Do you believe that monogamy is natural or unnatural for humans?

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Do you believe that monogamy is natural or unnatural for humans?

Pinkshirt Pinkshirt
Monogamy is unnatural, religions was what made us believe that we must stay monogamous.
08/06/2012
Ver Ver
There are plenty of animals (like birds) that are monogamous...
08/06/2012
LaSchwartz LaSchwartz
other it is unnatural in a primitive way but because of our modern moral standards it is expected. so over time is becoming natural. If we still went with our primitive nature rape would not exist it would just be natural reproduction of a male over a female but over time we have evolved. So I said other because of the many factors involved.
08/06/2012
Sangsara Sangsara
I really think it just depends on the person. Some are meant for monogamy while others are not. My family members were always monogamous but I personally lean towards polyamory. I thought I was just a cheater but I now realize that I simply need more and here is nothing wrong ith that as long as the person or people that you are with feel the same way.
08/06/2012
x203 x203
As animals we're all supposed to hook up with each other to continue life and stuff. But we have more intelligence which gives us the opportunity to be mono.
08/18/2012
pix pix
I think that both monogamy and polyamory can be natural, for different people. I think as long as romantic partners have clear and honest discussion about their intentions for the relationship, neither of these will necessarily result in cheating or hurt feelings.
08/20/2012
Lavendar Lavendar
I think it's natural.
08/20/2012
J. Nguyen J. Nguyen
I think so, we all feel an innate jealousy about things and do have a hoard mentality.
08/20/2012
Lizard Lizard
I think monogamy is natural to humans.
08/20/2012
Mrs. Tickle and Giggle Mrs. Tickle and Giggle
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Originally posted by Tori Rebel
There have been studies done and there is a large population of people who do not believe that monogamy is a natural function for humans. One of the most popular reasons given is that you very rarely see monogamy in nature and since humans are ...
I opted for other, because an imperfection is our design we are naturally drawn to polygamy. But a person who is raised and trained in an environment that promotes and rewards monogamy can be naturally drawn to that sensation. There are many unknowns that will factor into this answer.
08/20/2012
LAndJ LAndJ
Biologically, I think monogamy is unnatural for humans, but it's societal pressures, and some are more inclined to monogamy than others.
08/20/2012
digit88 digit88
Quote:
Originally posted by Tori Rebel
There have been studies done and there is a large population of people who do not believe that monogamy is a natural function for humans. One of the most popular reasons given is that you very rarely see monogamy in nature and since humans are ...
not going there
08/20/2012
The Kitty The Kitty
Quote:
Originally posted by Tori Rebel
There have been studies done and there is a large population of people who do not believe that monogamy is a natural function for humans. One of the most popular reasons given is that you very rarely see monogamy in nature and since humans are ...
I forget the author but there is a book that discusses this froma socialogical and biological point of view called the myth of monogamy, very interesting read
08/26/2012
snakeinfur snakeinfur
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Originally posted by Brian
Being a Christian I have to vote other. I think in our nature we want as much as we possibly can and that includes polygamy. I think it is out of love for our spouse or religious reasons that we don't take part in it.
You can still love your spouse and be sexually attracted to others. Its not an exclusive thing.
09/05/2012
Khanner Khanner
I see a lot of talk about either monogamy or polyamory "feeling" natural. However, it is possible for very unnatural things to feel natural. This is what makes culture possible. The fact is that much of your behavior and feelings are socially encoded in a way that may be indistinguishable from instinct. This includes romantic and sexual behaviors.

I suppose what I'm getting at is the "is it natural?" question is very silly to be asked of human behavior. Just let people be when they're not hurting anyone.
09/05/2012
smlove smlove
I think both lifestyles are natural. I read an article that said that our society used to be mostly poly, but has now moved to mostly mono due to government influence. It was easier to control people if they weren't in such large romantic groups. Particularly when war was involved.
I wish we all could co-exist peacefully, but we know that's not happening anytime soon. The best we can do is educate each other.
09/07/2012
Gdom Gdom
My answer is fairly simple: monogamy and polygamy both occur in humans. From that, it doesn't take a rocket scientist to ascertain that BOTH monogamy and polygamy are "natural" across the human species. This is especially true if you consider socialization a part of "naturalness," which makes perfect sense because we don't isolate genetic and social causes when talking about "natural behavior" in non-human primates.
09/07/2012
pleasurehunter pleasurehunter
I dont really see either as unnatural, i think different people feel differently about it. I suppose animals share partners more but I dont see anything unnatural about having one partner. A lot of people consider it safe and fun and get all their needs met that way.
09/16/2012
PinkySt PinkySt
After studying the science behind human sexuality I would say monogamy is unnatural.

But if it works for you have at it, I just know I prefer to have more options =3
09/16/2012
closed account closed account
monogamy makes sense for certain times in life. but always? no way. which is why some people let their ingrained notions leading them to serial monogamy or cheating
09/19/2012
Stagger13 Stagger13
Quote:
Originally posted by Tori Rebel
There have been studies done and there is a large population of people who do not believe that monogamy is a natural function for humans. One of the most popular reasons given is that you very rarely see monogamy in nature and since humans are ...
All depends on the humans.
09/20/2012
Strider Strider
Quote:
Originally posted by Tori Rebel
There have been studies done and there is a large population of people who do not believe that monogamy is a natural function for humans. One of the most popular reasons given is that you very rarely see monogamy in nature and since humans are ...
I believe that commitment is natural for humans. That we are meant to bond with our mates. But that that dose not necessarily mean monogamy.
10/14/2012
LoooveMonkey LoooveMonkey
I really don't know. I lean more towards yes. There are a lot of monogamous animals, and it's in human nature to be jealous creatures. The polyamorous person I know has issues with jealousy all the time in their relationships and the people I've seen shows about have the same problem. It's easier not to have to deal with it.
10/14/2012
Alyona Alyona
Monogamy is an unnatural behavior for humans
10/14/2012
Forever Hers! Forever Hers!
I don't know but I do know that love conquers temptation...if you want it to
10/14/2012
Rory Rory
Monogamy for me! I can't think of anyone else I would want to be with!
10/18/2012
Sexy Desire Sexy Desire
It's natural for me, but I get a lot with my husband!
11/29/2012
Martiniman Martiniman
People and their personalities are to different to categorize like this. For some its natural, and for others it's unnatural.
01/12/2013
Trixxxy Trixxxy
I guess it's cool if other people want monogamy; however, it is NOT for me...
01/22/2013
DigitalSweety DigitalSweety
I voted "other" because humans are weird. We're one of the few animals that can consciously override our natural impulses on a grand scale (a society level), and we're also social creatures.

I don't think there's a "natural" state for humans unless you consider having sex with anything that moves "natural". Because, seriously, I think it's pretty safe to say that humans will have sex with anything that moves. And a lot of things that don't.
02/13/2013
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