How long constitutes a sex drought?

MnWolf MnWolf
If you can't remember when the last time you had sex with another person...!
07/14/2010
~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
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Originally posted by MnWolf
If you can't remember when the last time you had sex with another person...!
LOL I have a bad short term memory and so does my boyfriend. This wouldn't work out too well. The days blend together during the summer.
07/14/2010
Annemarie Annemarie
A lull is like... a week.

A drought is like a month.

It's so ironic, since my partner doesn't have as high of a libido as I do. I'm always begging him for sex.
07/16/2010
Sera Sera
About a month depending.....
07/30/2010
Darling Jen Darling Jen
I chose "Months" because right now I'm in a relationship but my partner has been away for 8 super long, agonizing months and I really NEED some action. But if I weren't in a relationship, I could handle the abstinence better.
08/02/2010
Midway through Midway through
I haven't had sex in 3 years technically speaking, so I can't say much.
08/02/2010
Femme Mystique Femme Mystique
We get really busy... but at a month I'd be going crazy!
08/02/2010
NymphetamineKiss NymphetamineKiss
This one is a little complex for us... for me, I'd like sex every day. My partners sex drive just isn't - and is never going to be - that high.

I answered a couple of weeks though - because, with his sex drive, I'd be happy to get it once a week. It's not the ideal frequency, but it's a frequency I can live with. We have, before, gone over a month. I was climbing the walls.
08/02/2010
Love Buzz Love Buzz
to be a true drought in my opinion it has to be months, granted if you are in a relationship months without sex may seem ridiculous, but still to me a drought is not getting it more than once a month in a relationship, or more than 3 months if Im single
10/06/2010
the bedroom blogger the bedroom blogger
I can go a week without going insane, although I don't like it much. Just because I get super worked up if it's been more than a couple of days doesn't mean it's actually a drought. But any more than a week or so, and I certainly feel like I have been wandering the Sahara.
10/06/2010
the bedroom blogger the bedroom blogger
Quote:
Originally posted by Annemarie
A lull is like... a week.

A drought is like a month.

It's so ironic, since my partner doesn't have as high of a libido as I do. I'm always begging him for sex.
Ugh...ditto. Although, I've noticed that the more we have sex, the more he wants to. I attribute it to my amazing abilities as a lover The more he is reminded that I am the shiz in the sack, the more he wants to bump uglies.
10/06/2010
Hot'n'Bothered Hot'n'Bothered
hmm couple months.
10/06/2010
Viktor Vysheslav Malkin Viktor Vysheslav Malkin
Quote:
Originally posted by El-Jaro
What defines a "sex drought" to you? How long does it have to be before you consider yourself in a drought?
6 Years sounds fair to me!
10/06/2010
RosesThorns RosesThorns
depends on if im in a relationship or not. cause in a relationship 2 wks is totally a drought... if out of a relationship a month.
10/30/2010
Illusional Illusional
I'm in a long distance relationship...so.. things can get hectic..
I still say a few weeks...
10/30/2010
Shellz31 Shellz31
Sometimes Im patient and would just have solo fun, but a week would be pushing it!
Week = EXTREME frustration!
10/31/2010
tigerkate tigerkate
I consider it a drought if it's over a week... because sometimes period-sex just isn't gonna fly. And, if it's beyond that, I get very frisky and demanding. Sneaky, even, I trick-sex.
And now I have to go get an LEEP in a week, which will leave me in a 3-4 week DROUGHT. UGH, I'm gonna cry. Or kill small children.. Hm.
11/01/2010
Raggedy Andie Raggedy Andie
Quote:
Originally posted by tigerkate
I consider it a drought if it's over a week... because sometimes period-sex just isn't gonna fly. And, if it's beyond that, I get very frisky and demanding. Sneaky, even, I trick-sex.
And now I have to go get an LEEP in a week, which ... More
I had to have a LEEP done too and it sucked arse not being able to have sex with my husband. *grumbles*
I think a couple of weeks to a month is pushing it for me. Even when I was single, I couldn't last longer than a month. Thank goodness for friends with benefits? hehe

