What feature would be unignorable in a sexual partner?

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What feature would be unignorable in a sexual partner?

ThoughtsAblaze ThoughtsAblaze
Addictions and STDs, definitely.
07/06/2011
Howells Howells
Why don't make this poll multi option. Obviously STD has the most weight, but if it had been multi option, other options would have received some more I guess. Occupation can be a perfectly valid option but very few will choose it instead of the STD option.
07/07/2011
tesseract tesseract
I have declined to partner with people more often due to personal hygiene. Bad breath, body odour, greasy hair, unkempt/dirty (before we get involved!) clothing, etc. Even poor, a bar of soap (can be used on hair too), toothbrush/toothpaste and wearing clean clothes goes a long way! Showing no respect for oneself in such way shows me that one would also have no respect for another; definitely someone I do NOT want to get involved with!
07/07/2011
bayosgirl bayosgirl
STD's/AIDS, addiction, and bad hygiene are all dealbreakers.
07/13/2011
tickle me pink tickle me pink
Before I even clicked on the poll I was thinking STD, so that's definitely what my vote goes for, and drug addiction would be coming in at such a close second it may as well be tied. If those kinds of things are hanging over the relationship before it even begins, then I wouldn't even bother starting it.
07/13/2011
Beck Beck
have to say std i not want one at all but i also would not want an addict or someone abusive
07/13/2011
sarki sarki
STD, HIV, drugs and alcohol
07/13/2011
Istanbull Istanbull
That A.I.D.S. one kind of sticks out of that list like a fart in church. I get the feeling that's the your real motivation behind this survey.

Which do you dislike more?
1. Burnt toast
2. Pens that run out of ink when you need them most
3. Animal Testing
4. Mowing your lawn.
5. Finding out your wife is cheeting on you with your best friend and the whole apartment building knew about it and never told you... while you were at work four times a week. And she told you she had a headache every time you tried to make love, FOUR TIMES A WEEK!
07/16/2011
Darling Jen Darling Jen
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Originally posted by Istanbull
That A.I.D.S. one kind of sticks out of that list like a fart in church. I get the feeling that's the your real motivation behind this survey.

Which do you dislike more?
1. Burnt toast
2. Pens that run out of ink when you need them ...
Actually that's not even close to my real motivation behind this survey. And most people who answered got into more detail than I intended as well as missing the "sexual partner" part and instead started answering as if it were a "relationship partner". I think it speaks more to the mindset of the person interpreting it when they read certain things into it.
07/17/2011
kendra30752 kendra30752
I wish it was multiple choice. Really my main things would be addiction or cheating, diseases. I don't care what kind of job he has as long as it's not dangerous or totally against my beliefs (his are the same as mine though) or if it was demeaning or degrading like working a strip club. We've both had very unforgiving, unpretty jobs. I was a house keeper for years and he takes care of rental property and such. His job is hard, it's hell actually and I'd never be able to do it, but his job would never cause me to leave. Neither would his money. We've been pretty down in the financial area in the past, but we keep our faith and things always get better and then they eventually get better, then better then better! Looks matter little to me as long as he's hygenic and my partner is very hygenic and very good looking. I don't love bad breath, but if he did have bad breath, I own a good supply of TheraBreath products so we could always fix that problem. Lol

