How many people use dildos on their partner at the same as giving clitoral pressure orally?

trios trios
I just starting using dildos with my wife and she seems to have stronger orgasms when I lick her clitoris and give tongue pressure. Didn't know how common this was out there. I do this as a MFM threesome fetish.
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Yes, we do this alot.
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Sometimes, to add some spice.
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Never done it, never will.
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1  (1%)
Never thought about it, may try it.
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04/30/2010
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El-Jaro El-Jaro
As long as there isn't over-stimulation, it's all good
04/30/2010
Sammi Sammi
Overstimulation works here
04/30/2010
ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
Sends the wife tough the roof.
But she doesn't like it all the time.
04/30/2010
Laccaria Laccaria
With the right dildo (and the right partner) this can be amazing.
04/30/2010
Laccaria Laccaria
With the right dildo (and the right partner) this can be amazing.
04/30/2010
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Just started doing this recently - I usually us the Alumina Flow because it's smooth enough to not require lubrication. But I must say that we don't go all the way to orgasm - it's just foreplay for us.
05/01/2010
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
We've used a dildo during oral and done oral during PIV sex both are amazing!
05/05/2010
LavenderLive LavenderLive
Quote:
Originally posted by trios
I just starting using dildos with my wife and she seems to have stronger orgasms when I lick her clitoris and give tongue pressure. Didn't know how common this was out there. I do this as a MFM threesome fetish.
We do this quite a bit in a range of combinations:
1. Tongue on clitoris, vibrator in vagina or fingers in vagina.
2. Vibrator on clitoris, tongue in vagina or fingers in vagina.
3. Penis in vagina, vibrator on clitoris or fingers on clitoris.
4. Penis and vibrator in vagina, fingers on clitoris.
etc...etc...

The additional sensations are amazing. These are just some of the variations. Additional variations include different forms of anal stimulation at the same time. The combinatins are endless, especially if you are able to bring in another woman or man so that you have more fingers, hands and tongues.
05/22/2010
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Quote:
Originally posted by trios
I just starting using dildos with my wife and she seems to have stronger orgasms when I lick her clitoris and give tongue pressure. Didn't know how common this was out there. I do this as a MFM threesome fetish.
Threesomes - for a long time my wife was strictly a clit-vibe girl. For a change of pace I bought a rabbit vibe she loved it - but wouldn't let me turn on the rotating shaft. When I asked why she said that having the shaft inside gave her something to bear down on - to squeeze - and this is what made her orgasms more intense.

Since them she's learned to love the rotating shaft as well - it's been an evolution of tastes and experiences.
05/25/2010
trios trios
Quote:
Originally posted by Gunsmoke
Threesomes - for a long time my wife was strictly a clit-vibe girl. For a change of pace I bought a rabbit vibe she loved it - but wouldn't let me turn on the rotating shaft. When I asked why she said that having the shaft inside gave her ... More
Thanks Lavender and Gunsmoke for all of your suggestions!

We have done this a few times, and 2 out of 4 times my wife has had amazing prolonged orgasms! Lately, the last two times though she has not been able to. Not sure why, could it be technique (or hormones, as my wife says). Am trying to stay away from vibrators for now, as the saying goes that she may become dependent on them (how true is this?). This may change as we continue to explore oral sex!

I have a question: how much dildo "driving" and what speed is the best with this method. Am still playing around with angles, speed, etc. I start slowly and then speed up as she gets into it, almost like how a real threesome would be. Not sure if I need to slow down the dildo and do more clitoral stim or 50-50, etc. Also may get a g-spot dildo (use mustang and cybercock or fingers currently), or a vibrator, or maybe need to go larger. Any thoughts?
05/26/2010
Rossie Rossie
Besides tongue on clit and a g-spot dildo in vagina, try inserting a butt plug (i.e. Pure Plug) or a finger anally to add extra stimulation. I get screaming orgasms every time my husband does that during foreplay.
05/26/2010
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Quote:
Originally posted by trios
Thanks Lavender and Gunsmoke for all of your suggestions!

We have done this a few times, and 2 out of 4 times my wife has had amazing prolonged orgasms! Lately, the last two times though she has not been able to. Not sure why, could it be ... More
Threesomes - try to respond to your questions:
1. Not sure why - happens all the time for us. What ever worked the last time or two invariably fails. This is a good thing! Keep changing things up - it also gives you the perfect excuse to try new things!

