Can't have an orgasm during sex

captainsgirl captainsgirl
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Ok, I have been married for 7 years and with my husband for 13. I had partners before him. Don't get me wrong are sex life is great..However, I can not have an orgasm during intercourse. i never have with anyone. Is this normal. and any tips on how to achieve this?
01/07/2013
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Cat E. Cat E.
Yes, most women don't have vaginal orgasms through penetration. Have you tried to have a G spot orgasm using a toy?
01/07/2013
captainsgirl captainsgirl
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Originally posted by Cat E.
Yes, most women don't have vaginal orgasms through penetration. Have you tried to have a G spot orgasm using a toy?
i just got one and i cant find it
01/07/2013
epiphanyjayne epiphanyjayne
I have to use a vibe on my clit to cum during sex. there is one position that can make me cum without a vibe I don't know what it's called but you start in missionary but close your legs and he opens his. this really rubs your clit nice and makes it feel extra tight fitting plus it makes for a shallower penetration which is what I prefer guys like to go deep and women have more sensation in the first 2 inches of there vagina, so a shallower penetration feels better I think.

I also just want to add that I too have been with a few other partners before my hubby of 8 years and non of them gave me O's. He has given me 12 O's in 10 years of being together and that's not for trying , he has tried alot (lots of effort). my clit is just very specific. I remember every O he gave me because it was a big deal

Technically I give myself most of my O's but being with him it is a very intimate and very enjoyable experience. The most important question for you is can you give your self an Orgasm? however you give your self an orgasm is how you need to integrate it into sex with your partner.

Good luck I hope that helped
01/20/2013
epiphanyjayne epiphanyjayne
Also I want to say that I understand your frustration with not being able to cum like a guy, and just get penetrated untill orgasm. It feels great but just doesn't tip you over the edge of orgasm, it feels so good why can't I just cum
01/20/2013
sillylilkitten sillylilkitten
It's perfectly normal! Don't worry, most women can't orgasm from penetration alone. The vaginal walls actually aren't all that sensitive, it's the clit that gives us pleasure, so just touching the vaginal walls doesn't do all that much unless it's indirectly stimulating the clit. And it's still not abnormal to be unable to orgasm during intercourse even if you're doing what you do when you're by yourself, sometimes the pressure to perform or to please can make it harder, or even anxiety about doing so in front of someone else. I have the same problem myself, it's completely normal.
01/20/2013
captainsgirl captainsgirl
thank you everyone. No need to worry my hubby helps me accomplish my big o all the time. I was just wondering if anyone was fortunate enough to accomplish it during penetration.
01/20/2013
RonLee RonLee
Nothing wrong with supplementary stimulation.
Gay guys do that all the time when being penetrated so as to be able to cum during intercourse.
01/20/2013
Hummingbird Hummingbird
Thank you for asking the question. It was a good one and I thought I was alone in this having never orgasmed via penetrative sex. I can give myself an O easy enough with a toy and he used to be able to give me an O going down on me, but lately it hasn't been working for us. It takes too long and by that time I can see he's as frustrated as I so we give up. I think it's more psychological on my part, issues I have to work through.
01/20/2013
captainsgirl captainsgirl
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Originally posted by Hummingbird
Thank you for asking the question. It was a good one and I thought I was alone in this having never orgasmed via penetrative sex. I can give myself an O easy enough with a toy and he used to be able to give me an O going down on me, but lately it ... More
i went through a period of that also. try not to think about it so much. when i quit thinking about it and tryin gso hard it helped.
01/20/2013
chameleon-girl chameleon-girl
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Originally posted by captainsgirl
Ok, I have been married for 7 years and with my husband for 13. I had partners before him. Don't get me wrong are sex life is great..However, I can not have an orgasm during intercourse. i never have with anyone. Is this normal. and any tips on ... More
You may not be able to have vaginal orgasms. That's really not uncommon. Most women can't have orgasms from penetration! Use a vibe on your clit during intercourse if he's cool with that!
01/20/2013
irina09 irina09
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Originally posted by captainsgirl
Ok, I have been married for 7 years and with my husband for 13. I had partners before him. Don't get me wrong are sex life is great..However, I can not have an orgasm during intercourse. i never have with anyone. Is this normal. and any tips on ... More
try different positions, plus if your raise your waist a little bit (use a pillow or cushin under your lower back when laying on your back) it might help, it is not easy but you need to keep exploring till you find the proper angle
good luck
02/06/2013
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