Is it cheating if it's with the same gender?

mjtheprincess mjtheprincess
I was recently watching a TV show that said that it was cheating even if it was with the same gender because a kiss between a man and a man or a woman and a woman should be worth no less then a kiss between a woman and a man. What's your opinion?
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A Man Kissing A Man Is Cheating
12
A Woman Kissing A Woman Is Cheating
13
It's All Cheating
135
None Of It's Cheating If I Am Present
15
OTHHHHERR
24
Total votes: 199 (160 voters)
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06/20/2012
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Here 4 Her Pleasure Here 4 Her Pleasure
Anytime a person engages intimately with another person it is cheating. Your spouse or significant other has a bond of trust that is broken if the other half engages in such conduct. Some couples enjoy another person being introduced into their play. It must be discussed and mutually agreed to. Even then, it usually means the three play together. Seperate activities can lead to hurt feelings.
06/20/2012
- Kira - - Kira -
If it's discussed beforehand and both parties consent, then it's not cheating. That applies to both genders. If it's done behind one partner's back, then it's cheating. That also applies to both genders.
06/20/2012
amazon amazon
Never understood rationalizing cheating. It's a different partner. So if you're committed, then any other person is cheating.
06/20/2012
KrissyNovacaine KrissyNovacaine
Cheating is what both people in the relationship feels is cheating.
06/20/2012
unfulfilled unfulfilled
Regardless of sex, it's cheating if one party is left in the dark.
06/20/2012
P'Gell P'Gell
Unless you and your partner have a discussion and an understanding that the relationship is open for both of you to have sex with other people, then of course sex or sexual behavior with someone of the same gender is cheating.

When people say "Oh, if it's with an other girl it isn't cheating." that thinking, in essence says "women don't count." If one has sexual behavior with same sex partners, they can form emotional attachments to them. It's easy to fall in love and even if you don't, you're sharing something with an other person that may interfere with and hurt your partner.

Without a Poly understanding between you and your partner any sexual behavior is cheating.
06/20/2012
Mwar Mwar
Cheating is cheating when you're partner doesn't know about it and woud want to know about it.
06/20/2012
Sundae Sparkles Sundae Sparkles
too me in my current relationship it is cheating if I was too kiss another girl or he was too kiss a boy.

Its about expectations and understanding that you have with a partner. In the past I dated a boy.. we could do what ever we wanted as long as we were honest and spoke about it before and after.
06/20/2012
Sundae Sparkles Sundae Sparkles
Quote:
Originally posted by Sundae Sparkles
too me in my current relationship it is cheating if I was too kiss another girl or he was too kiss a boy.

Its about expectations and understanding that you have with a partner. In the past I dated a boy.. we could do what ever we wanted as ... More
currently I believe that if I wouldn't do it in front on my partner it is cheating.. even "flirting" is wrong to me.
06/20/2012
wicked weasel wicked weasel
I hate to say this but cheating is cheating when the other side has no
clue what's going on...
06/20/2012
Beck Beck
Yep, unless it's agreed in your relationship that you can do something then it's cheating. Doesn't matter who it is with.
06/20/2012
indiechick indiechick
Quote:
Originally posted by mjtheprincess
I was recently watching a TV show that said that it was cheating even if it was with the same gender because a kiss between a man and a man or a woman and a woman should be worth no less then a kiss between a woman and a man. What's your opinion?
its all cheating...except when its not. I have dated several men that are completely okay with me making out with other women when i'm at a bar. I've never had a gf be okay with me making out with a guy. So long as there are rules in place. I think you're okay. Anything more than kissing and anything emotional is cheating
06/20/2012
SecretKinksters SecretKinksters
I would say if you have to question if its cheating...it probably is in my opinion
06/20/2012
PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
Quote:
Originally posted by Here 4 Her Pleasure
Anytime a person engages intimately with another person it is cheating. Your spouse or significant other has a bond of trust that is broken if the other half engages in such conduct. Some couples enjoy another person being introduced into their play. ... More
fully agree!
06/20/2012
Ryuson Ryuson
When you first get together and lay down the rules of your relationship, anything that goes against those is cheating. I have known couples that have agreed that watching pornography is cheating in their relationship, but I also have known couples where consensual sex with another is not cheating. It all depends on the rules you guys have.

In my relationship? Having any type of intimacy (non-platonic) with anyone else is against our agreement. So yes, kissing anyone romantically, be it a man or a woman or a transgendered person or someone who considers themselves some other non-binary gender all would be cheating.
06/20/2012
gsfanatic gsfanatic
Yep, it's engaging in intimacy with a partner, regardless of genders
06/20/2012
Terri69 Terri69
It's cheating, opposite sex, same sex, it cheating!
06/20/2012
ejrbrndps ejrbrndps
Quote:
Originally posted by Terri69
It's cheating, opposite sex, same sex, it cheating!
yes
06/20/2012
BG529 BG529
either way it's cheating
06/20/2012
MissYouBubbles MissYouBubbles
cheating is cheating no matter what gender is with what gender at the time the "act" occurs. Monogamy is one person with one person
06/20/2012
Nora29714 Nora29714
cheating is cheating. if you think its wrong its usually wrong
06/20/2012
Calla Calla
Gender has nothing to do with it.
06/20/2012
Bodhi Bodhi
It's cheating if you've both agreed to be exclusive.
06/20/2012
Hallmar82 Hallmar82
If you think it's cheating, then you shouldn't be doing it.
06/20/2012
GONE! GONE!
Quote:
Originally posted by - Kira -
If it's discussed beforehand and both parties consent, then it's not cheating. That applies to both genders. If it's done behind one partner's back, then it's cheating. That also applies to both genders.
This!
06/21/2012
remember.me remember.me
It's cheating if its not agreed on beforehand. If your partner isn't aware, it's cheating.
06/21/2012
authorzero authorzero
I guess it depends on the parameters you set with your partner. To me, if my partner is with someone else, man or woman, that's cheating. Why is there suddenly a pass if you have the same genitals?
06/22/2012
dirtythoughts:) dirtythoughts:)
As many have already said, if I'm there and it was OK-ed by me its not cheating, obviously. My boyfriend, I do believe, feels the same way. I am a bisexual and he knows I like to kiss girls from time to time, so he lets me. Especially if he is allowed to kiss her as well We both know how much we love and care for each other so there's no tension about the situation.
06/22/2012
Bex1331 Bex1331
Depends on your agreement with your partner but as long as they have not agreed in the past that this is okay then it's cheating.
06/22/2012
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