Uncomfortable discussing strap-on use with your partner...

sweetpea12 sweetpea12
I have discussed this with my partner a lot recently and I think I have come to our final decision. We have both discussed using a strap on on him, and in the end he didn't want to do it and I wasn't really turned on by the idea. Do you think this sex act is a good idea that's totally worth the harness and dildo and whatever else you might need? Does it make some of you uncomfortable to talk about this with your partner?
05/24/2012
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Arch600 Arch600
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Originally posted by sweetpea12
I have discussed this with my partner a lot recently and I think I have come to our final decision. We have both discussed using a strap on on him, and in the end he didn't want to do it and I wasn't really turned on by the idea. Do you think ... More
It remained my silent fantasy for many years - and I think hers, too. We both were afraid to bring the subject up. Merely mentioning strap on sex could be a relationship game-changer if your partner freaks (who is this pervert I'm with?). Kudos to you both for being able to talk about it; that step alone takes a lot of courage.

We had always said how we'd like to trade places, feel what the other feels. After many years, we ended up with a Feeldoe. I went from not wanting her anywhere near my arse to wanting her IN me all the time! It is a fantastic experience every time and one of the most erotic things we have ever done. I think both of us were pleasantly surprised by what a huge turn on it proved to be. She wasn't partcularly turned on by the concept beforehand, either. During? I don't think I've ever seen her more excited and passionate. We both have had some of our hugest orgasms this way. More importantly, it is a new way of bonding not like any other that has brought us closer together.

Is it worth the money? In our case, every cent! Of course, that doesn't guarantee the same result for you. If you're not comfortable, there's nothing wrong with that. If you want to continue discussing it from time to time, you may find your discomfort fades. Or, you may feel even stronger that it isn't for you. Don't feel pressured to try it because others do it. Try it only if you both want to, and that it will be a positive thing for your relationship, whether you like it afterward or not.
05/24/2012
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
It seems that you both agree that its not for you - so why pursue it.

In our case I wanted her to do it for me - but she wasn't comfortable with it. Since it takes two to peg - her veto killed the idea. However if she were game like Arch600's wife, it surely is worth getting the toys to do it right. Since we have plenty of dildos - all it would take would be a good harness which are not that expensive.
05/25/2012
squire squire
As said above, it just depends on your preferences. If neither of you are keen on the idea then it's a done deal. I wouldn't say you're missing out on it, as it's not your thing, and that's ok. I enjoy it, my partner doesn't. I know it works well for me, as does anal stimulation of any kind, so it's more important to me, thus we find ways to meet in the middle. DO what works for you and helps you to have comfortable and connecting sex
06/04/2012
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