Addiction or doing things that disrespect me definetly take the top though. Alcoholism runs in both of our families and we used to both drink heavily as teens. After being together for a couple of years we put down all the partying and nasty habits... well except smoking. I finally woke up and realized all that drinking really could effect us and I've seen how easy it is to become dependant on it and I suffered a lot growing up and watching it happen to a family member and was hurt a lot from it. I stopped. I decided I never want my kids to have to carry me to bed or watch me, or hold my hair while I'm puking drunk or make sure I don't catch the house on fire from falling asleep drunk with a smoke. I know smoking is awful and the kids never knew I smoked until this summer! I've hid it from them their entire lives. I didn't want to disappoint them. They didn't care by now, but being drunk all the time is different. Smoking doesn't cause you to say hurtful things or not remember making your own child cry the night before. I just couldn't put up with my partner being a drunk. Of course I don't mind drinking as long as neither of us get sloppy drunk like in the past. He has a couple of beers and I'll have a tiny bit of homeade wine or my pina colada margarita, but that's it.
07/19/2011
ijako9 ijako9
Addiction, don't want to be around anyone who's associated with it
08/01/2011
Alyxx Alyxx
For me, deal breakers are STD infection, telling lies or hiding things, bad hygiene, overweight, and being religious. I'm very casual about religion, but I'm pagan. I couldn't date someone who didn't respect that or wanted me to change my beliefs.
08/15/2011
sexyintexas sexyintexas
Addiction for sure if it is active, a recovering addict I could handle. Having oposing political views would be an issue, we don't have to agree on all politics but if we had opposite views that would be an issue. An STD would have to be disclosed ahead of time. I don't have unprotected sex without testing...ever. And if you are a nasty slob, hell no!
08/15/2011
Sunshineamine Sunshineamine
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Originally posted by Jobthingy
STD's, addiction and abuse all go in my vote. But so does nasty teeth. BLECH! My teeth are hardly perfect but they sure as hell arent rotting out of my mouth. I see people with these nasty brown rotting bits in their mouth and I want to gag
Agreed. STD's however if you really love the person and they take care of themselves dependent upon the situation would not necessarily be a deal breaker. My ex-husband has HPV and I was unaffected thankfully. HIV NO WAY! Gross teeth ... ewww, abuse and addiction are TOTAL deal breakers. I prefer function not dysfunction.
08/17/2011
Eva Schwaltz Eva Schwaltz
I prefer to be with someone like-minded, so addictions, drugs, STD's are all a no no.
08/17/2011
P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by aliceinthehole
i voted STDs but addiction as well. i'm sure i would try to help someone out of it but there's not much you can do if someone is unwilling to quit themselves. i'd hate to be a drag with someone who contracted an STD or HIV but i simply ...
What if it were a completely curable STD? Say you met someone who at one time, had the Clap, or chlamydia, but had it cured?

Most STDs are either curable or treatable. Most are not life threatening or incurable.
08/17/2011
PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
STD
08/17/2011
daveysgirl daveysgirl
STD would have be number 1
08/17/2011
The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary
Quote:
Originally posted by Darling Jen
Whether you're currently open to new sex partners (or significant others) or merely just open to fictional fantasies, what feature of him/her would be undo any possibility of choosing that particular person?

(The background of the question ...
I was going to say its hard to pick only one of those. I had a relationship with a girl who got into drugs while we were together. All sorts of bad, but obviously STDS and HIV is no good at all.
08/17/2011
duff duff
STDs
09/16/2011
XYCopperheadSly XYCopperheadSly
It depends on the addiction or the STD. I could not, however, live with somebody who is under-educated.
09/16/2011
AndroAngel AndroAngel
Addiction, STD, and abusive behavior.
09/18/2011
ToyBoy ToyBoy
I couldn't deal with a lot of those. The biggest deal breakers with me are addictions, STDs, being overweight, religious, and conservative views.
09/18/2011
ScotchIrish ScotchIrish
#1 Any STD. Scares the hell out of me. And, I hate condoms. But, they help many and that is a good thing.
09/18/2011
Illumin8 Illumin8
Hard to choose just one, but definitely STIs are not something that I could ignore.
09/18/2011
SiNn SiNn
Quote:
Originally posted by Darling Jen
Whether you're currently open to new sex partners (or significant others) or merely just open to fictional fantasies, what feature of him/her would be undo any possibility of choosing that particular person?

(The background of the question ...
in all out honesty for me its more id chose what would be best for me i wouldnt just search out one way or the other because that sounds so superficia because the heart wants what it wants we shouldnt put restrictions based on apperance and habbits
09/18/2011
mizzmilla mizzmilla
Std's and addictions.
09/21/2011
Choolz Choolz
oh man, STDs even if it were 10 years ago & has been cured, addictions, smoking, too much drinking, too short, too skinny or too heavy. I don't mind someone having some extra weight but I do draw the line at some point. someone with too crooked teeth. too much acne.
maybe I am picky lol
10/05/2011
MrWishyWashy MrWishyWashy
Quote:
Originally posted by Jobthingy
STD's, addiction and abuse all go in my vote. But so does nasty teeth. BLECH! My teeth are hardly perfect but they sure as hell arent rotting out of my mouth. I see people with these nasty brown rotting bits in their mouth and I want to gag
STD's for me, stay away! Sorry if I offend anyone, just a personal preference..
10/05/2011
sktb0007 sktb0007
definitely STDs and addiction
10/06/2011
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