I have had a simliar situation lately with the whole killing the intimacy drive due to family. My husband's parents and one of his brothers are very religious and I have depression. They (or the brother rather) came to the conclusion that because I am pagan and not christian, I am possesed by the devil. The father won't despute the brother's claims saying that it may have been family in the past that has gotten my spiritually clogged so to speak. His mother suffers from schizophrenia but because she has found jesus, there is NO way she's possesed.
Now, my husband at first had borrowed some questionable books from his brother about psychatrists and their experience with demonic possesion and another one on exorcisms. I found them hidden in the trunk of the car and confronted him.

He in turn, told me he thinks his brother is out to lunch and gave him a good talking to. His brother still thinks I am possesed. His parents think it's a possibility and WHY did my husband have the books in the first place?

I was really upset for a while and had no desire to be intimate with my husband. Thankfully that has changed.

Great first year of marriage I tell ya! :/
11/01/2010
tigerkate tigerkate
Quote:
Originally posted by Raggedy Andie
I had to have a LEEP done too and it sucked arse not being able to have sex with my husband. *grumbles*
I think a couple of weeks to a month is pushing it for me. Even when I was single, I couldn't last longer than a month. Thank goodness for ... More
WOW, that is absolutely crazy... Be careful not to get into an exorcism or anything!

I know when I am struggling with depression, my sex drive normally takes a dive. It's odd, though, because sex does give a kick of endorphins which make me happy. So it's like I resist that little possibility of joy

But since intensive therapy, a little medication, and a lot more activity outside in the sun, (along with eating food), I haven't been struggling as much! And the sex drive is very present.
11/02/2010
CynicallyYours CynicallyYours
it always depends for me. without a partner a drought is months. with a partner, it feels like a drought after about a week.
11/03/2010
Bunnycups Bunnycups
I think it really depends on what kind of relationship you're in. If you're living with your lover or if you're in a long distance relationship really changes sexual expectations.
11/03/2010
Victoria Victoria
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Originally posted by Bunnycups
I think it really depends on what kind of relationship you're in. If you're living with your lover or if you're in a long distance relationship really changes sexual expectations.
Totally true. Living with someone seems to make the time more keenly noticed
11/05/2010
kinky girlfriend kinky girlfriend
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Originally posted by P'Gell
More than 2 or 3 days, and I'm climbing a wall....
well I usually see my boyfriend 1-2 times a week outside work so imagine now I don't even get to see him every week and work with him all day where I can't do anything
11/05/2010
iCouple iCouple
Anything over a week and we can't keep our hands off each other! When that 2 week mark gets close it feels like my clit is going to fall off if it doesn't get some love!!!
11/05/2010
lamira lamira
I think it's months. The longest I have gone without sex with my partner is 3 months, and it was definitely not voluntary.
11/07/2010
pinkzombie pinkzombie
Quote:
Originally posted by El-Jaro
What defines a "sex drought" to you? How long does it have to be before you consider yourself in a drought?
nearing two weeks for sure!
11/08/2010
Latsyrc728 Latsyrc728
I hate to go more than a week. I am lucky enough to have my Hubby home & not have to wait more than that normally (damn, stupid, bloody aunt flow!)
11/09/2010
Redboxbaby Redboxbaby
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Originally posted by Victoria
I vote for keeping it under 24 hours
Amen sister!
11/15/2010
Sex & Coffee Sex & Coffee
Any more than a few days and I get very cranky
11/15/2010
Kimbertrees Kimbertrees
For me it depends on what is going on in my life. If I'm dating someone then going more than a few days would be a drought, but if I'm single then it can be anywhere between a week to a few months, maybe even a year. It really all depends on my frame of mind I guess.
11/20/2010
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