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Agreed Supervixen I may have tilted the question slightly. It is silly to ruin an otherwise fantastic relationship over experiance levels. However, mind blowing sex is going to create a chemical bond. Sex can be used as a weapon. Every
Agreed Supervixen I may have tilted the question slightly. It is silly to ruin an otherwise fantastic relationship over experiance levels. However, mind blowing sex is going to create a chemical bond. Sex can be used as a weapon. Every relationship stands on its own merit. Its not silly to feel that you don't want to be bonded to a person that you don't completely know.
Also, as Freud would state it all our insecurities and nuerosis are connected to sex.
I'm sorry, I'm not following that logic. Because we form bonds through sexual intimacy, we should assume that because someone doesn't showcase their entire sexual repertoire on the first go around, but is clearly experienced, that it's potentially a bad thing, and we don't "completely know them" right off the bat. Of course you don't--you never know anyone completely off the bat, if ever. And why the emphasis on sex? You form bonds with people you don't completely know all the time, and all aspects of a relationship take time to be revealed, not just the sexual parts. Just because someone is more sexually experienced and has more to reveal over time in that sense, it doesn't mean that you know the less sexually experienced partner any more than the experienced one...you only know what people choose to let you in on, whether that's about sex or not.
I'm sorry, the whole premise sounds like insecurity over sexual prowess and fear over another person's experiences reflecting poorly upon the less experienced person. And it's neurotic, in my opinion. You form bonds in all kinds of ways with other people, and singling out good sex as a reason to halt a relationship is just...kind of silly, in my honest opinion. There are about a billion and a half reasons to not pursue relationships with certain people...this seems like a silly thing to add to the list. But hey, that's just my perspective. What seems silly to me might seem really important to another person.
Whatever works for you, I suppose.