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What is the first thing that attracts you to another?
Well, I have varying sets of "attraction".
For a sexual attraction, I go for looks, because no matter how hard I try, the good looking win out in that department.
For personal attraction, as in who I make friends with and enjoy spending my time around, it's intelligence and personality, followed by sense of humor, with looks pulling up the rear.
Combine those two, and I'd have my ideal relationship. It can't get sexual without physical attraction, and I won't be able to stand being around them without intelligence and personality.