#Workshop - October 3rd @ 8pm EST: Prostate massage 101

One thing I forgot to mention in the video is when you are removing the toy. If it is after an orgasm (Or not), it should be removed the same way as you put it in, just reversed. I find that a toy that is in during orgasm tends to not want to come out. All the muscles in the pelvic region are tight, maybe even still spasing. Just like putting them in, take your time and do not force it. If the guy “pushes” out it will help and most time the toy will come out on its own. Just make sure to guide it out so the curved tip slips out the same way it went in. less

How long is the average inner sphincter?

I had never really noticed any difference from partner to partner, until my current partner, who's got muscles almost the entire length of my middle finger. Then I thought about it, and realized my muscles are way shorter than all the other male partners I've felt, but all of them were similar enough to each other that I didn't notice any differences.

Should this change my approach?

(My current partner is pretty new to receiving anal stimulation, we haven't found his prostate yet (which is weird, for me, because it clicked with most of my former partners on the first or second try).) less

Oh sure, one question I am not the best to ask. I have only had one but I cheated and use a stroker with a vibe in it. No stroking but still.

Most of the time when I am massaging and stroking, the orgasm is way more intense, more like a body O rather than a pelvic one. I ejaculate different too, probably cuz the pressure to the prostate restricts the flow somewhat. It does not come out in two or three spurts, but rather six or seven. A time or two I even gave myself a pearl necklace. lol less

So that's it folks, I hope I enlightened you some. There is tons, and I mean tons of info on the web and right here too. All you have to do is let your fingers do the walking. lol

Feel free anytime to ask me questions or for advice, as most of you know I am always here to help. less

A bit late, but I saw a few things to add:

If you can relax and have reliably thick saliva it can be used, but there are a couple problems with saliva. The first is that it isn't reliable - it can be thick and slick to start with and then go thin on you. Secondly it tends not to stay around as well as a real lube. Often you can easily get more, but sometimes your mouth goes dry or it's not quite thick enough or something else. Generally speaking it's better to stick with a real lube.

If you can get two fingers in there are a number of things you can do that are very fun for a change. Rotating the fingers provides a different type of stimulation, as does moving them individually up and down, one after the other. They'll slide past the other finger and give the prostate a "ka-bump". Neither of these replace firm stroking, but are nice to add now and then for a change.

Until you really know your butt I strongly recommend smooth toys, as they're easier/more comfortable to insert. less