think ...
I understand what Sir is saying but I think there is a difference between finding someone who is deaf attractive or the fact that they are deaf is why they you are attracted to them. That might be considered a fetish, if you get turned on by the thought of a disabled person.
08/11/2010
Timaree Timaree
couple ways to answer here:
1. who says it's taboo? like whoever you like
2. do you think it's taboo? if so, probably because we're hard wired to go for virile specimens of reproductive health with whom we can breed. opting outside of that spectrum seems curious to some.

here are some posts about dating and disability:
on fetishizing disability: link
and on dating someone in a wheelchair: link
08/11/2010
[[M@R!3]] [[M@R!3]]
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Originally posted by ~LaUr3n~
Wow anyone who thinks it is taboo is ignorant in my opinion. It could be argued that everyone of us has a disorder or handicap of some sort. I do not think it requires a fetish at all.
I completely agree with you!
10/15/2010
Sera Sera
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Originally posted by Forbidden Light
I recently wrote a post about the sex appeal of the deaf. I got a little flack from it, as if I wrote about children or the mentally impaired. Does require a fetish to find the disabled attractive?

Here's the post I've ...
I don't know why it's tabboo, and I've thought about it before...but never said it. I think they're just as normal as we are, just in different ways. Being "disabled" never mattered to me.
10/17/2010
Niahflame Niahflame
There are men (and some women) who find me being an amputee sexy. They're devotees to my stumps.

I have to be honest, I do enjoy the attention. But I realize it's not *me* they're admiring, it's my legs! Let's say a woman has big boobs, and a man doesn't care about her at all, he's just fixated on her boobs. If they are both into that, then fine. But if he's pretending to like her, just for the boobs, it's wrong.

I for one don't like to be a fetish item. I'd like to be seen for the whole me.

I'm used to the fetishists, but they do annoy me to no end when it's nothing but the stumps they want.
10/30/2010
Avalee Avalee
I do not consider it taboo, love is love.
11/11/2010
nevadashoe nevadashoe
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Originally posted by Forbidden Light
I recently wrote a post about the sex appeal of the deaf. I got a little flack from it, as if I wrote about children or the mentally impaired. Does require a fetish to find the disabled attractive?

Here's the post I've ...
I'm not to sure if this helps in your post but here goes...Back in High School I had a great sex life,then I moved out west to washington. It went to a awesome state which lasted a few months till I joined the Navy.After basic training I went to Lakehurst,NJ For schooling again the girls found me attractive so dating was plentiful.Then I graduated from school,was stationed in Beeville,TX. The time spent there was fantastic untill that fatal day,when I was in an accident wish left me an amputee.which left me bitter but I have gotten over ,the accident but the lose of the female companionship is still had to get used to. but I manage.
11/27/2010
Trashley Trashley
Have any of you seen the movie Adam? It was a good one, just on this topic. It's a hard one to encapsulate, it is.
11/27/2010
Lady Neshamah Lady Neshamah
I am surprised that you got any flak for that. As far as anyone that I know, it's far from taboo to be attracted to anyone with any kind of disability. And if it's a fetish for you, more power to you.
11/28/2010
Megan Jean Megan Jean
I was always taught to treat differently abled people with the same level of respect as everyone else, so I don't see anything 'taboo' about falling for someone who is differently abled.
12/21/2011
voenne voenne
It's definitely not a taboo, or requires some sort of fetish to find them attractive. They are people, just like the rest of us, but with their own "quirk"! When it comes to deafness or having any other loss of sense, your other senses become much more acute. Although it would probably make for a difficult relationship, there is nothing wrong with being attracted to someone with a disability. They are not their disability and should not be referred to as thus.
12/21/2011
Cherry21 Cherry21
Quote:
Originally posted by Forbidden Light
I recently wrote a post about the sex appeal of the deaf. I got a little flack from it, as if I wrote about children or the mentally impaired. Does require a fetish to find the disabled attractive?

Here's the post I've ...
i dont think so. My husband thinks girls in wheel chairs are sexy (luckily, I was in one for about 6 mths at one point!). not a fetish, but he thinks its hot.
12/28/2011
Chirple Chirple
I agree that it's normal and natural to be curious about things and how others experience and communicate.

However, I'm bothered by the idea of objectifying any part of a person to the exclusion of their person as an individual.

"I want to be with a deaf girl" squicks me out just as much as "I want to be with a black girl" - where they don't care about the girl herself, just that she meets certain physical criteria.

If both are aware of it and are cool with it, okay. But I think this is hardly often the case, especially for everyday life.

There are plenty of ways for people to play with sensory deprivation even if a person is not physically deaf as well.
12/28/2011
tami tami
To each his/her own... If that is the type of person you like then no one can change your mind.. I personally do not find it taboo to only like a certain type of person..example my co-worker only dates older men, another co-worker (whom is white) only dates black men, a friend of mine will only date younger men that have a six figure income. I myself wont date or talk to anyone who does not have/ and ride a harley...anyway my point is you like what ever type you like and if some one being deaf is what gets you going then knock your self out.
09/07/2012
Claire-Bear Claire-Bear
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Originally posted by Niahflame
There are men (and some women) who find me being an amputee sexy. They're devotees to my stumps.

I have to be honest, I do enjoy the attention. But I realize it's not *me* they're admiring, it's my legs! Let's say a woman ...
I'm sorry you've had these experiences.
09/07/2012
RememberMe RememberMe
Quote:
Originally posted by Forbidden Light
I recently wrote a post about the sex appeal of the deaf. I got a little flack from it, as if I wrote about children or the mentally impaired. Does require a fetish to find the disabled attractive?

Here's the post I've ...
I don't think it's taboo, but it'll draw stares simply because it's different.

But, if you're gonna ask your family, then they might not like it out of concern and care for you.
11/17/2012
bratcat bratcat
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Originally posted by Sir
I do not find it frigid at all, actually. What it is is sexualizing a physical attribute, which I find to be inappropriate and rude, as I said. That is simply my opinion, as you had asked for.

Mentally disabled people can give consent. A ...
i have to agree with Sir when they say " do not find a problem with finding a person, as the person is, sexy or attractive. Nothing wrong with that at all! By all means, be an accepting individual who is attracted to someone even with their disabilities or flaws! But to sexualize them simply based off of those things? No, I do not find that to be right."
which was a big issue in your blog post. You instantly sexualize a deaf persons disability with lines like "I didn't expect to find them so beautiful," and boiling down how the non-hearing and hearing communicate as "a cute game of charades." By stating these things you are sexualizing their disability, and that is wrong, the same way it's wrong (although common in US media/culture) to sexualize violence and rape.
There is defiantly nothing wrong with finding those with a handicap such as being, deaf/hard of hearing, but there is a problem when you completely sexualize ones disability. Maybe as a follow up could could talk with deaf/hard of hearing folks about their sexual experiences with non-hearing and hearing people.
12/05/2012
smlove smlove
Objectify everyone equally!
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