2. Depend on vibrators - there's a lot of opinion about this. I've heard many say no it doesn't happen. My take is that there is some impact. We started with clit vibes years ago and I'd have to say that giving my wife an orgasm via oral is near impossible. She has very strong vaginal orgasms through penetration - me or a dildo - but for her clit - only a vibe will do!

3. Dildo 'driving' - this is an excellent question. Being monogamous I can only speak about my lover's preferences. Size matters. When we first started the dildos were modest in size - less than 1.5". Because pressure is a factor I purchased a tapered dildo that would prepare her for larger sizes 1.5" to 1.75". Her max now is the 2" O2 Revolution.

Generally speaking I always use plenty of lube and start out fairly shallow and slow. As she becomes more aroused there will be less resistance to deeper strokes - until the point where she really wants more deep and starts pushing back at the thrusts searching for that deep stimulation. You just have to be in tune with her preferences - they will change regularly (the hormone thing I suppose).

Finally about 'driving' - materials have a lot to do with this. She loves hard glass and metal dildos but for obvious reasons those are the ones that you have to be most careful with. In spite of this, she'll push back looking for more - have an explosive orgasm and later complain about being sore. When pressed she just says it's worth it!

Beyond glass and metal we have firm silicone dildos to use when she wants something a bit softer (like last night). Same technique - start out shallow and slow - go deeper and faster as her reactions dictate.

Finally there's the fabulous dual-density silicone like the O2 Revolution. The squishy outer layer has great give that she can squeeze on to great effect and the soft head can impact her deeply without discomfort. Because of the large head she prefers short deep strokes with this one. The big head provides continuous g-spot & 1-spot stimulation.

My wife rarely has an orgasm with just a dildo (the nJoy Pure Wand is the exception) - so she always has her favorite clit vibe handy when she wants to 'finish' - the combination usually results in a blended vaginal-clit orgasm that lasts far longer than a simple clit orgasm that tends to be sharp-and-short. Great fun isn't it
05/26/2010
trios trios
Quote:
Originally posted by Gunsmoke
Threesomes - try to respond to your questions:
1. Not sure why - happens all the time for us. What ever worked the last time or two invariably fails. This is a good thing! Keep changing things up - it also gives you the perfect excuse to try new ... More
You rock Gunsmoke! Thanks for answering.

As far as "hormones" go, I think for us it is more foreplay- touching etc. It has worked last night.

#3 you said that size matters. I saw the Lonestar review and would really like to add that to our collection. But I am hesitant to get something too much bigger than me (I think it dwarfs me). I was wondering if/ my fear is that if I get bigger dildos, will she continue to need bigger and bigger ones as she gets stretched?

I think it was you that owned the Basix rubber. If so, does it have any give? Does it stink?

Also, what's 1-spot stimulation?

Am looking to add a good G-spot dil to our collection (Mustang and cyberskin), lots of options including glass like you mentioned.

I like to use dildos on my wife for "my night", which is about once per week, so I want to be ready!
05/27/2010
Sir Sir
I do not do it to "add spice," but I also do not do it all of the time. I do it when the occasion calls for it - sometimes, though, if I want to penetrate the partner while also using my tongue, I'll just use my fingers, rather than grabbing for an insertable.
05/27/2010
~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
My guy is amazing at oral and I am trembling as is, but sometimes we add it for a change.
05/27/2010
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Quote:
Originally posted by trios
You rock Gunsmoke! Thanks for answering.

As far as "hormones" go, I think for us it is more foreplay- touching etc. It has worked last night.

#3 you said that size matters. I saw the Lonestar review and would really like to ... More
Ok - more experiences;

Don't expect that what worked last night will work tonight! In fact it's safer to assume it will not! Keep trying new things.

As for size - we've found the max for my wife - and it's the O2 Revolution - about 2". When we use the O2 and have intercourse afterward - I can tell - but my wife is skilled enough with her hip movements to still get me off. Honestly both of us usually prefer something just a little smaller. The ideal size and texture is the Fun Factory Tiger - it's nearly perfect.

Yes we have the Basix - I don't recommend it. We have to use a condom on it because of her reaction to the material. Having said that - the bulbous head creates great g-spot pressure. Haven't thrown it away yet - but since we got the O2 - it may not be long.

