The Ever-Elusive G-Spot Orgasm

Hey Becky. I know it's hard, but I find I'm most likely to squirt when I'm not thinking about it. The concentration somehow makes it harder... Keeping the rest of your body relaxed might help too- some of the times I surprised myself (and partner!) with ejaculation were when I was totally blissed-out and not tense anywhere in my body. As far as toys- some people swear by the Pure Wand for this type of stimulation. A toy with harder material might be a good idea- if you like metal or glass, experiment with those.
Good luck! Reply

that sounds like good ideas, thanks for the help! Reply

First of all, let me tell you that you're not alone...many people are in the same boat.

Also, there IS a difference between G-spot orgasms and female ejaculation. Sometimes they do happen together (and what a show!), but you can definitely have a G-spot orgasm without "squirting."

Have you ever tried using your partner's fingers? If they reach two or three fingers inside you while you're on your back (palm towards the ceiling), and make a "come here" motion, that should hit it. However, remember that the G-spot isn't like an arm or an ear; it isn't always there. It only shows up when you're aroused. So make sure you're super turned on, and then try it.

Also, CW is right. Goals are good to have, but sometimes if you're so focused on them, they are incredibly hard to achieve (I have this one goal, and I swear, thinking about it is the only thing keeping me from getting there!).

So, to recap:
*Relax
*Know you're not alone
*Try a variety of toys (I favor the Pure Wand - only thing that has ever made me "squirt")
*Try your partners fingers as per above
*Don't think about it too much
*Have fun experimenting. Goal oriented sex is fun, but pleasure oriented sex is so much MORE fun!

Hope that helps!
-EE Reply

i'm totally the same way becky, i wish i could finish from g-spot stimulation, and generally its not easy to make me finish, although maybe a gspot orgasm will happen for me eventually, my current boyfriend was my first and we've only been having sex for a year and a 1/2, but sometimes i feel a little guilty for taking a long amount of time to finish but it is what it is. i keep hoping ill figure out better what works for me, but for the most part vibrators and clit stimulations mostly the only thing that works. i think im definitely going to have to check out some of these suggestions, but ive had that need to pee sensation and its SO distracting, usually i cant stand it or im so focused on it that its hard to enjoy what im doing. Reply

Here's a really strange suggestion, but try wearing socks during sex? You can find many articles online from reliable sources about it being easier for both men and women to achieve orgasm while wearing socks. It's not the sexiest thing in the world, but it actually does seem to work, in my experience... Reply

Try metal and glass toys with really pronounced heads. Squishy, soft, realistic textured toys do NOT help me to achieve a g-spot orgasm. I thought they were impossible... until I tried glass and then once I tried metal, oh geez, I can't stop myself from having them. Reply

Why is that? Does coldness help? A hard plastic toy wouldn't do it? Reply

Hardness allows for firmer pressure, and yes, a hard plastic toy would work as well as metal or glass (though metal and glass are smoother which I do think helps some). Reply

Combination of hardness; metal or glass but with a curve works for me. Soft toys don.t always work, I love firm pressure.
The NJoy Pure Wand is my all time favorite; never fails me and I too have squirted using the Pure Wand. Reply