Getting my wife more comfortable being a Dom?

Husband and Wife Husband and Wife
Looking for ways so my wife can be more dom. We do peg from time to time, but I would prefer some more bondage and being more submissive including watersports. Can anyone help?
Jan 8, 1:36 pm
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Ansley Ansley
The only one who can help you is your wife. Talk to her about what you want and explain why you want it and see if she's open to it.
Jan 8, 2:38 pm
dv8 dv8
Watch/read some BDSM erotica together so she can get some ideas of how to act and you two can discuss what you like and don't like.
Jan 8, 3:32 pm
Husband and Wife Husband and Wife
Quote:
Originally posted by dv8
Watch/read some BDSM erotica together so she can get some ideas of how to act and you two can discuss what you like and don't like.
Thanks great idea
Jan 8, 3:46 pm
Sera26 Sera26
I don't know about your wife, but I like porn, maybe you could show her some scenes of what you like.
Jan 9, 10:30 pm
callmeishmael callmeishmael
I agree with Stormy - the only way that your wife is going to know what you want and what you like is for you to be open and honest and begin a dialogue. You've already crossed the biggest hurdle - having found a woman with whom you feel comfortable enough to open up about your fantasies enough to get you to this point. Now all you need to do is continue to keep the lines of communication open.

But, be sure to make it a two way street. Ask her what you can do to enhance her intimate experiences. Perhaps even use that as your "in" or way to start the conversation. And, in case you've been buried in a cave for the last several years, there is a MASSIVE explosion of BDSM/fetish erotica that has become (dare I say) almost mainstream lately. Remember, women are more intellectual in their sexuality where we are more visual. If it was a guy, I'd suggest checking out some of the fantastic fetish porn that they are doing at Kink.com these days.

And, if your wife is in to that sort of thing - then by all means, you will not find a better site for content that is both on point and tasteful (but not too over the top like scat eating Koala bears like you'll find in most German porn). If she is not into watching something like that, then start looking for reading material - the whole 50 shades of grey crowd is a good place to start.

But, in my experience, in the end what will have the most impact on her - and allow your relationship to grow deeper and broader - is you honestly and openly exposing your deepest sexual secrets and the things that turn you on the most (and thus making yourself completely open, exposed and vulnerable). The beauty of submitting oneself to your partner - when you are in a true loving and trusting relationship - is that by opening yourself up in such a way, your partner cannot but help be 100% certain that (not only are you one kinky dude) but that you trust her IMPLICITLY with the deepest and darkest secrets of your psyche - places that you've never, ever let another single person come close to seeing.

In that way, this kind of lifestyle allows us to become closer to our partners that anyone out there in the vanilla world can ever even dream of. For me, that is truly the most intense part of submitting myself to my lover - giving her the knowledge to completely destroy my life should she choose to, yet having the trust and faith that, not only will she not do it, but that it will continue to bring us closer and closer together.

Still - it must be a two-way street. You must listen to and fulfill her desires (even if it means that you have to be something other than the sub every once in a while - unless, of course, you're willing to accept the fact that, if you cannot satisfy the same primal needs of hers that you are asking her to satisfy for you - that she will (in all likelihood) find someone else who will).

Complete emotional honesty in a relationship is a dangerous thing if you're not willing to get as much as you receive. If you cannot give back as much as you get, that is what professional dominas are for.

Good luck.
Jan 10, 7:50 pm
RomanticGoth RomanticGoth
What they said. ^^^
Apr 7, 8:35 pm
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