Have you ever been pregnant?

Yeah, I've heard of this. They "hollow out" the egg of the carrying women, and put genetic material of either the partner woman or both (I think the hard part is to get two eggs, ior the genetic material in them to divide and perform mitosis when put together. They can do it in a petri dish, but they don't survive as of yet.)

I have a few lesbian friends who used sperm donors, but this new technology is amazing. It will be a few more years before it is perfected and then (OMG) FDA approval. My guess is you'll be able to get it in Europe or South America before the FDA approves it. Imagine someone like John Boehner (the Senator, we call him "Boner") making a big deal of this.

I hope this gets worked on and perfected. I know a lot of people who would really like this option. As far as I know, most of the work is being done in Europe, South America and small amounts of privately funded work are being done in the USA.

I wish there was more acceptance of both GLBT needs and embryo research. The research for this is almost IDENTICAL to the Fertility Research done in the 60s and 70s that is used every day, and have made plenty of couples parents. NO ONE complained when it was "intended" for infertile "hetero couples." It saddens me when things that are matters of the Heart, like research to help people have children, gets politicized.

I hope this research is worked out soon. less

Is this for guys too?

I'd had a few close calls, including one trip to the family doctor where my gf at the time had her throat swabbed to test for pregnancy. The box for strep was right next to pregnancy. I was wondering how long that q-tip was... less

Three times. No living children.

I will be completely candid about this: I never wanted children, I still do not want children. I do not want to be pregnant. I had taken every precaution afforded to me at the time and still ended up pregnant and I took control of the situation. Each pregnancy was several years apart.


I am quite nurturing by nature, but I am not motherly by nature. It's just not something I can see myself becoming. I am way too selfish with my time. less

Three times. No living children.

I will be completely candid about this: I never wanted children, I still do not want children. I do not want to be pregnant. I had taken every precaution afforded to me at the time and still ended up pregnant and I took control of the situation. Each pregnancy was several years apart.


I am quite nurturing by nature, but I am not motherly by nature. It's just not something I can see myself becoming. I am way too selfish with my time. less

Thank you, some would say honesty is all I have.

The first time I didn't and only my partner knew about the last two and he was incredibly supportive. Overly supportive at some points. It wasn't a banner I wanted to go waving in front of my family. *knocks on wood* We've been really successful in preventing pregnancy since and I do sometimes think about how old they would be or where we would be in life, but those decisions have been made and it certainly isn't one that you can take back.

It's not a pleasant experience by any means and the first was extremely traumatic because the doctor told me if I screamed or cried one more time he was going to charge me another $100. The other two, I was asleep for and for that I am more than thankful.

I do kind of feel like I have to caveat this experience with "I SWEAR I WAS RESPONSIBLE" and did everything like I was supposed to but when you change birth controls every three months due to side effects, things happen. :/ less

I have friends who have had abortions and they're wonderful, responsible people. It was the smart, responsible choice for them at that point in their lives. I'm sorry you feel like you have to preempt your statement by defending yourself. You shouldn't have to. But everyone is convinced that it's the most horrible thing a person can do and that those who have done it must be the worst people ever. The truth is far from it. I know it doesn't fix everyone who treats you badly for it but there are many of us out there that understand. less

You are too kind, really. *big internet hugs*

There is a lot of backlash for women when it comes to making that choice. It's never easy, no matter how flippant a response to the question may come across.

It's cathartic to talk about it and to know that others are or have been in that situation and can benefit from my experiences.

I think I would rather someone tell me I was going to burn in hell because I aborted than for someone to tell me I am a terrible mother. I know without a shadow of a doubt that I would resent every breath the child took and it seems like such a horrible thing to say out loud but in the end, if you don't know yourself well enough to admit something as heavy as that you have no business having children.

I am currently struggling with a really really good friend of mine right now. She resents her children and the strain they put on her free time. She did it to save her marriage but due to her resentment, she has compromised her vows by stepping outside of their union for comfort and support. Her children are well into the toddler stage and still can't properly speak simple words like "grape" or "cookie". It's so sad and I hope she makes the right choices for her children yet it seems unlikely and I would never ever want someone to have that opinion of me. less