What feature would be unignorable in a sexual partner?

P'Gell P'Gell
I don't really get the STD issue. If it's HIV, I understand (few people want an eventually terminal illness) but most STD are curable, or treatable. What's with the "anyone who has ever had an STD." How would you know? I'm a nurse and I can assure you, the curable ones are much more common than most people think and they say little about a person's character.

We're a Sex Positive Site. STDs happen, especially the curable ones. I think an open mind is a good thing. It's like saying, "I'd never have sex with a girl who has been pregnant." It says little about her as a person, but is pretty judgmental. Guesses are good that many who say they would "never" have sex with someone who has ever had an STD and has had more than 4 or 5 partners HAS had sex with someone who at one time has had a curable STD.
10/26/2011
LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
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Originally posted by Darling Jen
Whether you're currently open to new sex partners (or significant others) or merely just open to fictional fantasies, what feature of him/her would be undo any possibility of choosing that particular person?

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Definitely an STD..
10/26/2011
eroticmutt eroticmutt
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Originally posted by Darling Jen
Whether you're currently open to new sex partners (or significant others) or merely just open to fictional fantasies, what feature of him/her would be undo any possibility of choosing that particular person?

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Gotta say, there is more than one thing I would have selected.
12/06/2011
Badass Badass
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Originally posted by Darling Jen
Whether you're currently open to new sex partners (or significant others) or merely just open to fictional fantasies, what feature of him/her would be undo any possibility of choosing that particular person?

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i can see why STDs are winning out..
01/20/2012
dks210 dks210
Obviously STD/HIV.
01/22/2012
Apirka Apirka
I would be fine with all except for STD/HIV positive and drug/alcohol addictions.
03/10/2012
Hallmar82 Hallmar82
People can go to rehab or counseling for addictions or even abuse, but you can't stop being infected with a disease. However, if they didn't stop their addiction or abuse, then it would be worse in my opinion.
03/10/2012
Princess-Kayla ♥ Princess-Kayla ♥
I voted STD +. Addiction is a huge turn off too though.
03/10/2012
FruityCloudPuff FruityCloudPuff
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Originally posted by Tori Rebel
My vote is for three actually, one of them being not mentioned. Both addiction and STD would be on my list, as would a history of being abusive toward women. I've been the girl that believed that abusive men could change and been proven wrong ... More
I agree on all of these.
03/11/2012
deltalima deltalima
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Originally posted by Darling Jen
Whether you're currently open to new sex partners (or significant others) or merely just open to fictional fantasies, what feature of him/her would be undo any possibility of choosing that particular person?

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HIV/Stds are dealbreakers as well.
03/17/2012
sexystuffeve sexystuffeve
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Originally posted by Jobthingy
STD's, addiction and abuse all go in my vote. But so does nasty teeth. BLECH! My teeth are hardly perfect but they sure as hell arent rotting out of my mouth. I see people with these nasty brown rotting bits in their mouth and I want to gag
Same here, or long, long beards.
03/21/2012
Mwar Mwar
STD's and Drugs. Drugs more, actually. I could see myself staying with my partner if they contracted an STD in extenuating circumstances (if they got it from their job or something like a doctor)
03/21/2012
vanilla&chocolate vanilla&chocolate
STDS!
03/25/2012
gloomybear gloomybear
definately wouldnt want a partner with an std
03/25/2012
sexystuffeve sexystuffeve
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Originally posted by Darling Jen
My vote is addiction. Not only could it cause domestic and legal problems in any relationship, sexual or romantic, but I can't imagine someone addicted to something being able to put all of themselves into a relationship. Especially in committed ... More
Good opinion. Addiction would be hard to handle
03/26/2012
sexystuffeve sexystuffeve
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Originally posted by Tori Rebel
My vote is for three actually, one of them being not mentioned. Both addiction and STD would be on my list, as would a history of being abusive toward women. I've been the girl that believed that abusive men could change and been proven wrong ... More
I'm sorry if you have been abused.
03/26/2012
sexystuffeve sexystuffeve
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Originally posted by Blinker
My boyfriend's a pothead and I love the bastard more than anything on Earth (but that's not an addiction, it's a lifestyle). I could never go for anyone with any sort of STD or communicable disease. My best friend has HPV and I can't ... More
Stay strong!
03/26/2012
joiedejouets joiedejouets
There are a lot of things, STD's are big for me.
01/02/2013
mr115393 mr115393
Addiction is the deal-breaker for me. I already know way too well that a drug addict cannot be a friend/lover. Simply being an addict is a full-time job that doesn't make room for anyone else.
01/03/2013
pandasauce pandasauce
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Originally posted by Darling Jen
Whether you're currently open to new sex partners (or significant others) or merely just open to fictional fantasies, what feature of him/her would be undo any possibility of choosing that particular person?

