How long constitutes a sex drought?

Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
I'm pleased to report that after 22+ years of being married a 'drought' has gone from weeks to days! Needless to say, I'm very pleased at the improvement
10/26/2011
Contributor: Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama
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Originally posted by Gunsmoke
I'm pleased to report that after 22+ years of being married a 'drought' has gone from weeks to days! Needless to say, I'm very pleased at the improvement
Yeah that. Just went three days because I was sick with a bad cold and had no energy. Drove us both crazy!!!
10/26/2011
Contributor: arewehavingfun? arewehavingfun?
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Originally posted by P'Gell
Oh, BG, I'm so sorry. It's so difficult when you have difficult in-laws, and even worse when your man won't defend you to them. IMO, when you are involved in an intimate relationship your partner comes first and the "family" ... more
I hope you are both doing better. My older sister had something like this with husband #2's adult children. The kids were usually OK to her face, but it was obvious that they hated her because their dad had left mom for my sister. It didn't help any that everytime my sis said something about the kids to her hubby, as soon as they had an arguement about anything hubby would run to the kids and repeat everything that was said. He was so in denial about how his kids felt. Finally, they split (18 years down the tubes....) and "he said, she said..." hubby was surprised when he found out how the kids felt...how could he not? The youngest was 16 when they married and 34 when they split. I say, "get over it".

I can not imagine what it would be like to have "evil" in laws on top of everything else. It makes no sense to me to be so hateful, regardless. When I deal with people like that, I am extra sweet to them...they hate that the most.

BUT...the take away from all this drama is what PG had to say: when you are in an intimate relationship, you take care of each other and that often means standing up to family (unless the partner was in the wrong). I had an in-law issue and they were OK to me. In the end, I was the wrong one and I appologized to my husband. Now, his family would give him the boot if not for me, so it has turned around 100%.

I think when the "evil one" dies, it makes it that much harder to heal. Be strong--both of you and everyone else. Remember: You ARE the better person.
10/27/2011
Contributor: arewehavingfun? arewehavingfun?
Come on now...you may be going crazy after a couple of days, but does that REALLY constitue a drought? If it doesn't rain for a few days or even a week, that is not a drought. Put it all in perspective. I saw a 52 year old woman on Dr. Phil (OK--I admit to watching him occasionally). She met a man, he proposed and the MAN said he was going to respect her virginity and wait until they were married...very soon, but married!! It was sweet.
10/27/2011
Contributor: oldman oldman
To all you fine women with disrespectful men: I wish you all strength and love, from where ever it comes to you.

Be well.
11/02/2011
Contributor: mudpie mudpie
I say as soon as you really want sex and there's no possible partners in the foreseeable future, it's a drought. It's hard not having a steady partner...
11/13/2011
Contributor: Kallisto Kallisto
More than a day for me.
12/20/2011
Contributor: Darklyvan Darklyvan
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Originally posted by El-Jaro
What defines a "sex drought" to you? How long does it have to be before you consider yourself in a drought?
A few days and it seems to have been a while a week is about right for a "drought".
12/20/2011
Contributor: Jaimes Jaimes
Of course I desire it every day or every other day, but I won't call it a "drought" if we go a week without, since I don't think that's the correct usage of the word. Since "drought" implies extreme, I would say that 3 weeks would be the extreme. Even if we aren't doing the wild and crazy stuff, we still break up a slow few days with quickie morning sex or something. But 3 weeks of no contact would feel like a horrible drought.
12/20/2011
Contributor: sexykiss sexykiss
2 weeks
07/17/2012
Contributor: TexasBrat TexasBrat
I'm there. It's been 6 months for me. Longest I have gone.
12/28/2012
Contributor: Martiniman Martiniman
Looking at all of the factors, I'll say 2 weeks. I'm married so that makes sex technically possible every day and night. We have a good marriage and are in love, so that solidifies my first point. However, considering we have children, busy lives, moods and that dreaded time of the month for my wife, I came to the decision that 2 weeks is a drought for me. Then again, this is a totally non-scientific equation I used to come to my answer.
12/28/2012
Contributor: Livia Drew Livia Drew
Gosh, it's been years. Thank you, EF.
12/28/2012
Contributor: Bittenflame Bittenflame
Well I can go months without sex. But maybe a few days without getting cranky if I don't help myself
12/30/2012
Contributor: Pete's Princess Pete's Princess
The sad part is that my longest time was when I was married. To my ex. If only I had seen that I deserved so much better so much sooner.
05/31/2013
Contributor: Stagger13 Stagger13
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Originally posted by El-Jaro
What defines a "sex drought" to you? How long does it have to be before you consider yourself in a drought?
Anything over two weeks...Not a good thing.
06/02/2013