Wife Grossed Out by my Prostate Play

Bubba29 Bubba29
In the last 6 months or so I've discovered the pleasure of prostate play. Hands down the best orgasms I've ever had. My wife wants nothing to do with it. The best would be a blow job while I stimulate my prostate with a toy. I am upset that she is so close minded that she would not want to be involved in my pleasure. I have to do it by myself. I am very clean and am not asking her to finger me. She is open about a lot sexually but anal penetration is off limits.

Any advice from experienced couples?
10/10/2013
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RonLee RonLee
Some people are open minded about prostate play and some just aren't. Sadly it sounds like your spouse isn't. My late spouse wasn't either.
10/10/2013
Rossie Rossie
I'm the opposite, I'd love to see my husband engage in prostate play, but he's totally against it. He's comfortable having anal sex, with me on the receiving end (but he's not a big fan of that either). I guess everyone thinks differently, and there's not much you can do if your wife is unwilling to participate.
10/10/2013
edeneve edeneve
we can't make someone enjoy something. if she feels any kind of pressure about this, it most likely is pushing her even further away from the whole idea. how do you handle talking about playtime w/ her?
10/30/2013
Lucifer the Cat Lucifer the Cat
Sometimes people just aren't into the same kinds of things, you know? It's not nice to try to get someone to do something they're not comfortable with. There's some stuff that I like that my partner isn't really into, and I reserve those things for my "me time". In fact, it makes masturbation a lot more enjoyable. It can be just as pleasurable as sex with my partner, just in different ways.
10/30/2013
Oriental husband and wife Oriental husband and wife
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Originally posted by Bubba29
In the last 6 months or so I've discovered the pleasure of prostate play. Hands down the best orgasms I've ever had. My wife wants nothing to do with it. The best would be a blow job while I stimulate my prostate with a toy. I am upset ... More
What are you using for prostate massage ? An Aneros mgx or glass toy inserted in you while she gives you a bj is awesome ! Maybe your can have it there and when she comes to give you a bj, ask her to slowly pump it. Give her some oral first so she will reciprocate.

Or try using a butt plug when she is giving you oral. She doesn't need to know you have it in.
10/30/2013
Alex Time Alex Time
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Originally posted by Bubba29
In the last 6 months or so I've discovered the pleasure of prostate play. Hands down the best orgasms I've ever had. My wife wants nothing to do with it. The best would be a blow job while I stimulate my prostate with a toy. I am upset ... More
I would find out why she does not like it. From my experience there are a number of reasons a partner might not consider anal (these could form part of a completely different discussion).

My approach was to discuss openly how my prostate stimulation felt and how much I enjoyed it. I then expressed my desire to have my wife be a part of that experience. We started out by simply using a nexus or aneros toy during sex (I.e. Insert and carry on with our normal sexual experience as if it wasn't there).

Anyway, you would need to listen to her concerns and address each concern individually. It was a long journey for me to get my girlfriend (and now wife) involved in my prostate play but it was worth all the discussion and debate and we are much better for it.

Simply put, if she is unwilling to even discuss this then it sounds like you are with the wrong person. (You're clearly an open person - being open about your sex life on a website vs her who won't even discuss this behind closed doors).
Feb 5, 7:02 am
Jesse-in-TX Jesse-in-TX
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Originally posted by Bubba29
In the last 6 months or so I've discovered the pleasure of prostate play. Hands down the best orgasms I've ever had. My wife wants nothing to do with it. The best would be a blow job while I stimulate my prostate with a toy. I am upset ... More
My sympathies, I am the same as you in that I love anal play.
My spouse, she sometimes likes it on the receiving end, and has played with me some....but recently I have gotten into it majorly and may even experience my first pro-orgasm.
There is a strong way to plead your case, and that would be to explain that anal play for you is a profound pleasure and you need her to find some joy in it so the experience can be the best.
Apr 13, 6:06 pm
oldkinky oldkinky
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Originally posted by Jesse-in-TX
My sympathies, I am the same as you in that I love anal play.
My spouse, she sometimes likes it on the receiving end, and has played with me some....but recently I have gotten into it majorly and may even experience my first pro-orgasm.
There ... More
I guess that I am fortunate. My wife has no hangups sexually. She loves such things as pegging me and prostate massage while she gives me a blowjob. She slips a vibrating toy in me and gives me a blowjob until I cum-fantastic orgasms. One reason that she likes it is that she says that I produce much more cum with prostate massage and she loves a mouthful of cum. Then she likes giving me deep kisses sharing cum with me.
Apr 14, 4:12 am
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