1-spot is a typo. It's called the A-spot. It stands for Anterior Fornix Erogenous zone - which is the junction of the vagina and cervix on the anterior (front side). Stimulation of this spot usually results in very high levels of natural lubrication. We leverage this in two ways. In the later phases of using a dildo she will press her hips back toward me so that the tip of the dildo massages the A-spot creating a gushing effect. Second is when in the cowgirl position she will 'position' me with her hips - then grind to an explosive orgasm. It's a great position because her clit is grinding on my pelvic bone (I shave - so it's smooth) while me erection dances on her A-spot.

We also purchased the Tantus Maverick - nice size, but she doesn't care for it. It's just large with no texturing like the smaller Tiger or soft tapered design like the O2. Don't think we'd like cyberskin - just a personal preference.

For your g-spot toy you cannot go wrong with the Tiger. She'll love the size and texture - it also has a great g-spot curve. Then add some glass and steel - they add that cool 'shock value' that works so well on hot summer nights!

I can tell you're going to be have'n some fun!
05/28/2010
trios trios
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Originally posted by Sir
I do not do it to "add spice," but I also do not do it all of the time. I do it when the occasion calls for it - sometimes, though, if I want to penetrate the partner while also using my tongue, I'll just use my fingers, rather than ... More
thanks for the input! I do use my finger(s) sometimes along with tongue action. My wife seems to like the Cyberskin dildo better; she says it could be too much stimulation when I use my fingers. Still exploring, don't have much experience (after 7 years of marriage!), but maybe I will go slower with 1 finger rather than try a fast "come here" with one or the running man. any tidbits with finger action (probably individual tastes I suppose)?
05/30/2010
trios trios
Quote:
Originally posted by Gunsmoke
Ok - more experiences;

Don't expect that what worked last night will work tonight! In fact it's safer to assume it will not! Keep trying new things.

As for size - we've found the max for my wife - and it's the O2 ... More
You know your anatomy! I do know about the A spot, still exploring the A and G (musical scales anyone?).

Thanks for the feedback on the O2 rev and Basix. Kinda nervous about anything too big, but will check into the Tiger (saw the review) which may be on the big size, but maybe in the future.

Believe it or not my wife likes the Cyberskin (cinnamon) better than the Mustang so far. (have only used mustang once or twice though). It does have a bulbous head then narrow shaft, and that may be what she doesn' like. Will check into texture, will have her check out the tiger review and see how she reacts...

Its funny how I am the one to introduce my wife to toys/dildos! But the more she feels how strong the orgasms are along with my oral action, she may eventually be hooked!

Gunsmoke, is there an optimal position for you and your wife that you find to be best?
05/30/2010
The Nakanas The Nakanas
Quote:
Originally posted by trios
I just starting using dildos with my wife and she seems to have stronger orgasms when I lick her clitoris and give tongue pressure. Didn't know how common this was out there. I do this as a MFM threesome fetish.
I do this to my wife every once in awhile, but she's very sensitive so we have to communicate to make sure it doesn't get too strong.
05/31/2010
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Quote:
Originally posted by trios
You know your anatomy! I do know about the A spot, still exploring the A and G (musical scales anyone?).

Thanks for the feedback on the O2 rev and Basix. Kinda nervous about anything too big, but will check into the Tiger (saw the review) ... More
I'm with you - my wife would never have thought to buy or use a dildo - but she's sure glad I've bought so many. She has a hard time making up her mind what she's in the mood for! Now she just grabs a few that we often work our way through!

You asked about positions - started with just the basic missionary - and still do that a lot. Right now our favorite is to prop her hips on the Liberator Wedge - the wedge along with our Liberator Thoe have to be the two most underrated sex-aids available. Elevating her hips makes oral sex much easier - positions her well for g-spot & a-spot work with a dildo and finally it makes regular 'missionary' sex way more stimulating. She even likes how the tilt makes her breasts more accessible for self-stimulation while I'm busy down-below.

Recently I've started to do it in the dogige position - I was surprised but she really seems to like the change-of-pace. I'm going to be trying more often - trying to get her to thrust her hips for optimal penetration - she'll love the feeling and I'll learn what works!

