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my whole purpose of this thread is to help women with their confidence. they come to expect and take for granted the compliments they get from their man who they know wants to have sex with them. a compliment from a stranger could really boost
my whole purpose of this thread is to help women with their confidence. they come to expect and take for granted the compliments they get from their man who they know wants to have sex with them. a compliment from a stranger could really boost their confidence. i am hoping to do more of this without it seeming like i am hitting on a woman.
Good for you! I compliment people all the time because I figure, if I am thinking it and it's positive, then why wouldn't I share it with them? Sometimes people, especially women, are suspicious of motive, but, for the most part, they are really taken aback & then happy to hear it. And if they don't like a compliment? Then they have issues nobody else is going to "fix"! It's not like you said something negative, right? So, to a degree, I say tough if someone reacts strangely to a compliment. That said...
You know, I think the other responses have an excellent point about about the "trapped" situation. That may well be your big answer as to the problem. Now, if the compliment came right as one of you was leaving the "trapped" situation, then that would be a better way to play that one.
For the most part, a sincere smile is really all you need. It's really hard to take that the "wrong way"! I'd start with that the most & see what a difference that makes. Then I'd up it to complimenting something the woman did, not necessarily her looks. You know, telling the checkout girl she was a breath of fresh air. Then moving on to, that ring is really pretty, you look great with your hair like that, what a beautiful color that is on you...I think it's the timing, saying it as you leave so they are not forced to give you much of a reaction other than "Thank you", as you leave. The sticking around part makes it look like you want more interaction than just giving a compliment & that is something that must be contributing to the creep factor!
I would be interested to know how this goes for you! If you can, would you post later about your progress? It will be interesting to hear about your experiences with this! Just remember, some people cannot take a compliment & don't let that discourage you. Even when a woman acts at the moment like she doesn't get it, or appreciate it, later on, it may really make her day when she processes it all. You never know how much it could mean to someone & sometimes it makes their day!
By the way, the compliment Woman China got about lighting up, that has to be one of the best compliments I have heard in a long time!