A good beginner idea..

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A good beginner idea..

callsignhusker callsignhusker
We like to hold the other person's throat, not squeezing, just holding, it can be very erotic, light play.
03/14/2011
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(Re)tired Stripper (Re)tired Stripper
Quote:
Originally posted by callsignhusker
We like to hold the other person's throat, not squeezing, just holding, it can be very erotic, light play.
I agree; we did that as well, before progressing to any sort of pressure. It feels exceptionally submissive to have someone's hands around your neck, especially if you are tied up. It's a huge rush, because you know you can't do anything to stop them, and your life, essentially, is in their hands!

For starting to break people in to the BDSM world, I also really enjoy silk (or silk-like) sashes. They do restrain well, but they are soft, slippery, sexy, and non-threatening. I don't bring out the locking leather cuffs until much later

I also like light discipline roleplay, like schoolgirl/schoolboy gets a spanking kind of thing. Again, another big fantasy MANY people have that is really BDSM masquerading as vanilla!
03/15/2011
hjtee hjtee
I do like this idea. I don't mind a tiny bit of squeezing. Not enough to make me loose conciousness, just enough to have to take deeper breaths.
03/23/2011
MaryExy MaryExy
My guy definitely enjoys doing this to me. He likes seeing that I trust him to do it, even though he could easily hurt me if he actually wanted to.

@(Re)tired Stripper
Spanking was one of the earliest things we did. I find it interesting, though, that when he got interested in cuffs, he went right for the very kinky-looking, black leather cuffs. Not as light and fluffy as an innocent little spanking...
03/24/2011
callsignhusker callsignhusker
Yeah at first I was worried that I was doing something wrong but we both like it alot every once in awhile!
03/28/2011
Enchantedkitty Enchantedkitty
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Originally posted by callsignhusker
We like to hold the other person's throat, not squeezing, just holding, it can be very erotic, light play.
Totally agree!
04/02/2011
VanillaCupcake VanillaCupcake
Quote:
Originally posted by callsignhusker
We like to hold the other person's throat, not squeezing, just holding, it can be very erotic, light play.
That is exactly were me and my boyfriend started. It kind of turned us on to the whole thing
04/07/2011
IrishLassie IrishLassie
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Originally posted by callsignhusker
Yeah at first I was worried that I was doing something wrong but we both like it alot every once in awhile!
You aren't doing anything wrong if its something the turns you on. My husband I started out that way and have build uo trust to have him apply a fair amount of pressure. It is rather erortic.

For other types of play? Agreed with starting out with something non-threatening. silk sashes or ties, blindfolds, light spanking, light hair pulling, etc. The key is to keep light at first. You don't want to shock your partner. But its also going to depend on what you are wanting/willing to explore and the one thing to always always think about is communication. When started out I told him under no circumstance are you going to do x, y, z. I told him he hit/spank anything on me but my face and one night he decided he was going to lightly slap me. Totally caught me off guard I didn't know whbat to think. After we were done we talked about it. And while I did ultimately like I did wnt him to know it would have been nice to know beforehand he wanted to try it. Remeber to keep it light, talk about it, and if like something work your way up, don't just jump into something with both feet. Like (Re)tired stripper said don't go straight for the leather locking cuffs right away until you know its something that you like.
05/02/2011
ac0313 ac0313
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Originally posted by hjtee
I do like this idea. I don't mind a tiny bit of squeezing. Not enough to make me loose conciousness, just enough to have to take deeper breaths.
My GF likes this too. We do not do it everytime we have kink play, but it is fairly common for me to put one hand around her throat and apply a little pressure. She likes the dominance and submissiveness too!
05/02/2011
Bonesdance Bonesdance
I could see that being fun, but my wife is a little squeamish about her neck. At least she likes being spanked!
05/08/2011
Zombie Ghost Zombie Ghost
Another one here saying totally agree
05/19/2011
K101 K101
I don't really like the feeling of someone's hand on my throat. As much as I trust my partner, I'm not at all turned on by that. Which that's just me. I'm a weird-o, but I would prefer having my hair pulled at or something else.
05/19/2011
Armsjlove Armsjlove
My husband's only done this a couple of times but I enjoyed it immensely. ~ Arms
05/23/2011
NarcissisticLust NarcissisticLust
I really fluctuate with how much I appreciate this much control. In my mind, there is a very distinct line between control bondage and control of my vital signs. So, yes, sometimes I love this and it can really send me over the edge, other times it feels too much like edge play and I need to stop.
05/27/2011
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