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Contributor: Cammie ♥ Cammie ♥
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Originally posted by PussyGalore
Thank you, some would say honesty is all I have.

The first time I didn't and only my partner knew about the last two and he was incredibly supportive. Overly supportive at some points. It wasn't a banner I wanted to go waving in ... more
Audra, all I can say is wow. Not wow to the fact of you having an abortion (or a couple), but the fact that the doctor treated you like that. No matter what, the situation was hard on you and his rudeness did not help any. ()

And I understand about having issues with birth control. My #4 kid was conceived while I had the Nuvaring in. Guess I was part of that 2%.
01/25/2011
Contributor: A Good Girl A Good Girl
3 kids here!
01/25/2011
Contributor: PussyGalore PussyGalore
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Originally posted by Cammie ♥
Audra, all I can say is wow. Not wow to the fact of you having an abortion (or a couple), but the fact that the doctor treated you like that. No matter what, the situation was hard on you and his rudeness did not help any. ()

And I understand ... more
*Hugs* Thank you so much. He was a complete ass and it didn't help that I was fifteen years old at the time.

It's 2% on Nuva? Ouch. :/
01/25/2011
Contributor: TheSinDoll TheSinDoll
Twice. Two girls. 12 & 13.
01/25/2011
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by PussyGalore
You are too kind, really. *big internet hugs*

There is a lot of backlash for women when it comes to making that choice. It's never easy, no matter how flippant a response to the question may come across.

It's cathartic to talk ... more
You shouldn't have to defend yourself by any means.

You were responsible, things happen. IMO, taking charge of the situation, rather than carrying pregnancies you weren't ready for and didn't want was a mature, wise choice.

Thank heaven women have this option in most of the US. We have the option, but in so many places, the providers are too far away for too many women.

I'm sorry the doctor was abusive the first time, I would view what s/he said to you was abusive. He should know that women handle that procedure differently and acted more sympathetically.

I have too many friends who have had kids just because they "got pregnant." No one should have kids who doesn't want them more than anything. There is simply no reason to bring children into the world in anything less than a wanted and desired and affordable situation, as far as I am concerned. Every woman should be allowed to make her own choices without having to apologize, explain or anything else.

IMO, making the decision not to have children is mature, responsible and the right decision for many.
01/25/2011
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
I do have to follow that post by admitting that I, also "got pregnant" without really planning the first and the last child. However, My Man and I had already worked out what first of all I wanted to do if I were to become pregnant, and also had decided we did want children.

After every pregnancy being confirmed, he took me aside and honestly and seriously asked me, "What do you want to do? It's up to you, I'll go along with whatever you want." I must admit that I've used Plan B twice since that last baby was born, 11 years ago, due to "OOOPS" situations. We decided we were really finished having children, he thinks he's "too old" (early 50s) to see more kids into adulthood, and I'm just done not to mention starting perimenopause. My body, however, has proven to be irritatingly fertile, so, while we are careful, Plan B has been there several times for us.

We have three living children, I had two miscarriages, and honestly, we "planned" only one of the pregnancies. Our dynamic is different than some people's and what works for us does not work for everyone. I don't expect it to.

The point is desiring, wanting and being able to afford children. I think that is really the only reason to have them. We both wanted children desperately and my wish was granted (the timing could have been better...I think at least the first one)

I could honestly understand not wanting them at all. We have friends who desire no children, and the ones who didn't want them and yet went ahead and had them are always miserable. The ones who didn't want them and remained childless seem just as happy as those of us who wanted them and had them. (And they have hella more bucks than we do. )

IMO, I think people know their desires, needs and what they are willing or able to do or not. It's an individual decision and there is no "One size fits all" for having or not having children.
01/25/2011
Contributor: PussyGalore PussyGalore
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Originally posted by P'Gell
You shouldn't have to defend yourself by any means.

You were responsible, things happen. IMO, taking charge of the situation, rather than carrying pregnancies you weren't ready for and didn't want was a mature, wise ... more
You are amazing!! I wish I had known you the first time around. I felt so guilty and so angry about the situation that I turned on myself. I stopped eating properly, I stopped caring about life and had pretty much resigned myself to being a statistic for all eternity.

It's really hard to admit to a world that cherishes procreation that you just aren't into kids. I really wish people would understand a child is not a right, it's something you devote your life to and promise to put its needs first and it's not always a blessing.
01/25/2011
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by PussyGalore
You are amazing!! I wish I had known you the first time around. I felt so guilty and so angry about the situation that I turned on myself. I stopped eating properly, I stopped caring about life and had pretty much resigned myself to being a statistic ... more
Aw, honey, I'm so sorry you had to go through that and were angry at yourself. Sometimes I think we can't win. Kid cries in the grocery store and you do nothing, "She's spoiling that baby." Kid cries in the grocery store and you tell the kid to be quiet, "She's abusive." NO kid in the grocery store, "What is she waiting for? She's not getting any younger." I mean, really, no matter what decision we make, we can't win.

But, it's so sad to see young women take it out on themselves. I'm so sorry this happened.

You said, "I really wish people would understand a child is not a right, it's something you devote your life to and promise to put its needs first and it's not always a blessing." DAMN STRAIGHT! It's a lot of work. A lot of it not pleasant. I don't think it's "more important" than any other Life Choice, but is IS a Life Choice that one really has to understand is for adults who WANT it! Want it more than anything.

Not everybody wants kids and I wish more people could proclaim or even admit that without the censure that some assign them. Not everybody wants kids. There are 6.2 billion people on the planet! We don't all have to be parents.

