Based on research, reading reviews, and owning one of these toys, I will say that the Bent Graduate (or Amethyst) have a huge advantage in the weight category. Some people say that the weight of the Pure Wand become a little difficult for use. The Bent Graduate is one of the top selling glass pieces, and G-Spot dildos overall. Why not start out with that one? If you don't like it, you can always invest in the Pure Wand later. It would suck to spend all that money on something that you find yourself not liking.