If you have had a baby vaginally, were you hesitant to have your signifigant other go down on you? (I'm talking months later, after you had healed)

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If you have had a baby vaginally, were you hesitant to have your signifigant other go down on you? (I'm talking months later, after you had healed)

lick123 lick123
If you have had a baby vaginally, were you hesitant to have your signifigant other go down on you? (I'm talking months later, after you had healed) It has been over two months and I just feel different down there and can't imagine resuming that yet. i used to love it and get some many times a month (he is asking and wants to resume doing it) Thanks!
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I was hesitant but resumed getting oral
7  (19%)
I was hesitant and have not resumed oral
2  (6%)
I was not hesitant at all and resumed oral
27  (75%)
Total votes: 36
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04/10/2011
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sexygoddess sexygoddess
Well, I haven't had a baby yet. But.. if it were me.. I'd probably be hesitant. But only because I'm REALLY self-concious about my body as it is. I have been all my life.
04/10/2011
onehotmomma onehotmomma
I was super self concious that my man wouldn't want to after the baby came. I was only hesitant, because I was REALLY sensitive after I had my babies..I mean, my youngest is almost a year and I'm still extremely sensitive to the touch, I can't really even use my strong vibes as much anymore. The being worried about it being different wore off pretty quick though, I think we started having sex (including oral) 3 months after baby was born-My second one. When I had my first baby I took a LOT longer to heal, so it was 6 months or so.
04/10/2011
Redboxbaby Redboxbaby
It never bothered me for a second. I figured if my husband wasn't phased by it why should I be?
04/11/2011
Gallowraven Gallowraven
It didn't bother me, he was there when the baby came out, and if he wanted to go down there again, I wasn't about to argue.
04/18/2011
Wondermom Wondermom
I had no concerns about oral, intercourse was my concern because I had a 2nd degree tear with 36 stitches and it was still painful along the scar area. We didn't have intercourse until my son was 13mths old, by then the scar tissue had healed enough for me to feel comfortable and 5 yrs later its not noticeable at all.
05/08/2011
ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
Quote:
Originally posted by Redboxbaby
It never bothered me for a second. I figured if my husband wasn't phased by it why should I be?
This is the way we were, she did ask if I really wanted to go there and I answered by going there. lol
05/08/2011
Teaser Teaser
As a man, I never gave it a thought. I don't think my wife did either.
05/08/2011
AMGuidroz AMGuidroz
I haven't had a child yet, but will really soon! If everything goes as planned, it will be vaginal! -- I think I would be hesitant for a while, but I wouldn't let that stop me from letting him go down on me!
05/08/2011
bluekaren bluekaren
I had 4 children vaginally and was not hesitant at all. I did my kegals and I am a clean person. Don't worry about the fact that you used you vagina for something other than sex!
05/08/2011
froggiemoma froggiemoma
i was a little hesitant
05/24/2011
mama2007 mama2007
Quote:
Originally posted by Redboxbaby
It never bothered me for a second. I figured if my husband wasn't phased by it why should I be?
I have 2 kids, son was born on Dec. 14, 2007 and daughter born oct. 20, 2008. after son we resumed as soon as i stopped bleeding - a lil over 2 wks after i had him which is how i got preg with her so fast. they are 10 months and a few days apart in age. We waited 3.5 wks after i had her, but i was on depo shot b4 i got discharged. next time, ill be on pill or something so i won't have to wait long again. but nope wasnt hestitant at all i felt great after 2 wks other than i overdid it after daughter was born and pulled muscle from picking kids up.

I was hesitant to have sex with hubby cuz i was scared it would hurt, after son which yep it did 2 - 3x only though then went to normal. just go slow at first.
05/24/2011
disenchanted disenchanted
Hesitant and have not had it since, but then I was always hesitant. I'm extremely self-conscious about my body and never really found receiving oral all that pleasurable, mainly due to the self-consciousness.
07/23/2011
Rhazya Rhazya
For someone who hasn't had kids and doesn't want any; and who hasn't looked a vulva pictures after giving vaginal birth, do you really change that much down there that you'd be off-putting to a lover?

I've heard of men complaining women are too lose for their penis after giving birth, but I haven't heard of oral problems?
07/24/2011
Beck Beck
I had two Vaginally. I just have scar tissue from stitches. It pretty much looks the same. And if anything you should be tighter if you had stitches and it has been awhile. Ask every women who has sex after baby first we times hurt like you are virgin again. You are not lose by any means the vagina stretches.
07/24/2011
swaggsohott12 swaggsohott12
i had 4 vaginally the only thing i was worried about was the stretching oral never stopped during pregnancy and continued after healing
07/24/2011
Checkmate Checkmate
Never seemed a problem for my wife, and I definately did not have any issues doing it!
04/05/2013
princess22 princess22
no problem
04/05/2013
Kitka Kitka
Quote:
Originally posted by Redboxbaby
It never bothered me for a second. I figured if my husband wasn't phased by it why should I be?
Exactly!
04/05/2013
Allison.Wilder Allison.Wilder
Quote:
Originally posted by lick123
If you have had a baby vaginally, were you hesitant to have your signifigant other go down on you? (I'm talking months later, after you had healed) It has been over two months and I just feel different down there and can't imagine resuming ...
I had a c-section, but I was hesitant even after that for a while. It goes away as you become more confident in your new body.
04/07/2013
Cinnyree Cinnyree
I never thought about it...my only concern was that I wouldn't feel tight anymore.
04/07/2013
Munko Munko
I put that I was hesitant...it wasn't me though, it was him.

He's always been a bit hesitant with oral (and myself a bit insecure before baby, anyways) He JUST resumed oral last month on our anniversary (it's not something we've ever done often anyways)...that put us at 1 year and 2 weeks after the birth of our daughter. So, it took him a while. Part of his hesitation I think is that I have scar tissue that it still painful, and he wasn't really sure if he'd hurt me or not, or how to avoid it. I definitely didn't really change down there at all. I can hardly even feel my scar anymore on the surface.

He's always been a little icked out by all the things that go on down there for women - bleeding, yeast infections, babies, postpartum bleeding, etc. Seeing them cut me was really hard for him, I think. I think he has trouble kind of getting over that mental hurdle of all that sort of "icky" stuff and birth and the post partum period really didn't help make it easier. I knew if I gave him time to come around, he would eventually!

2 months in I was still bleeding (actually, on my second post partum period already) and VERY sore (my recovery time was ridiculous for a vaginal delivery) so oral would have been way out of the question anyways!
04/09/2013
Chastity Darling Chastity Darling
It was almost 1 1/2 years after I gave birth that our sex life really took off. It was probably 9 months before I let him down there. Now its no problem.
04/10/2013
Adnerbmw Adnerbmw
So i had a baby 8 months ago and i was so freaked out about how messed up i was that i didnt even want him to look at it, but now i dont even think about it, as long as he can still have it he doesnt care what it looks like. You dont have anything to worry about, just take things slow and know that its natural.
04/10/2013
Total posts: 24
Unique posters: 24