How to bring up bondage?

liamkirsh liamkirsh
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I've wanted to try it but I don't know how to bring it up to my partner
02/28/2013
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married with children married with children
just bring it up. Communication is the best solution. Just say, hey I want to give this a try, what do you think.
02/28/2013
eroticmutt eroticmutt
If you're not sure how your partner will like it maybe try a lighter version, like asking them to grab your wrists and hold them in a position such as over your head where they are in control. Let them know how much it turns you on and excited you before moving on to tying with something else around the house such as using hair scrunchies or - if you know about knot safety - you could use a tie or other household restraint. Once you've broken the ice it will be a lot easier to take things up a notch slowly and get better equipment as your partner gets comfortable with it.

I just wouldn't advise going straight out and getting a veritable tacklebox full of bondage gear before you know your partner is comfortable with it, so taking things slower is a good way to ease them into wanting to play along with you. Who knows, they may love it as much as you do!
03/01/2013
junikki69 junikki69
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Originally posted by liamkirsh
I've wanted to try it but I don't know how to bring it up to my partner
I'm with ya on that one
08/16/2013
Tiffanfae Tiffanfae
When I brought it up with my partner (who at the time I thought was very vanilla), I started the conversation with a discussion of fantasies. I asked him when we were taking a walk one night to tell me a fantasy of his. Then on my turn I described a fairly light S&M scene. Turned out he was into bondage also and just didn't know how to bring the topic up with me either!

So I'd wait for a time when your both relaxed and try something along those lines. Starting the conversation as a hypothetical rather than a "hey, let's do this!" makes it easier for some people to discuss and also gives you room to judge their overall reaction.
08/27/2013
emilymileena emilymileena
As someone into BDSM, it really is best to just communicate openly. It's not going to be easy- especially if your partner is closed minded (not to say that if they are, they won't be open about it). It's not everyone's preference. BUT it is a healthy and safe (if you have an inkling of what you're doing) way to spice up an already good relationship. Starting by asking if he has any fantasies may be a good way to start. A game of truth or dare. Making a bucket list together of things you'd like to try sexually.
09/03/2013
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