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I can't be with someone who has a serious addiction- I would turn someone down for this even over being HIV positive, because often this may not be the person's fault. Alcohol or drug addiction os a personal choice to ruin your life.
01/03/2013
butts butts
ANY of those (or all) would be a problem with me, except disability. Actually height wouldn't be a problem either, unless they were considerably shorter than me (I'm already short!) simply because I'm mostly attracted to lanky men. Poverty would only be an issue if it was their fault, through lazyness or being irresponsible, if they simply got the short end of the stick I'd understand, especially since I'm quite poor myself. I'm not attracted to heavier guys, at all, I hate to sound shallow but I don't date thick men, hell I don't even like big muscles! I like my men thin. Under-educated, that's a deal breaker for me. I don't care if you've graduated high school, I DO care if you bothered to learn on your own, I highly prize education, regardless of where it came from. Addiction can be overcome but I doubt I'd get involved with someone with a drug problem, and I'm super liberal when it comes to drugs. You can DO whatever natural drugs you want, I'm more than cool with that, even if you did cocaine once in a while, but if you're a heroin ADDICT? If you've spent more quality time with the 2C family than you've spent with your real family? Not interested in dealing with you. Even a gambling addiction would cause issues, I don't like people who can't handle their money. A sex or porn addiction we could probably deal with alright, that's the only one that I feel like I'd tolerate and work through. Opposing political beliefs would cause too many issues, I wouldn't even be attracted romantically to someone with strong opposing political views.

Now an undesirable occupation... that's a tough one, it depends on the job. As a vegetarian and animal lover, I obviously wouldn't be ok with you working at a fur farm, but if you worked at a humane farm where you butchered the animals, I'd be fine. I have nothing against meat, just cruelty. The military though, I don't think I'd be too enthused about that. You'd have to have a damn good reason for joining. I can't think of any other jobs I'd be terribly opposed to except maybe certain government jobs.

STDs are pretty unattractive, kinda shows that you weren't being responsible unless you have a good reason for why you AREN'T at fault. HIV/AIDS is a tough one because I'd feel bad, but I'd want sexual intimacy in a relationship, and I'd be a wreck if I got attached to them and they got sick, or worse, died. : ( I don't know what I'd do if a friend of mine had a terminal illness!

A big fat unattractive trait to me is passive-aggression, I do NOT fucking tolerate it. Same with bad hygiene, there's no excuse. And general laziness!
01/03/2013
marriedlady123 marriedlady123
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Originally posted by Tori Rebel
My vote is for three actually, one of them being not mentioned. Both addiction and STD would be on my list, as would a history of being abusive toward women. I've been the girl that believed that abusive men could change and been proven wrong ... More
I also think that chronic cheating should be here as well
01/06/2013
Martiniman Martiniman
Addiction and STD would be my answer.
01/07/2013
jfree jfree
A good majority of the list, hence why I chose other. Mostly addiction and ideological differences - both have been the source of fighting among my relatives and I just don't deal well with fighting/arguing without having mini-meltdowns. I do like Chilipepper's idea though, so I may take out my notebook and start writing a list down.
01/28/2013
Sima-pusya Sima-pusya
STD or HIV positive
01/28/2013
Beautiful-Disaster Beautiful-Disaster
I wouldn't be able to ignore if someone has HIV or an STD.
06/11/2013
Tangerine Tangerine
I suppose my standards are pretty high because most of the things on the list are deal breakers for me. Bottom line> if someone is not exactly what I want/need in a partner (sexual or otherwise) or they are so far off they could never get there, then I'm not even going to consider dating them. Of the list the only things that are not deal breakers would be height or disability. I will not hold something against them that can not be helped. The rest of those issues are by choice or choices they made that led them to that list. My own personal deal-breakers>
People who are not dog lovers > NO DEAL!
Hunters > Nope, if someone is killing innocents for sport I am wanting to kill them for sport.
MUST have GREAT Hygeine and Nice Teeth
07/05/2013
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