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I wish my wife WOULD give me some directions. I've told her I want them, but she finds it hard to express what she wants. She's harder to please, and likes more different things, than any other woman I've been with. I sometimes feel
I wish my wife WOULD give me some directions. I've told her I want them, but she finds it hard to express what she wants. She's harder to please, and likes more different things, than any other woman I've been with. I sometimes feel I'm not doing a very good job, especially when she takes a long time. I don't really mind; I LOVE giving her head! I just pay attention to what she really likes, and what she doesn't respond well to, and strive to always get better.
I do give her directions. A long time ago, she told me that she likes it when I do. The results are nothing short of AMAZING.
I used to be the same way! We women are so conditioned against any hint of "selfishness" that it becomes very difficult to ask for what we want. Keep telling her how much you'd love to hear what she wants, how much it would turn you on, and how much more secure you'll feel that you're really making her feel good--which also turns you on, of course, yes?
I've learned that when directions are given in a positive way--telling your partner what you DO what, not what you don't--it comes across as sexy and helpful and generally awesome, whereas telling a partner you don't like what they're doing can be taken as more harsh and hurtful. No one's partner should be expected to just know
what you like, because each person is different: different sensitivity levels, different favorite spots, different favorite types of stimulation, etc. Don't be afraid to ask for what you want, in a gentle, sexy, positive manner! If you're not sure how, try reading some of the higher-quality erotica out there for ideas.