Giving Direction When Going Down?

Adriana Ravenlust Adriana Ravenlust
Uh, yes, I give directions. How else is someone going to know if they're doing it right.. or wrong?
04/29/2013
TheirPet TheirPet
Yes and I appreciate and LOVE it.
04/29/2013
mjtheprincess mjtheprincess
We're very good at giving directions. We both appreciate it and like to do what is best for the other person. I way rather have someone give me feedback then expect me to read their mind!
04/30/2013
The Mother of a SiNner The Mother of a SiNner
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Originally posted by PropertyOfPotter
Does your partner ever give you direction when you're going down on them? Does it bother you or do you appreciate it?

Do you ever give your partner direction? Is it because they aren't doing a good job, or you just want it a certain way?
we used to give directions now we just know what we like and where and it works for us but I think instructions are good in a sence so you know what the other person likes and what you ur self likes too
05/01/2013
charmedtomeetyou charmedtomeetyou
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Originally posted by mjtheprincess
We're very good at giving directions. We both appreciate it and like to do what is best for the other person. I way rather have someone give me feedback then expect me to read their mind!
this exactly...open communication is never a bad thing, as long as it's in the spirit of kindness
05/01/2013
Noelle Noelle
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Originally posted by PropertyOfPotter
Does your partner ever give you direction when you're going down on them? Does it bother you or do you appreciate it?

Do you ever give your partner direction? Is it because they aren't doing a good job, or you just want it a certain way?
He does, but I don't and I should.
05/02/2013
RomanticGoth RomanticGoth
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Originally posted by bog
I LOVE receiving direction; I like when things are clear and I know what's going on, as opposed to guessing. In my experience, people prefer not giving direction because they don't want to be seen as demanding. I say, demand away; I am free ... More
^^^ This.

I love getting directions. It makes things so much easier and I know I'm doing what they like. I hate guessing or doing a routine.
05/02/2013
CS2012 CS2012
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Originally posted by PropertyOfPotter
Does your partner ever give you direction when you're going down on them? Does it bother you or do you appreciate it?

Do you ever give your partner direction? Is it because they aren't doing a good job, or you just want it a certain way?
I love it when I am giving directions. I want to please my partner.
05/02/2013
TJtheMadHatter TJtheMadHatter
He'll tell me if something hurts, if he's close, or if he liked something I just did. If he goes down, I'll guide him, tell him to not stop, or if something hurts. I have no problem telling him what I want or what I like.
05/02/2013
pixiedustVixen pixiedustVixen
im totally with spiced . i Wish i could give directions hubby dont do that stuff to me.. but i suck like a vacccum hahaa
05/02/2013
HoneyBear69 HoneyBear69
gotta know where to go
05/02/2013
FieryRed FieryRed
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Originally posted by butts
the few times I've received, I've given a bit of direction and he seems happy to be told what to do.

When I give, I don't mind him verbally asking for specific things, I'll happily do what he wants. BUT I absolutely hate it ... More
Oh dude. His repeated disregard for your boundaries is not okay. I mean, it sounds like you've told him many times, so it is no longer forgetting; it's him doing something non-consensual to you. Technically, it's assault. I would seriously advise you to at least stop what you're doing and leave the room the moment he uses his hands in this way. Also, be very aware of whether similar things are happening in other areas of your relationship, whether he's pushing other boundaries of yours withour consideration for your wants and needs.
05/03/2013
FieryRed FieryRed
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Originally posted by spiced
I wish my wife WOULD give me some directions. I've told her I want them, but she finds it hard to express what she wants. She's harder to please, and likes more different things, than any other woman I've been with. I sometimes feel ... More
I used to be the same way! We women are so conditioned against any hint of "selfishness" that it becomes very difficult to ask for what we want. Keep telling her how much you'd love to hear what she wants, how much it would turn you on, and how much more secure you'll feel that you're really making her feel good--which also turns you on, of course, yes?

I've learned that when directions are given in a positive way--telling your partner what you DO what, not what you don't--it comes across as sexy and helpful and generally awesome, whereas telling a partner you don't like what they're doing can be taken as more harsh and hurtful. No one's partner should be expected to just know what you like, because each person is different: different sensitivity levels, different favorite spots, different favorite types of stimulation, etc. Don't be afraid to ask for what you want, in a gentle, sexy, positive manner! If you're not sure how, try reading some of the higher-quality erotica out there for ideas.
05/03/2013
FieryRed FieryRed
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Originally posted by pixiedustVixen
im totally with spiced . i Wish i could give directions hubby dont do that stuff to me.. but i suck like a vacccum hahaa
Hubby don't do that stuff? Uh, forgive my wording, but what the hell is wrong with him? Is it possible that he's insecure about knowing how? If this is something you want him to do, as it sounds like it is, you should have a conversation with him about it. Not at a time when you're in the middle of sex, but sometime like after dinner, when you're both relaxed and in a good mood. Let him know that you enjoy going down on him, and love making him feel so good, and you'd love it if he'd do the same for you.
05/03/2013
wicked48 wicked48
We both give directions. I don't mind and I appreciate being able to please him.
05/03/2013
Love Bites Love Bites
Quote:
Originally posted by PropertyOfPotter
Does your partner ever give you direction when you're going down on them? Does it bother you or do you appreciate it?

Do you ever give your partner direction? Is it because they aren't doing a good job, or you just want it a certain way?
I think sometimes my partner does, but I don't mind. I enjoy pleasuring him, so any guidance to make him enjoy it more is welcome. He also does it in a sexy way.

I don't do it to my partner, mostly because he doesn't really go down on me.
05/03/2013
SMichelle SMichelle
Quote:
Originally posted by PropertyOfPotter
Does your partner ever give you direction when you're going down on them? Does it bother you or do you appreciate it?

Do you ever give your partner direction? Is it because they aren't doing a good job, or you just want it a certain way?
Yes, he does sometimes give me directions while going down, and I appreciate it.

I don't give him direction when he's going down on me, though, because I don't feel comfortable doing so. He does well on his own, anyway.
05/03/2013
Sbmsvschoolgirl Sbmsvschoolgirl
I appreciate it. Then I know what he likes and how to do it better
05/06/2013
Trixxxy Trixxxy
I just give direction when i need something changed in order for it to feel better
05/08/2013
MsDrProfKitty MsDrProfKitty
My guy usually tells me afterward like "next time you should [ ] more" and I keep telling him to tell me right then but he forgets haha

Yeah, I definitely direct when he's down there and he loves it!
05/12/2013
FieryRed FieryRed
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Originally posted by MsDrProfKitty
My guy usually tells me afterward like "next time you should [ ] more" and I keep telling him to tell me right then but he forgets haha

Yeah, I definitely direct when he's down there and he loves it!
I can see how being told afterward what someone would have liked more would be quite frustrating!
05/15/2013
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