How many sexual partners have you had?

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How many sexual partners have you had?

deceased deceased
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Originally posted by Mamastoys
I hate three...an ex husband (thank goodness he is X), one guy once, then hubby for the last 25-26 years...
Great Freudian slip.....
08/12/2009
Owl Identified Owl Identified
I've had about 10, and I say about because I feel like I'm leaving one or two out. One night stands, even when they are good tend to fade into oblivion after a while so I don't know if am remembering every last encounter. To be safe it'd be better to round up to 12 or maybe 13.

I also need to say that it's really heterosexist for people to dismiss count oral sex as "not counting"...like there MUST be penetration for it to count. I don't like it, nopenopenope, don't like it one bit.

I've also been surprised at the comments that have come off as more than a little judgmental. How many people someone has had sex with doesn't necessarily imply any kind of character attributes. I would imagine of all places that the EF forums would be a place that understood that.
08/21/2009
Colossus Colossus
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Originally posted by Nashville
I know many of my friends and I used to "compare notes" of our sexual partners and how many we had. I had a running tally of how many men my best friend had been with which was remarkably easy to keep because it never exceeded past ...
one partner is kind of boring for me. A lot of times I wish I could experience new people, and new sexual situations, but I guess I shouldn't complain. I've found someone that I really enjoy, and that's something some people never find. I guess I just have to smile and be happy in that
08/22/2009
Rayne Millaray Rayne Millaray
I lost count somewhere around number thirty and have long since forgotten the vast majority of them.
08/29/2009
MattBryant MattBryant
only 2 as far as intercourse goes, 3 if you count oral. passed up some opportunities when i was younger, and sometimes just didnt try hard enough or know the girl was willing till it was to late. a few minor regrets but nothing major. itd be nice if i had had more partners, but im happily in a serious relationship (almost 2 years) that I don't plan on ending. C'est la vie
08/29/2009
WildKimA WildKimA
Ah,the advantages of age. Unless you've been married to the same person for a very long time, the longer you live, the more partners. (Refer back to the "Age is only a Number Poll".)
09/03/2009
Saraid Saraid
I've only had one partner, which is my current boyfriend.
09/11/2009
WildKimA WildKimA
Since I posted this message, I keep remembering more! Like Melen wrote, I've forgotten the vast majority of them (well, I haven't had 30 but I've had more than I said before). LOL
09/11/2009
deceased deceased
I'm old. I have lost track.....
09/11/2009
Darling Dove Darling Dove
I was forced into giving oral to a guy once. I dont believe it counts for my 'number'. Other than that I've only had intercourse with one guy, and hopefully sometime soon I will with my boyfriend.
10/14/2009
JEM JEM
I am shocked at how many are in the 1-3 group!
10/21/2009
NuMe NuMe
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Originally posted by deceased
I'm old. I have lost track.....
LOL! I love that. I think I'll go with that one too.
10/21/2009
El-Jaro El-Jaro
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Originally posted by bodymodboy
I've sucked one too many cocks as well, always safely of course. I've only had one risky situation where I was high and taken advantage of. Taught me a BIG lesson.
how do you know it was one too many? Did you get a notice in the mail? jk
11/03/2009
El-Jaro El-Jaro
I don't think the number really matters. Because you could have sex with 50 different people and still suck at it. Conversely, you could have just one partner and be spectacular.

A number is a number is a number. This does remind me of Clerks a little though.
"37! My girlfriend sucked 37 dicks!"
"In a row?"
11/03/2009
EffinSara EffinSara
I've had five, which doesn't strike me as being either a good or bad thing. I'd love to say that I'm neutral about people's numbers in general, but I am aware of my own judgmental feelings when I hear a number above 15 or 20 or so.
11/03/2009
anelinvader anelinvader
I've had 2 but wish the first one never happend a week after we screwed she cheeted on me and I broke-up then she wanted me back when I said no she tried to stab me she was halled out of the High school in handculf.
My second is my S/O of 13 years I popped her cherry in a ball fied behind the dugout and I have had her ever sence
11/14/2009
Trophyhusband Trophyhusband
In the decade between high school graduation and my wedding (1972-1982) I dated 36 women and was physically intimate with 25 (my wife is #25). My niece is about to become engaged to the only man with whom she has ever had sex and I find that rather sad.
11/16/2009
onezestygal onezestygal
As for you, how many sexual partners have you had? How many do you think is "normal"? How many do you think is "too many"? Have you ever been ashamed of your number or feel like you never got to have as many partners as you should have?

I have had one partner, and I think normal is so subjective - it really depends on the person and their own feelings about their sexuality. If they love to have sex with many different partners - than thats normal for them. If someone wishes they could be more sexual - but are too afraid - thats not normal. (get what I'm saying?)

