The Ever-Elusive G-Spot Orgasm

Becky Becky
Hello all,

I have been trying to a long time to acheive G-Spot orgasms, but have had no success. I am able to reach the point where I feel I need to urinate (this happens on a regular basis almost every time I make love), but it never progresses past that (no matter how long my partner and I continue with our lovemaking). I get to the point where I feel I need to "let go" but I can't seem to.

I've also tried having a G-Spot orgasm with toys, but the closest I ever seem to get is when I'm having sex with my partner.

Does anybody have any advice or tips? Is there something I need to do once I get the feeling that I need to urinate? I've read all kinds of advice websites and stuff but they've never been all that helpful, and I figured talking to real people would be best. Any advice would be awesome! Thanks so much!

Becky(:
05/19/2008
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Cock Wrangler Cock Wrangler
Hey Becky. I know it's hard, but I find I'm most likely to squirt when I'm not thinking about it. The concentration somehow makes it harder... Keeping the rest of your body relaxed might help too- some of the times I surprised myself (and partner!) with ejaculation were when I was totally blissed-out and not tense anywhere in my body. As far as toys- some people swear by the Pure Wand for this type of stimulation. A toy with harder material might be a good idea- if you like metal or glass, experiment with those.
Good luck!
05/19/2008
Becky Becky
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Originally posted by Cock Wrangler
Hey Becky. I know it's hard, but I find I'm most likely to squirt when I'm not thinking about it. The concentration somehow makes it harder... Keeping the rest of your body relaxed might help too- some of the times I surprised myself (and ... More
that sounds like good ideas, thanks for the help!
05/20/2008
Essin' Em Essin' Em
First of all, let me tell you that you're not alone...many people are in the same boat.

Also, there IS a difference between G-spot orgasms and female ejaculation. Sometimes they do happen together (and what a show!), but you can definitely have a G-spot orgasm without "squirting."

Have you ever tried using your partner's fingers? If they reach two or three fingers inside you while you're on your back (palm towards the ceiling), and make a "come here" motion, that should hit it. However, remember that the G-spot isn't like an arm or an ear; it isn't always there. It only shows up when you're aroused. So make sure you're super turned on, and then try it.

Also, CW is right. Goals are good to have, but sometimes if you're so focused on them, they are incredibly hard to achieve (I have this one goal, and I swear, thinking about it is the only thing keeping me from getting there!).

So, to recap:
*Relax
*Know you're not alone
*Try a variety of toys (I favor the Pure Wand - only thing that has ever made me "squirt")
*Try your partners fingers as per above
*Don't think about it too much
*Have fun experimenting. Goal oriented sex is fun, but pleasure oriented sex is so much MORE fun!

Hope that helps!
-EE
05/31/2008
dare2defy dare2defy
i'm totally the same way becky, i wish i could finish from g-spot stimulation, and generally its not easy to make me finish, although maybe a gspot orgasm will happen for me eventually, my current boyfriend was my first and we've only been having sex for a year and a 1/2, but sometimes i feel a little guilty for taking a long amount of time to finish but it is what it is. i keep hoping ill figure out better what works for me, but for the most part vibrators and clit stimulations mostly the only thing that works. i think im definitely going to have to check out some of these suggestions, but ive had that need to pee sensation and its SO distracting, usually i cant stand it or im so focused on it that its hard to enjoy what im doing.
11/28/2008
Dame Demi Dame Demi
Here's a really strange suggestion, but try wearing socks during sex? You can find many articles online from reliable sources about it being easier for both men and women to achieve orgasm while wearing socks. It's not the sexiest thing in the world, but it actually does seem to work, in my experience...
11/29/2008
Sleeping Dreamer Sleeping Dreamer
Try metal and glass toys with really pronounced heads. Squishy, soft, realistic textured toys do NOT help me to achieve a g-spot orgasm. I thought they were impossible... until I tried glass and then once I tried metal, oh geez, I can't stop myself from having them.
11/29/2008
Tuesday Tuesday
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Originally posted by Sleeping Dreamer
Try metal and glass toys with really pronounced heads. Squishy, soft, realistic textured toys do NOT help me to achieve a g-spot orgasm. I thought they were impossible... until I tried glass and then once I tried metal, oh geez, I can't stop ... More
Why is that? Does coldness help? A hard plastic toy wouldn't do it?
12/01/2008
Bulma Bulma
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Originally posted by Tuesday
Why is that? Does coldness help? A hard plastic toy wouldn't do it?
Hardness allows for firmer pressure, and yes, a hard plastic toy would work as well as metal or glass (though metal and glass are smoother which I do think helps some).
12/01/2008
Liz2 Liz2
Combination of hardness; metal or glass but with a curve works for me. Soft toys don.t always work, I love firm pressure.
The NJoy Pure Wand is my all time favorite; never fails me and I too have squirted using the Pure Wand.
12/02/2008
Naughty Student Naughty Student
Quote:
Originally posted by Becky
Hello all,I have been trying to a long time to acheive G-Spot orgasms, but have had no success. I am able to reach the point where I feel I need to urinate (this happens on a regular basis almost every time I make love), but it never progresses past ... More
I think I have a similar issue. Sometimes the sex is so good and he is right on the spot and I get the pee feeling but it doesn't go beyond that but it feels so freakin good and I get super super wet. The trick I found has helped me to get a g-spot orgasm is a particular position coupled with manual stimulation of my clit (a vibe could be used as well).

I lay on my back and prop my hips up with a pillow. My partner places himself between my legs and the interior of my knees are held by the interior of his elbows (his hands rest on the bed). Think of it as similar to the position where your legs are propped up by his shoulders except they are propped by his arms instead. In this position my partner sees all of my body and can lean in to kiss me or suck my nipples but more importantly my legs are seperate allowing for better access to my clitoris. Clitoral stim coupled with the position help me acheive a g-spot orgasm.

Hope this helps!
04/01/2009
Adriana Ravenlust Adriana Ravenlust
I'm glad this popped up. I was about to ask a similar question myself.
04/02/2009
Adriana Ravenlust Adriana Ravenlust
-bumps-


Anyone have any techniques they want to share for using the Pure Wand? It really stimulates my G-spot but I haven't yet attained orgasm. )=
04/02/2009
Tuesday Tuesday
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Originally posted by Adriana Ravenlust
-bumps-


Anyone have any techniques they want to share for using the Pure Wand? It really stimulates my G-spot but I haven't yet attained orgasm. )=
Make sure your bladder isn't empty. I find that really helps. In fact I can't have a g-spot orgasm with a completely empty bladder.
04/02/2009
Nickisonehere Nickisonehere
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Originally posted by Dame Demi
Here's a really strange suggestion, but try wearing socks during sex? You can find many articles online from reliable sources about it being easier for both men and women to achieve orgasm while wearing socks. It's not the sexiest thing in ... More
Wait what, for real?
05/21/2009
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