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Lately I've been finding whichever one of my girlsfriends is single is the one I end up hanging out with the most, maybe that just because the others are in happy new budding relationships and I just need to wait for them to get bored and need
Lately I've been finding whichever one of my girlsfriends is single is the one I end up hanging out with the most, maybe that just because the others are in happy new budding relationships and I just need to wait for them to get bored and need their own space? Or is it just wrong to be ditched for a guy?
Everybody is different, so not all girls do this, but I do think it's pretty normal to kind of disappear from your regular life when you're still having the new love journey. My friends and I usually would just all hang out together -- then we'd be with our partners and each other, which can be loads of fun, especially if you do a fun activity together.
Close friends, they do usually stay in touch, but it can take time for them to stop being caught up in the fun, newness of always wanting to be with their partner.
The thing is, and this is what I've experienced, when your friends get serious with the boyfriend/girlfriend, not just in the newness of the relationship is when you stop haging out so much, or even grow apart. Even more so when one of you starts having children. This has happened with me and pretty much all of my friends. Marriage and kids. However, that has not stopped my partner and I from being available for friend time.
Another thing -- it's not just a girl thing. Our guy friends are just as bad once they find a girlfriend. You never see them anymore! Lol.
I guess it's just how things happen, but if both make an effort, friends CAN stay in touch and stay close. My best girlfriend since childhood and I have found ways to remain in touch and just as close over the years -- with partners and kids!