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Ehhh I don't know how I feel about beads yet.
I might try them but I'm scared it will hurt=/
As far as pain goes, you need to start out slow and use lots of lube. It's best to start with your fingers and just get a feel for it, then add toys as you become more comfortable. And you need to relax
- this is key. If you're worrying a lot, then your body will be more likely to tense up, which will likely result in pain. If you can relax, though, it'll be much easier. Some people help that having an orgasm before moving on to anal play helps. If you do happen to feel pain then stop, take a break, then try again a little later.
My first anal toy was a set of anal beads called Flexi Felix
. Beads are nice because you can just insert one and take as much time as you like before moving on to the next one. Or you might try a small dildo like this one
, if you think you'd be more comfortable with that.