Question for GUYS only, please. Is a partners willingness to accept anal play a make it or break it for you?

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Question for GUYS only, please. Is a partners willingness to accept anal play a make it or break it for you?

Bignuf Bignuf
If you desire anal sex as a part of your love life, would you or have you, accepted a long term relationship or marriage to someone who simply will not indulge in anal play?

Have you ever extracted yourself from a relationship because of that reason? If you stayed in that restricted relationship, without ability to feed your anal sex craving, has that caused friction?

Do you "hope" one day your NON Anal Sex partner will change their mind? Do you really think that is going to happen?
01/02/2012
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ScottA ScottA
I was "looking for life", so there were plenty of criteria more important than whether she immediately embraced anal play. I was willing for that to even be something that I sacrificed to show my love for her.

If she had never been interested then I still would have hoped, but in a lifelong relationship there's much that is more important.
01/02/2012
jg19 jg19
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Originally posted by ScottA
I was "looking for life", so there were plenty of criteria more important than whether she immediately embraced anal play. I was willing for that to even be something that I sacrificed to show my love for her.

If she had never been ...
I agree. If my wife hadnt been interested in it at all i would have been a little disappointed but we have so much more to in our life together that i wouldnt trade any of it for anal sex or anything else.
01/02/2012
Yossarian Yossarian
Love and sex aren't the same thing, of course, and I didn't have a sexual checklist when I was looking for "the one." The fact that she was willing to try anal play (in fact, it was her idea) only made me love my wife more, but I would have lived happily without it.

The fact that I like to play with my own ass is something that I've always kept to myself because I prefer being in complete control of those sorts of experiences. If she asked, I'd tell her. But I wouldn't just bring it up.
01/02/2012
El-Jaro El-Jaro
There are so many other things, I wouldn't use it alone as a make or break.
01/02/2012
MrWishyWashy MrWishyWashy
Wouldn't be a deal breaker for me....
01/02/2012
bsgs bsgs
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
If you desire anal sex as a part of your love life, would you or have you, accepted a long term relationship or marriage to someone who simply will not indulge in anal play?

Have you ever extracted yourself from a relationship because of that ...
my wife didnt want anything to do with anal for a long time, then one day while i was going down on her, i went too far south, and she really enjoyed it. now that is a part of normal sex for us (she gets so wet, its incredible really) i told her that it was something i really wanted to try at some point, but i wasnt going to pressure her into it, and that when she was ready, we'd start playing around a bit more. were starting to get some toys, and are talking more about the whole thing, so it will be good for both of us. so i guess, to answer your initial question, no, it is not a make or break thing for me, and yes, i do think that it is possible for a person to change their mind on a topic like this, especially if they can feel comfortable enough with you.
02/12/2012
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