Hugs, Audra.
01/25/2011
Contributor: PussyGalore PussyGalore
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Originally posted by P'Gell
Aw, honey, I'm so sorry you had to go through that and were angry at yourself. Sometimes I think we can't win. Kid cries in the grocery store and you do nothing, "She's spoiling that baby." Kid cries in the grocery store and you ... more
*Hugs and much love back* Exactly. Just because you can, doesn't mean you should. There are so many levels of maturity needed for parenting that I think it's ok that not every one is cut out for it. I like to think of it like becoming a teacher. Anyone can become a teacher but not every teacher is a great teacher and some of them are downright ineffective.
01/25/2011
Contributor: Xavier7 Xavier7
Quote:
Originally posted by PussyGalore
Thank you, some would say honesty is all I have.

The first time I didn't and only my partner knew about the last two and he was incredibly supportive. Overly supportive at some points. It wasn't a banner I wanted to go waving in ... more
You should go find that doctor and beat the crap out of him. That's sick and fucked up.
01/30/2011
Contributor: Confusedxfreak Confusedxfreak
Was pregnant after my first IVF cycle then went on to miscarry at around 6 1/2 7 weeks.
01/30/2011
Contributor: Mlee Mlee
Yes i have a 2 year old son and trying to have another
01/31/2011
Contributor: toxie m toxie m
Nope, never have.
01/31/2011
Contributor: Valentinka Valentinka
No, not yet ))
02/05/2011
Contributor: EvaChangeN EvaChangeN
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Originally posted by Sera
So, have you? Just curious!
Sorry to hear about all the bad luck and misfortunes with many of you here. I was preggers once and had a beautiful daughter who is a bone headed mini me at 8 years old now LOL might have 1 more, but I dunno
02/07/2011
Contributor: Miss Jenn Miss Jenn
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Originally posted by Sera
So, have you? Just curious!
I do have one kid. My boy. my angel! I got pregnant shortly after my 17 bday, and delivered a month and a half before my 18. Still finished school on time and went to prom! Never missed a thing. Im happy i have him, I would probably do it again - but with someone else. My husband is not my sons biological father. but his dad nonetheless. Hes known him since he was 3mos old.
02/07/2011
Contributor: Miss Jenn Miss Jenn
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Originally posted by kinky girlfriend
no but I'm afraid to. My ibs is severe and I can't just go eat salads healthy foods all the time or eat wat I want it would make me soo sick. I can't eat healty and things like vitamins even make me worse. no dairy,red meat and hardly and ... more
Just cuz you get pregnant does not mean you cant eat burgers, chicken wings, steaks or anything else. you dont have to eat all healthy. Most of the time you dont have to change your diet at all. Just cut a lot of caffeine out.

I see your other concerns, and understand them. Just wanted to point out the food part - a lot of people think that.
02/07/2011
Contributor: BadassFatass BadassFatass
Quote:
Originally posted by PussyGalore
Thank you, some would say honesty is all I have.

The first time I didn't and only my partner knew about the last two and he was incredibly supportive. Overly supportive at some points. It wasn't a banner I wanted to go waving in ... more
I'm sorry you had to go through that. I have had an abortion as well and it was terrifying enough to go through something like that without the doctor being horrible.

Thank you for giving me the courage to admit that here, by the way. It is something not many people know about me because I know I will be harshly judged for it, not to mention disowned by some of my family. I was also responsible but my birth control failed. I am completely secure in the fact that I made the right decision though. There were a million reasons for me not to have a child.
02/10/2011
Contributor: lezergirl lezergirl
I want kids, but unfortunately gay pregnancy is a little more expensive than the straight method haha!
02/11/2011
Contributor: SapphirexIce SapphirexIce
I have one son!
02/19/2011
Contributor: sweet seduction sweet seduction
I have a 5 month old as of now so yes I would say I have and trying for number 2
02/19/2011
Contributor: sweet seduction sweet seduction
I have a 5 month old as of now so yes I would say I have and trying for number 2
02/19/2011
Contributor: SexyStuff SexyStuff
Trying and trying but not yet.
02/23/2011
Contributor: HoneyHoney HoneyHoney
Nevarrrr
02/26/2011
Contributor: MeliPixie MeliPixie
I clicked the "no" very... tentatively. There should be a third "I'm not sure" option or something, and here's why. My boyfriend and I almost always forget condoms. We're fluid bonded, so it's not a huge deal, but occasionally (we've been dating for just over a year and this has happened only a few times) I'll miss a period, then get it about three weeks later, much heavier and more painful, and accompanied almost every time by an intense feeling of sadness or even depression. I believe these may be pregnancies that didn't take properly, and my body knows it and grieves because I, unknowing of the goings-on in there, can't grieve a child I never knew I could have lost in the first place.

Or I could just be trying to out meaning into an otherwise innocuously irregular cycle. Who knows. -_-
02/26/2011
Contributor: Joie de Cherresse Joie de Cherresse
I've been pregnant seven times. I've had two miscarriages. I have five kids and two step. NO MORE FOR US! LOL!
02/26/2011
Contributor: Xavier7 Xavier7
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Originally posted by Joie de Cherresse
I've been pregnant seven times. I've had two miscarriages. I have five kids and two step. NO MORE FOR US! LOL!
That's a lot! I'm so sorry about your miscarriages, though.
02/27/2011
Contributor: liilii080 liilii080
No, I'm on birth control but I hope I can have kids when I am ready.
02/27/2011
Contributor: nicky51679 nicky51679
I've been pregnant 5 times, just miscarried my 5th last week, :o(, but we do have 4 beautiful girls.
02/27/2011
Contributor: Fuck it. Fuck it.
Nope! And I don't plan on it for a very long time.
02/27/2011