If you are sneaking around it's cheating no matter what the sex of the person you are sneaking around with. If, however, you have an open relationship then whatever boundaries you set with your partner determines what constitutes cheating.
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Cheating
It's hard to define what constitutes something as cheating; some people think sex is sex and as long there is no emotion that's okay. And this poll asks if it matters if it's the same sex or not, something I have never considered.
In my opinion, if your partner is sleeping with someone else, after making the boundaries of your relationship clear then it is cheating regardless of the other person's gender.
It all depends on the boundaries set up at the beginning of the relationship, and if you haven't set any boundaries then that's probably something very important for you to do.
In my opinion, if your partner is sleeping with someone else, after making the boundaries of your relationship clear then it is cheating regardless of the other person's gender.
It all depends on the boundaries set up at the beginning of the relationship, and if you haven't set any boundaries then that's probably something very important for you to do.
03/13/2012
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Wow I do hope that works out for you...it rarely does for anyone else. This really isn't something that you 'get out of your system' unless you have the will to make it happen that way.
Originally posted by
Swish
if your partner is not ok with it, it's cheating. But my boyfriend is ok with me wanting to be with other girls, because if i get it out of my system now, or experiment to see if i like it now then when we get married he doesn't have to worry
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if your partner is not ok with it, it's cheating. But my boyfriend is ok with me wanting to be with other girls, because if i get it out of my system now, or experiment to see if i like it now then when we get married he doesn't have to worry so much. its better now than during marriage
03/14/2012
I don't believe it has anything to do with gender, and all to do with consent and transparency.
If the relationship agreements say that a person can have sex with someone (same gender, opposite gender, etc.) then it's not cheating. If it is against the will of the other partner in the relationship, then it is cheating, regardless of the gender of those involved.
If the relationship agreements say that a person can have sex with someone (same gender, opposite gender, etc.) then it's not cheating. If it is against the will of the other partner in the relationship, then it is cheating, regardless of the gender of those involved.
04/13/2012
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I'm with you on this.
Originally posted by
aliceinthehole
totally. he's never expressed interest in guys, expressed NO interest in guys, rather, and i would be so hurt that he'd lie about a facet of his life that was so huge. i'd also be hurt if he didnt think he could share it with me. i share
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totally. he's never expressed interest in guys, expressed NO interest in guys, rather, and i would be so hurt that he'd lie about a facet of his life that was so huge. i'd also be hurt if he didnt think he could share it with me. i share everything with him.
he's made it clear that he's into us having a 3some with another girl, and has said that if i want/need to have a thing with the girl before the 3 of us get together it's okay (i'm the one searching for her, he's too shy) but to make sure to tell him i'm planning on it, or that it may happen, first. and give him all the details. and invite him next time. i think i might still feel a bit like i was cheating. alas, no girl has showed herself worthy enough yet. we'll see.
it's cheating if you havent made it clear in your relationship that it's okay. it's up to your relationship's specified boundaries. cheating is about lying, hiding. if those two things are involved, consider yourself a cheater. or cheated on.
he's made it clear that he's into us having a 3some with another girl, and has said that if i want/need to have a thing with the girl before the 3 of us get together it's okay (i'm the one searching for her, he's too shy) but to make sure to tell him i'm planning on it, or that it may happen, first. and give him all the details. and invite him next time. i think i might still feel a bit like i was cheating. alas, no girl has showed herself worthy enough yet. we'll see.
it's cheating if you havent made it clear in your relationship that it's okay. it's up to your relationship's specified boundaries. cheating is about lying, hiding. if those two things are involved, consider yourself a cheater. or cheated on.
It's the secrets that makes it cheating.
05/06/2012