Don't want to sound like a sales guy - but the Tiger is a can't miss buy!
05/31/2010
trios trios
Quote:
Originally posted by The Nakanas
I do this to my wife every once in awhile, but she's very sensitive so we have to communicate to make sure it doesn't get too strong.
When you do this, do you bring it up or does she ask for it?
06/02/2010
trios trios
Quote:
Originally posted by Gunsmoke
I'm with you - my wife would never have thought to buy or use a dildo - but she's sure glad I've bought so many. She has a hard time making up her mind what she's in the mood for! Now she just grabs a few that we often work our way ... More
I notice that my head/neck is into full extension if her pelvis is not tilted. Will try the wedge next time (have it but it is in the closet...).

I want to do it this in the 69 doggy style position so I can see the dildo slide in and out while I work on her with my mouth. Not quite sure if her head will get tired, may need to put pillows on my legs for her to rest.

I put the Tiger on my wishlist!

Thanks for your input. Its worth a thousand sessions!
06/02/2010
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Quote:
Originally posted by trios
I notice that my head/neck is into full extension if her pelvis is not tilted. Will try the wedge next time (have it but it is in the closet...).

I want to do it this in the 69 doggy style position so I can see the dildo slide in and out while ... More
I agree that part of the allure is visual. The wedge work well in that position as well. It's kinda cool that if you use a heavier metal or glass toy you can draw it out and let gravity draw it back in. With a soft tough like that you can see you her contractions come into play. Sometimes they will push it out - other times they'll draw it in deeper than you thought was possible/comfortable. It's a good measure of her level of arousal - the more aroused she is the deeper she'll want to take it - obviously within reason.

I'm trying to figure out a way to introduce double penetration into this scenario - if you've got any advice for me - I'd love to hear it!
06/02/2010
trios trios
Quote:
Originally posted by Gunsmoke
I agree that part of the allure is visual. The wedge work well in that position as well. It's kinda cool that if you use a heavier metal or glass toy you can draw it out and let gravity draw it back in. With a soft tough like that you can see you ... More
Will definitely have to dust off the ol' wedge!

I thought about using my finger at the same time. What I had in mind was her in 69 position over me - she's on top. Then with 2 hands free I would use a dildo and provide oral stim with my mouth, and I would use a free finger in her bottom. She may not like this, as she is easily turned off by 'too much stimulation'. But it may be worth a try one day - maybe she'd love it!
06/05/2010
♥ Amanda ♥ ♥ Amanda ♥
I will vote for my man! He uses one from time to time. And I like a change up.
06/29/2010
trios trios
I recently realized that this is exactly what the rabbit vibrators do- clitoral plus G spot stimulation! And I thought I was clever!
07/01/2010
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Quote:
Originally posted by trios
I recently realized that this is exactly what the rabbit vibrators do- clitoral plus G spot stimulation! And I thought I was clever!
Yep - my wife loves the original Decadent Indulgence. In any case opt for 4 AAs. The 3 AA versions are cheaper but don't have enough power for both strong vibes and rotations.
07/02/2010
P'Gell P'Gell
Hell YES!!!! (I guess I'm voting for My Man. We LOVE to do this, it's wonderful!!!!)

Gunsmoke asked: "'m trying to figure out a way to introduce double penetration into this scenario - if you've got any advice for me - I'd love to hear it!" END QUOTE (I don't know how to do quotes without quoting the entire post yet.)

Yes, this was one of the ways we eased into DP and anal. I almost always have to come a few times before we have anal, and the familiar sensation of vaginal penetration makes anal even more happy for beginners. (We're not beginners anymore, but we still do it this way.) He'll often get me to come this way and then just leave the dil or vibe in and flip me over.....or sometimes just add a string of anal beads or a dil with a condom over it, for the back door, while he's going down. AMAZING!
07/05/2010
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
Hell YES!!!! (I guess I'm voting for My Man. We LOVE to do this, it's wonderful!!!!)

Gunsmoke asked: "'m trying to figure out a way to introduce double penetration into this scenario - if you've got any advice for me - ... More
P'Gell - thanks for the advice. I think my biggest hurdle is getting her to agree to experimenting with anal stimulation. The up-front orgasm is a great idea - it's the beginning for most all experimenting we do. I'll definitely try your suggestion.
07/05/2010
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