Do you identify as Dominant or submissive?

Contributor: TS Julie TS Julie
Love the submissive role
08/11/2016
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Since my 1st post our D/S activities have evolved. We usually start with her as the D - sometimes that works start to finish. But often she gets so worked up from the spanking, flogging, etc - that she 'demands' that I fuck her. Once that happens - its a total switch and I take the D role.

The switch really makes the night so hot for both of us - she'll often have 6-8 orgasms - I usually finish with a hot gush deep in her ass.
08/11/2016
Contributor: Kitten'sMaster Kitten'sMaster
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Originally posted by ToriMae
Just wanting to know more about the kinksters on this site. Are you D or s?
I think my screen name makes it obvious XD
09/14/2016
Contributor: Sugarfina Sugarfina
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Originally posted by ToriMae
Just wanting to know more about the kinksters on this site. Are you D or s?
I am definitely a switch. He gets his turns, I get mine. It depends on what moods we're both in. We have a lot of fun!
09/20/2016
Contributor: LovingIt LovingIt
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Originally posted by ToriMae
Just wanting to know more about the kinksters on this site. Are you D or s?
Would probably be a switch but always end up dominant as my bride likes the submissive side.
11/24/2016
Contributor: Mistress Stefana Mistress Stefana
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Originally posted by ToriMae
Just wanting to know more about the kinksters on this site. Are you D or s?
I am lifestyle and Pro Domme. I have been this way since I cannot remember. I never have felt comfortable in any submissive role. I have always been the Alpha friend that makes you blush and quickly talks you in to things. I was the girlfriend that talked my boyfriends into trying "new things" hey you might like it. I started working its hard to work for other people when I can do it myself. Its like I can't escape my dominant side. But then came my sadistic side along with the Dominance and all hell broke loose!
01/30/2017
Contributor: OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
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Originally posted by Mistress Stefana
I am lifestyle and Pro Domme. I have been this way since I cannot remember. I never have felt comfortable in any submissive role. I have always been the Alpha friend that makes you blush and quickly talks you in to things. I was the girlfriend that ... more
Oh, Sounds so exciting. How are you in your day job. Meaning what field of profession are you in. Managements? That is if you don't mind me asking.
01/30/2017
Contributor: tammyandy69 tammyandy69
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Originally posted by ToriMae
Just wanting to know more about the kinksters on this site. Are you D or s?
I am the dominate and my partner is my sub
02/03/2017
Contributor: Serenity7827 Serenity7827
submissive
07/02/2017
Contributor: AmethystQueen AmethystQueen
I am definitely a switch! I take very well to being in charge, but also play the submissive role....although a bratty baby girl usually comes out.
07/28/2017
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
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Originally posted by AmethystQueen
I am definitely a switch! I take very well to being in charge, but also play the submissive role....although a bratty baby girl usually comes out.
We switch as well - once in a while she just wants to be 'taken'. When given the opportunity I won't let her quit until she couldn't possibly have another orgasm. On a 'hot' night she'll get into double-digits before begging me to stop!
07/28/2017
Contributor: Crazyscreamer Crazyscreamer
Totally a sub. Have been known to switch when begged but don't enjoy it.
09/18/2017
Contributor: Crazyscreamer Crazyscreamer
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Originally posted by symbiasin
At first before I looked at the whole S&D thing, I thought in no freaking way submissive like that....allowing every person to tell me what to do. Am I right that the sub person chooses the dom?
Amazingly, contrary to belief, the sub has the power. They choose their Dom, they say what can and can't be done to them, and with a safe word, they can say when play is over.
09/18/2017
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
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Originally posted by Crazyscreamer
Amazingly, contrary to belief, the sub has the power. They choose their Dom, they say what can and can't be done to them, and with a safe word, they can say when play is over.
What you describe is called topping-from-the-botto m.

When we first started playing with D/s - it was all about me asking her to do things. However, I find that as she ahs become more comfortable in her roll, I am doing less - letting her control the scene, tempo, etc.

We haven't had a safe word 'til now, but the bruises on my thighs lead me to think that we might need one soon!
09/18/2017
Contributor: ReverieReviews ReverieReviews
I am most definitely the submissive in my relationship, which is great since my SO is a dom I only refer to him as my SO on site, instead of Master as I do in our chats, because that's something I like to keep just between him and I.

Although my submissive nature primarily applies to sexual scenarios only. I'm not really on board for my SO to try dictating the rest of my life or dealing out punishments for what he may consider "bad behavior" - he has plenty of bad behaviors himself I know I'd like to have corrected!

So I guess I want to be coddled and loved and treated as an equal by day, and then be tied to the bed and shown who's boss by night
09/18/2017
Contributor: ReverieReviews ReverieReviews
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Originally posted by Gunsmoke
What you describe is called topping-from-the-botto m.

When we first started playing with D/s - it was all about me asking her to do things. However, I find that as she ahs become more comfortable in her roll, I am doing less - letting her ... more
Bruises on your thighs?? Dang!!

While I am the sub in my relationship I'm not keen on pain, so I couldn't imagine letting things go so far as to leave bruises.
09/18/2017
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
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Originally posted by ReverieReviews
Bruises on your thighs?? Dang!!

While I am the sub in my relationship I'm not keen on pain, so I couldn't imagine letting things go so far as to leave bruises.
Yea - that was a new one for us. Honestly she was more freaked out than me. I wouldn't even let her see them for a few days. She's been rather careful since then.
09/18/2017
Contributor: Lena Eden Lena Eden
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Originally posted by Gunsmoke
Yea - that was a new one for us. Honestly she was more freaked out than me. I wouldn't even let her see them for a few days. She's been rather careful since then.
Do you use a Stop word during your D/S play?
09/20/2017
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
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Originally posted by Lena Eden
Do you use a Stop word during your D/S play?
We don't need a fancy code - "stop" is clear enough. The problem is that the strokes that caused the bruises were not too painful for me - so I didn't ask her to stop.

It's taken quite a bit of convincing her to get into D/s, so I'm disinclined to restrain her when she gets into the flow.

I fully expect her to self-restrain - and I'll be back to whispering "harder please".
09/20/2017
Contributor: dominatrixNY dominatrixNY
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Originally posted by OH&W, Lovebears
Used to be D, but now sometimes enjoying S.
Does that make me choice # 3 switch/other ??
I am dominant and located in Manhattan, New York and i love to be in control, i love spanking, strap-on play, cuckolding and much more. It is a big turn on to play with a sub and get a nice body worship session
09/21/2017
Contributor: OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
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Originally posted by dominatrixNY
I am dominant and located in Manhattan, New York and i love to be in control, i love spanking, strap-on play, cuckolding and much more. It is a big turn on to play with a sub and get a nice body worship session
Body worship yeah who doesn't love that So, I'm thinking you have some nice black leather outfits, quality harnesses and vast variety of dildoes

Do you cuckold for a fee, pleasure or teach them a lesson
09/21/2017
Contributor: Stormysmagick69 Stormysmagick69
Definitely 100% submissive but I am trying to get better and more confident as being the Dominant recently.
12/30/2017
Contributor: MissKee MissKee
Proud Domme, here. I'm glad to see so many folks of different kink backgrounds and interests!
12/30/2017
Contributor: OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
Domme women rule
12/30/2017
Contributor: lilbopeepin lilbopeepin
I was never comfortable being a submissive, now I’m with a guy I can be myself with and have totallly turned Dominant. He lets me explore and try new things with him. Just ordered a few new things today!!!
01/11/2018
Contributor: dominatrixNY dominatrixNY
I am dominant and i love to be in control.
01/16/2018