Now as for me - I happened to start dating my man while I was still a virgin and we both took each other's virginity. I kind of like the idea that we are the only ones that we've had - however I wouldn't object to having more than one partner if this relationship didn't work out. But - I am very satisfied with my current man and have no interest in looking for someone else.
11/16/2009
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
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Originally posted by Nashville
I know many of my friends and I used to "compare notes" of our sexual partners and how many we had. I had a running tally of how many men my best friend had been with which was remarkably easy to keep because it never exceeded past ...
I'll admit to a little guessing - I didn't get married until I was 35 and had a lot of partners guessing 20-30. But I'm happily monogamous for 20+ years and have no desire to go back to when anyone wearing a skirt was a prospect!
11/16/2009
hornymommy hornymommy
Only one
11/19/2009
Chilipepper Chilipepper
Mine's convoluted - my best guy friend in HS who was my First, an ex-boyfriend that I got back with for a one-night-stand not too long after that (we didn't have sex until two years after we broke up LOL), and another guy friend that happened to be there (neither of us were into it, despite trying).

Here's the convoluted part - I am not counting my husband of ten years because we NEVER did anything sexual, not even oral. I think he once caught me masturbating, but he quickly left the room. I know, I'm finding it harder to justify why I stayed with him except to say that my self-esteem was lower than the stock market.

So I recently got divorced, and - lo and behold - I'm back with my best guy friend who more than made up for my inexperience by his own experience and is teaching me. I don't know what the future holds, but I'm having fun. Who needs quantity when the quality is where it's at?
01/03/2010
Kayla Kayla
Wow. 1-3 is most common. I expected higher than that. Just 2 for myself.
01/04/2010
Pandora Prosper Pandora Prosper
There is no normal for any one person. Each person has to determine what the appropraite number of sexual partners is for their lifestyle. As long as people are having safe, consensual sex, what does the number really mean anyway?
01/13/2010
SexyTigerX SexyTigerX
WOW! That's a hard ? to answer.

I think I may not remember quite a few from my wild and crazy years in the 80s and 90s. So, I just had to guess. Put 10 - 20 That sounds good.

But it's most likely a bit more. Oh well?
02/16/2010
xchairitycasex xchairitycasex
I am proud to say that ive only had one partner he was first boyfriend,my first kiss the first guy i ever went on a date with and the guy i really wanted. weve been together 5 years and still doing great. i made him wait a year untill i was 18 before we had sex. i say i am proud becuase i am proud of myself for doing what i wanted to-wait to have sex with someone i trusted. i feel sad at how many girls nowdays have sex for all the wrong reasons (to get a guy to like them,becuase they think he will be with them forever if they do,so they can feel good thinking he will love her more then his previous girlfriend) i mean theres nothing wrong with having sex for sex if thats what you seriously want like my sister always says she just wants sex then crys her eyes out when its nothing more then that. it makes me angry that she doesnt appreciate herself more and respect herself more and say "no im not sleeping with you i want a relationship first" i also respect when i women says all she wants is sex and is honest with herself about it. but theres so many girls out there that feel they have to sleep with a guy before they can have a relationship. hey if your looking for a relationship says so if the guy says screw that then hes not even worth sleeping with (unless hes really cute!) XDXD
02/17/2010
Krysia Krysia
I've always said that I could still count the guys I've slept with with my fingers, but cannot remember how many I have kissed.
02/17/2010
Victoria Victoria
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Originally posted by Chilipepper
Mine's convoluted - my best guy friend in HS who was my First, an ex-boyfriend that I got back with for a one-night-stand not too long after that (we didn't have sex until two years after we broke up LOL), and another guy friend that happened ...
You were married for 10 years and never once had sex with your husband? That sounds like an very interesting article topic. I certainly want to hear more about it. I know that might seem rude - but I have to wonder how it was livable for you both. I hope you see where I am coming from with my curiosity and do not feel offended. Maybe you would consider writing about it?
02/24/2010
Merciful Merciful
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Originally posted by Perish
Wow some has done a 100 people...that blows my mind lolz.
I think that was me. I really don't know the exact number, but I'm pretty damn sure it's way past a hundred.
02/24/2010
Merciful Merciful
Oops...a double post. I didn't see how many pages of comments there were!

I think I'd be the one with a 100+, or one of them anyway. I lost track a long time ago, but averaging it out on a monthly basis was easy. So, way more than a hundred I'm thinking.
02/24/2010
seaofneptune seaofneptune
I only became active almost 2 years ago, so it's only been 1 and if we get married it will stay 1. We aren't interested in being with anyone other than each other. I really don't mind either - I am happy with only being with 1 and that it is with someone I care a lot for.

I don't really think the number is a big deal, like someone said earlier as long as people are smart about it.
02/24/2010
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