How to get my man to want it?

"play with his ass" as in outside or is there some inside action going on?

Context is very important. Sometimes it's even interior (in his mind) context - for a brief period anal finger play was completely unsexy to me becasue for some reason I started associating it with medical things.

I can't give much advice other than talk it out, and keep on doing what you both agree to. Unilateral action on your part will definitely result in a bad reaction.

Perhaps you can try massaging the perineal area - the area between the anus and scrotum. There are spots here where you can stimulate the prostate somewhat, although it isn't nearly as direct or good-feeling as direct stimulation.

Peer pressure by people he doesn't know probably won't help, but you can point out all the guys here in happy relationships with woman who enjoy anal play.

Thank you everyone I got some good advice

Ask if you can play with his ass while giving him a blowjob. This somewhat violates my "don't try anything unilaterally" comment, but the combination feels great. You can slowly start working a little further in each time until you hit that spot, and then he'll come 'round. Expect to give him several BJs, though.

First time I had it one was by my then girlfriend. She and I had watched some porn that had prostate stimulation in it and I was sort of open to the idea. She went down on me and then got me to turn on my stomach. She then massaged and kissed all over my back and ass and eventually got around to rimming me. After a whileshe started to play with a finger and I was so relaxed at that point it just slid in. It was a weird sensation at first but not bad. She then had me roll back over and finished the blowjob while stroking my p-spot. I have been hooked ever since. Just take things very slowly and maybe watch some videos that have that in there. Hope that helps.

Ugh, I would love if my guy wanted anal play. Mostly because I'd love to peg him. I don't push the subject with him, but sometimes I'll joke around with him about it, just to see if maybe he's changed his mind.

This is something that you need to take very slowly. The concern that men have with receiving anal play and connections with homosexuality can be very strong. This can be something that you work in very slowly over time. Patience is the key with small steps towards the end goal. Try gentle massaging during a blowjob. Gentle finger or oral play is a small step that should get him thinking about how good it can feel. Rimming is another good step. Little by little, you can insert a small finger further and further each time. Remind him how much it turns you on and how much you think that it will feel great for him. It is a new sexual barrier for the two of you to explore. Open communications is very important.

I need to be the lone dissenting vote here as well as play Devil's Advocate. If a man wants pegging, more power to him and his partner! However, I know I don't like to be constantly nagged to get into something sexual that I don't want to do, and I don't think a man should be, either.

Some men simply DO NOT enjoy anal penetration. I think that needs to be respected. I also don't believe in the "equilateral play is fair play" thing for all couples. Some couples only play ONE way.

My Man and I have anal sex, it's great. But, he has NO interest in being penetrated by me, and I have absolutely no interest in doing it to him.

I think, Bella, if you man doesn't want it, leave him be for a while. If he were to want it, he'll let you know. Nagging, constantly hinting, never letting it go will only push him farther away. I've gotten rid of lovers who wouldn't let go of some things I simply wasn't interested in doing.

Love and Sex are about Respect and Communication. Even in D/S relationships, even in pegging relationships, even in ANY relationship.

Listen to what your man is saying. IF he says he doesn't want it, the most logical assumption is he doesn't want it. Please, respect his choices.

Starting with an enema would be a surefire way to end that possibility. I've done anal douching before, strictly for hygienic reasons. It's definitely one of the more unpleasant feelings I've ever had, kind of like when you're at work and unable to leave your post to make a bathroom break.

I would have to side with p'gell on this one. You can lay the facts down for him, as to why other people like it and why he may. But don't force or push it on him, as that would only frustrate him. I personally love the feelings from anal, but I'm never going to push my wife into receiving anal unless she absolutely wants to. We've considered strap-on dp, but that's about it. Know your boundaries as a couple, so that you don't ruin your status as a couple.

ive tried to get my hubbie to try it and its just not for him. so i dont bother him about it. maybe one day...never know.

If you approach a man's ass as if it is territory to be explored and conquered, he may very well find his sphincter puckered shut! We all want to know what is in it for us. So what IS in it for him? Only the most mind-blowing internal orgasms of his life. Let him know this is what is available and assure him that you will not only be very gentle but that you will stop as soon as he says so. He needs to know why he would want to do it in the first place and then he needs to know that he will maintain control over how far you insert yourself and when the action will stop. The unknown can be both terrifying and exhilarating. Feelings of being controlled and coerced will induce fear but knowing that one's feelings and preferences will be honored every step of the way can create the courage to experiment.

And be sure to use lots of lube as well as a latex glove to protect the delicate rectum from hangnails or rough skin. Do NOT use toys the first time - just your finger - and NO, don't use two fingers the first time either. Focus on slow, gentle movements and be aware that there is a second sphincter muscle about 1.5 inches inside the rectum which cannot be relaxed voluntarily. Do NOT force your way past this muscle. Instead wait for it to relax on its own and if it doesn't relax, back off and go back to rimming or some other sexual interaction.

Penetrating a man for the first time should be every bit as delicate and respectful as penetrating a woman for the first time. If he is an anal virgin, expect his emotions to be intense and make it safe for him to feel whatever he feels. In this way, you can give him permission to experience more pleasure and more intimacy than ever before.