I like to hit hard, but with past partners, they've not really been able to take it. Luckily, my girl seems to like being hit hard, just not over an extended period of time.
How hard do you play?
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ditto anything that draws blood or piercing, or leaving marks is off limits for us.
Originally posted by
Luscious Lily
We're very much BDSM babies. We're still learning what we like, but so far anything that truly hurts is off limits. We may work up to it some day, but right now? We'll both pass on the heavy hitting, please and thank you!
Feb 7, 12:59 am
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You could do few practice sessions where there are no bondage materials in use (no ropes, restraints, cuffs, tape, etc). Just ask him to sit in a chair, and put his hands behind his back and try to lock his fingers. Then you can work your way by teasing and slowly showing him whatever you would like to be eventually done to you. It is probably a more comfortable introduction to BDSM than showing him leather cuffs outright
Originally posted by
UsaBoxBabe
With my late husband I liked our sex rough now & then - fight, bite, struggle to hold onto each other then hard and fast - great orgasms for both of us. It wasn't for every day sex but lots of fun when we did.
I have never wanted to be ...
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With my late husband I liked our sex rough now & then - fight, bite, struggle to hold onto each other then hard and fast - great orgasms for both of us. It wasn't for every day sex but lots of fun when we did.
I have never wanted to be submissive to any man but now I have a new man and I want him to dominate me. I've never owned cuffs - much less use them - but I bought nice white leather wrist & ankle cuffs and I love to just wear them - I like the feel of them. I also bought two pair of Sportcuffs for him - they are less intimidating then leather with a quick release velcro closure. Also I discovered that the o-rings on them won't stand up to any thrashing. I tried them out pulling on them and was left with two unuseable "U" shaped rings. I showed them to him to ease his mind about not having any control although with a safe word I can let him loose in just a few seconds.
We aren't sexually active yet unless you count masturbating and phone sex. He is sexually inexperinced (strange because he's 46) and has never engaged in rough sex much less bondage although when just making out he will bite me if I ask.
He was leary of the Sportcuffs and downright freaked when I bought the white leather cuffs. He did say he'd rather tie me up in bed rather that use the new door jam cuffs (more new Sportsheets) so that's a good sign but he doesn't have a clue what to do once I'm tied up. I hope he'll let me restrain him first. This will give him some ideas - I hope. I'd like to show him some of my toys and how I like them to be used. More ideas for him. Ought to rent 9 1/2 weeks to watch together. More ideas.
Eventually I hope he will become comfortable enough to spank me; I never tried that either but I want it from him.
All very new to me but I want to try this. Any suggestions on how to ease the man's mind and get him in the bed would be very much appreciated!
I have never wanted to be submissive to any man but now I have a new man and I want him to dominate me. I've never owned cuffs - much less use them - but I bought nice white leather wrist & ankle cuffs and I love to just wear them - I like the feel of them. I also bought two pair of Sportcuffs for him - they are less intimidating then leather with a quick release velcro closure. Also I discovered that the o-rings on them won't stand up to any thrashing. I tried them out pulling on them and was left with two unuseable "U" shaped rings. I showed them to him to ease his mind about not having any control although with a safe word I can let him loose in just a few seconds.
We aren't sexually active yet unless you count masturbating and phone sex. He is sexually inexperinced (strange because he's 46) and has never engaged in rough sex much less bondage although when just making out he will bite me if I ask.
He was leary of the Sportcuffs and downright freaked when I bought the white leather cuffs. He did say he'd rather tie me up in bed rather that use the new door jam cuffs (more new Sportsheets) so that's a good sign but he doesn't have a clue what to do once I'm tied up. I hope he'll let me restrain him first. This will give him some ideas - I hope. I'd like to show him some of my toys and how I like them to be used. More ideas for him. Ought to rent 9 1/2 weeks to watch together. More ideas.
Eventually I hope he will become comfortable enough to spank me; I never tried that either but I want it from him.
All very new to me but I want to try this. Any suggestions on how to ease the man's mind and get him in the bed would be very much appreciated!
Feb 7, 1:10 am
