For ladies... to fake or not to fake

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For ladies... to fake or not to fake

ToyGeek ToyGeek
Faking is poor communication, and will just encourage repeat performances of things that didn't work for you. Honesty is important.
07/09/2012
Librarian Librarian
I have in the past with other lovers (and even with my current love when we were dating 10 years ago--we got back together a year ago) to stroke their egos and sometimes to just get them offa me because they were taking so long.

But as I've gotten older I've just admitted to not having gotten off and my current love is patient and will work with me until I do. Sometimes I just get frustrated when I don't and eventually a vibrator will work, and he's been fine with playing with me while I use one.

Definitely think faking is just poor communication. I can't imagine too many nice guys want their woman faking on them or pretending they're enjoying anything: better to improve technique or speak up.
07/09/2012
g- g-
In the past, but it ended up doing more harm than good.
07/09/2012
pasdechat pasdechat
Never have, never will. The way I see it, it can only cause problems. Your partner won't know what you actually like, and if it becomes habitual it just gets harder and harder to fess up. Plus, I think dishonesty is pretty much always a bad thing in relationships. And, well, to be perfectly honest, there may be a little bit of female spite going on--I mean, if he can't get me there, I won't hold it against him at all, but why should I fake it just to stroke his ego
07/09/2012
Cora Jane Cora Jane
I have faked it in the past with an ex who was too damn stubborn to leave me alone when it wasn't working. It wasn't to boost his ego, he just would never have given up otherwise (no amount of communication would have gotten through to him either). Yes, I broke up with him.
07/09/2012
MistressDandelion MistressDandelion
Not exactly a lady, but I have the parts so. No. I don't do that. First, because if I pretend it made me cum, he'll keep doing what I disliked. Second, it takes me about 2 minutes tops to orgasm if I don't "torture" myself into delaying it. I don't really need to. Third, orgasm is not necessary for my pleasure. And finally, askilled lover will feel your orgasms, and will be able to tell if you didn't have one. So I wouldn't even bother anyways.
07/09/2012
AlianneCimorene AlianneCimorene
Quote:
Originally posted by Lady Hazel
Have you ever faked just too save your mans ego??
I've done it before, but it was at a party as part of a game, or to show off, not for anyone's ego. I think faking it for your partner is just a bad idea; it's dishonest and it doesn't do anyone any favors.
07/10/2012
XYCopperheadSly XYCopperheadSly
I've never faked. And I never will.
07/10/2012
HotMama2three HotMama2three
Hubby asked me to promise to never fake it 12 years ago......the result, mind blowing orgasms almost every time, and certainly every time I'm willing to put in the time.
07/10/2012
BoobCopter BoobCopter
I'd never fake.
07/10/2012
CadmiumKitty CadmiumKitty
I don't fake it.
07/30/2012
MrPink MrPink
Ladies, please don't ever fake orgasms. Lying to him (or rather any significant other) and giving him a little ego is not nearly as rewarding as simply working things out and finding what works. If he's not getting you there on his own help him out but don't just ruin your own experience (and experiences to come) by not letting him know how to make things better.

I'm honestly paranoid about this (at least with new partners) and I always assume they're just faking until I get to know them better or discuss things with them.
07/30/2012
Tiffany Rose Tiffany Rose
Ive faked it too many times i need to find my mr. right
07/31/2012
Rory Rory
Quote:
Originally posted by Lady Hazel
Have you ever faked just too save your mans ego??
I have but he claims he knew when I did and he said he would rather I didn't fake it. We'll see!!
07/31/2012
maketime maketime
Dont fake it. Let him or her know and guide them a little bit. I've found it leads to vulnerability, exploration, and amazing orgasms!
08/07/2012
DeliciousB DeliciousB
I only fake when I was get tired. Sometimes I just want to get some sleep so I fake because I know he will continue until I cum.
08/08/2012
PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
Never have and never will!
08/08/2012
Kitka Kitka
Never have and don't plan on it.
08/08/2012
edeneve edeneve
I did when I was young cuz I didn't know what an orgasm was like & if I didn't have one there was something wrong & I felt responsible for saving "his" ego - I don't now! - haven't for years, actually.
08/08/2012
MK434 MK434
I don't fake it.
08/08/2012
travelnurse travelnurse
I had previously, now with the toys I have no problems. My husband is a type 1 diabetic and things haven't been working as well and he has been having issues with himself. He has been getting into a funk because it isn't as hard as it used to be and I don't want to compound his negative feelings. We have gone to a urologist previously and we will be going back.
08/08/2012
Abombadong Abombadong
no i dont think i could either
08/10/2012
sexytileena / absolutely love sex sexytileena / absolutely love sex
I know woman have
08/10/2012
Badass Badass
Every girl has done that at least once in her life.
08/10/2012
Dixiemomma Dixiemomma
i did fake it when i was younger and inexperienced and didnt want to insult my husband that the time... i no longer do, if he doesnt get me off i'll just do it myself after LOL they HATE that and generally learn to do better job in future hehe
08/10/2012
raven pixie raven pixie
Never.
08/10/2012
AK Bunny AK Bunny
Quote:
Originally posted by Lady Hazel
Have you ever faked just too save your mans ego??
Bad for you and him, how can he ever improve if you 'orgasm' when he does all the wrong things?!?
08/12/2012
KRD KRD
I faked it in the past to get it over with. I made the mistake of sleeping with a guy who was terrible in bed. bad experience all around! haha
08/14/2012
molly molly
To be honest, I've never had to fake--I come 99.9% of the time. And if I don't, I am usually asked what I want to do, and sometimes I just want to stop! Honesty and communication usually means that there aren't a ton of bad feelings. Plus, "ego" is something I think we both try to NOT be in the bedroom.
08/18/2012
bettle590 bettle590
Never ever
08/19/2012
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Unique posters: 127